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Tchaikov32

My DH is the most loyal, kind and affectionate man I've ever known, but for some reason I keep having these dreams of him kissing other people, divorcing me or getting other people's telephone numbers.  Is it common to have abandonment dreams even though consciously I don't worry about this at all?!!  It's driving me insane!!!!!

bananasmomma

I had a dream that my DH got an employee pregnant.  He is an HR manager, so this was really weird.  I told him about and we both laughed.  I am not a jealous person in any way (I used to be big time).  Has to be the hormones...or some of the posts recently about a$$hole DH's on this board.

Liss_37

I keep having these dreams too. He cheats on me in them, tells me that he's cheating, tells me that he doesn't love me anymore, or we're splitting up

i've never thought my dh would cheat, and i still don't. i trust him implicitly and i know he's my soul mate.

that being said apparently it's completely normal, that it's our subconscious worrying about how our relationship will adjust to parenthood and all the changes that go with it.

makes me feel a bit better knowing it's normal but i still hate those freakin dreams.

MandyWes

I've had a ton of these dreams! I'm glad I'm not the only one... I totally trust him and we are definitely soul mates/best friends. My DH gets p*ssed when I tell him about them though.

I think my self confidence went down a bit when I gained a bit of weight after we'd been together for about 6 months or so, that's when I started having them. They were worse before our wedding but now I'm having ones where I'm cheating on him, while being pregnant! Gross

jhenry1204

I keep having dreams that I am going to die.  In fact, I woke up from a death dream last night because I heard "someone say" "How do you want to die"... needless to say it was all part of the dream... but it really freaked me out.  Ick, I'm tired of death dreams and bad mother dreams....

shalonda973

I read that dreams like that while pregnant, come from your changing body. Mentally and physically. You might be worried about your appearance and how your husband see you. Its totally natural. DH needs to make sure he gives you that security that you need and more hugs. Tell you that your beautiful. He should understand that your changing and you need him more then anything right now.

Thats also reason why some women stop having sex because of their insecurities. Just know that you give off positive and negative vibes. so your husband will feel that too. If you keep complaining your fat or breast look like your grandmas or whatever. He will eventually believe that too. Its a mind thing. Just like a new song come out, and you keep listening to it after awhile it grows on you.?

All I'm trying to say is stay positive about yourself. Your DH will feed off your energy and give you all the positive reinforcement you need. Your dreams should have a turn around after this is happening.

I hope this helped a little.?

Tchaikov32

shalonda973:

I read that dreams like that while pregnant, come from your changing body. Mentally and physically. You might be worried about your appearance and how your husband see you. Its totally natural. DH needs to make sure he gives you that security that you need and more hugs. Tell you that your beautiful. He should understand that your changing and you need him more then anything right now.

Thats also reason why some women stop having sex because of their insecurities. Just know that you give off positive and negative vibes. so your husband will feel that too. If you keep complaining your fat or breast look like your grandmas or whatever. He will eventually believe that too. Its a mind thing. Just like a new song come out, and you keep listening to it after awhile it grows on you. 

All I'm trying to say is stay positive about yourself. Your DH will feed off your energy and give you all the positive reinforcement you need. Your dreams should have a turn around after this is happening.

I hope this helped a little. 

Actually that makes sense because I am viewing myself in a less attractive manner these days.  Particularly when we have sex.  He constantly assures me he's more attracted to me now than ever before, but those insecurities are just still there.  I'll have to ponder this one for a while.  Thanks for the therapy session!

karaokerampergirl

I've been having dreams like this too, which are so so silly. My DH would never cheat, he's loved me since he was 19 and though we didn't get together then (I was scared of forever at 17) When I tracked him down last year, he immediately was telling everyone that he was going to marry me. His feelings hadn't changed at all over the years.
I had a dream the other night that he was working in europe for some reason and fell in love with someone there and came back so confused that he ran away. and then one last night that I can't quite remember but it had the same feeling to it. Dreams are crazy!!

shalonda973

Tchaikov32:

shalonda973:

I read that dreams like that while pregnant, come from your changing body. Mentally and physically. You might be worried about your appearance and how your husband see you. Its totally natural. DH needs to make sure he gives you that security that you need and more hugs. Tell you that your beautiful. He should understand that your changing and you need him more then anything right now.

Thats also reason why some women stop having sex because of their insecurities. Just know that you give off positive and negative vibes. so your husband will feel that too. If you keep complaining your fat or breast look like your grandmas or whatever. He will eventually believe that too. Its a mind thing. Just like a new song come out, and you keep listening to it after awhile it grows on you.?

All I'm trying to say is stay positive about yourself. Your DH will feed off your energy and give you all the positive reinforcement you need. Your dreams should have a turn around after this is happening.

I hope this helped a little.?

Actually that makes sense because I am viewing myself in a less attractive manner these days.? Particularly when we have sex.? He constantly assures me he's more attracted to me now than ever before, but those insecurities are just still there.? I'll have to ponder this one for a while.? Thanks for the therapy session!

?Anytime!!! I've been through this quite a few times and i read al ot. Glad I could help?

vpena7

I have had similar dreams through out my pregnancy and usually kick him in the morning when i wake up lol.... i think having weird dreams is just part of the package.