FIL comments

ArcticFox

I am so annoyed with my FIL with his comments.  Seriously, every time he comes over he makes some comment about how my DD doesn't need anything else.  "Jokingly", but not.  She has a play area stuffed with toys, but I can honestly say I have only ever bought her a few toys.  I have friends who pass their toys on to us, a play house I bought on Craigs List for next to nothing, and my friend works at a library and gives me tons of book donations (awesome books, but they can't use a lot since they either have so many copies of those books or they don't want them).  And this is why I can't stand his comments - I start to "defend myself" - but there is no reason for me to do so!

It irritates me because he has never once given either child a card or gift in their lifetime, so I don't need to hear his crappy loaded comments about how they have everything they need.  Perhaps a card I could scrapbook so they could see it in the future, or perhaps he could come here more than 4x a year and I could get a photo of him with the kids.  Snarky comments about money are not appreciated!

wendyj

Does your DH say anything to him? Seems like you shouldn't have to defend yourself.

If you still have to say anything, you could maybe say something like, "Well, I think it's great that DDs have people in their lives that think that much of them to want to give them things."

abba916

Maybe he makes the comments to deflect his bad feelings about never giving your kids a gift...

You can never win these type of situations- so its best just to let it roll off your back and ignore it or say, "yes my children are very lucky." and be done with it.