been missing for a while

aquadolph

Hey everyone. Just checking in to see what's going on. I have been under the radar for a bit. TTC has been waaaay more of a roller coaster that I expected. If anyone told me that it would be the fourth month and there would be no baby, I would be like "yeah right!".
Whatever happened to being knocked up? I find myself wishing for some morning sickness, some boob tenderness, something!
All the literature keeps saying, enjoy it, make it fun, and spicy. Whom ever wrote that, were they being serious, or I am guessing they never had to try for a baby for too long? Maybe the first month everything is nice and exciting, you buy the lingerie you make it interesting, but I have to tell you, after 4 months, it just becomes...
ME: "crap, I have to fit this in today" and you find your self waking up your significant other at 1am... ME: "honey, we can't miss a day"...DH..."did I sleep through work"...ME: "LOL. Go back to sleep". Can you blame him?! LOL. I would ask me that same thing too.

All I want to know is, how can that Dougar lady get 18, and some of us have to try so hard for just one?!!!!

Kristin&Adam

I'm sorry you're having a hard time with it Are you charting?  I found that it really helped me, kind of made me feel more empowered about the whole process.

Komie

I have to say I totally with you on this. We had a very hard time TTC. We actually had been through infertility treatments and nothing happened. We decided to stop treatment and take it easy. It doesn't mean we were not trying. We just feel a bit more comfortable of non-kid family and try to do it the old fashion way. My DH has been keeping chart about my ovulations and he made some valid comments. We tried it his way and BAM...I'm now pregnant.

I know it hard to listen to people telling you to take it easy when all you can think is TTC. I didn't think I can do it either, however, when we cut a little looser, it seems to get better. Keep your hope up and good luck.

aquadolph

Kristin&Adam:

I'm sorry you're having a hard time with it Are you charting?  I found that it really helped me, kind of made me feel more empowered about the whole process.

 I have been charting. It feels as if I am back in math class . I don't even know what to make of this TTC. When we started trying 01/08 (then we stopped 3 months later because we were changing jobs and moving) my AF went from totally reliable clock work to being late, and even missing a whole month one time!  Then it slowly went back to normal after we stopped trying. Now it is all kinds of whacked out. Now I cramp for 2 weeks on a straight, and went from 30 days to 36! This happened right off the bat when we started trying again. I am trying to see what happens this fourth month and I have been charting so that when I go to my OBGN I will have something relevant to say besides "my AF is off".

aquadolph

Komie:

I have to say I totally with you on this. We had a very hard time TTC. We actually had been through infertility treatments and nothing happened. We decided to stop treatment and take it easy. It doesn't mean we were not trying. We just feel a bit more comfortable of non-kid family and try to do it the old fashion way. My DH has been keeping chart about my ovulations and he made some valid comments. We tried it his way and BAM...I'm now pregnant.

I know it hard to listen to people telling you to take it easy when all you can think is TTC. I didn't think I can do it either, however, when we cut a little looser, it seems to get better. Keep your hope up and good luck.

 

Thanks Komie. I have trying to log my info into fertilityfriend.com. I know I am not the only frustrated TTCer out there, but it feels so hard because I have no one to gripe to but DH (as we are not telling our families, not even my BFF), and I don't want to stress him too much.

Congrats on your little bundle BTW

Kristin&Adam

You can post the link to your chart here and we can tell you if we see anything (I became a chart reading pro when I was TTC!).. have you ventured over to the Getting Pregnant board?  Those girls were an amazing support system for me when I was TTC and were awesome at tracking down issues in my cycle for me.

aquadolph

I didn't even know that you can post a link from there. I will check it out. Thanks I will also check the TTC board.

BTW, Happy Thanksgiving!! 

Komie

Yeah, if you can post your chart here, we might be to help. We are not an expert but we had been doing it for a while. Thanks for your kind words and good luck.

aquadolph

I GOT 2 LITTLE PINK LINES!!!

Kristin&Adam

aquadolph:

I GOT 2 LITTLE PINK LINES!!!

Yay!!  Congratulations!!!