Bothered by developments

AdamsGirl81305

Normally I try to not compare my girls to FT babies because I know they are going to develop differently.  But, tonight it is really bugging me.  We went to check out a daycare tonight and said that the girls are just starting to sit up, but still topple over occasionally.  I said that the girls are not even attempting to put themselves into a sitting position yet.  Her response was "yeah, they should be doing that now."  Ugg.  It's not easy knowing that the girls are over 8 months old and just now sitting, with our help.  One is doing and army crawl thing on her tummy, the other just stretches to reach things.  If they are out of her reach, she gives up.  I want my babies to be "normal" and do things on time.  I don't know why the preemie delays are bothering me so much tonight.  I am giving myself a little pity party here and feel guilty that they are behind.

Mrs. Destructo

Hang in there, sweets. I promise, as they get older it gets a lot easier. Don't beat yourself up - your girls are doing GREAT, and they'll be just as rough and tumble as their peers before you know it.

TriciaJoy

I understand, babe. It is hard. And some days are way harder than others. I kinda want to throatpunch the lady who said that. I realize she's probably right, but you know what? STFU, I already know.

 

JessAndi

People need to keep their mouths shut.  Seriously.  And I totally get you - I want my baby to smile at me more than anything!  And then I see on Facebook a friend's baby who was full-term and born after Richie smiling away.  It's frustrating, but I keep telling myself it will happen.

lemen99

I know it's hard!  But remember they are only 6 months old, adj right?  They are not behind for a 6 month old!

 (hugs) though and what an idiotic comment from someone!  She was flat out wrong and insensitive.

 

 

Rachel&Joe

i know it's hard, but please please try not to get discouraged when your girls are reaching their milestones according to their adjusted age.  It is so hard when you tell people "they are 8 months old" & they point all these things 8 month olds should be doing.  it just does not work that way.  and if you are concerned about them at all, definitely call early intervention.  it's free & they will assign therapists to work with your girls to help them get caught up.  good luck & hang in there!

AviatorJJ

it's ok to throw a pity party. i do it too. but i think this may be a great opportunity for you to kind of educate them what preemies go through and what to expect developmentally from a preemie. or maybe this wasn't a good fit for you and your babes and you need to find a place that already knows about the whole preemie thing?