Babies: 0 - 3 Months

DH thinks DS doesn't like my BM! vent

DH really hurt my feelings tonight. He thinks that because our son has had 3 episodes of crying/gas since yesterday morning that DS doesn't like my BM. I haven't changed my diet and I think its just trapped gas and he eventually gets it worked out. He really hurt my feelings. My self-esteem is already pretty low, but now I'm just heart broken and devastated. Its a challenge for me to BF and now DH thinks its my fault DS is upset and wants me to give him formula. I'm crushed.

Re: DH thinks DS doesn't like my BM! vent

  • Its not your fault. There will be episodes when DD would not take my milk either. What I have learned is that if I eat something spicy or with garlic can cause this. Also... is there any chance you're pregnant? That could be a reason too.
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  • OMG, if my DH said that there would be trouble!  How insensitive!  Even if he thought that he should keep it to himself... babies are just fussy sometimes!  no advice, just wanted to tell you I feel your pain!
  • That is both hurtful and unnecessary.  I'm sorry he isn't being more sensitive.  It's not your BM!  Babies fuss.
  • Tell him to shove it. Dont' listen to him. BM has so many good things. DS was really gassy for awhile too.
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  • Maybe explain to him how emotional and difficult BFing is in the beginning and instead of being insensitive you could really use his support.  

    It's not your fault and your LO likes your BM, of course he does, you're his Mommy!!  Maybe you did eat something, but most likely you're right and he's having some gas.  

    There could be other reasons too, why he's not taking your milk.  I've had a lot of issues with BFing, over active letdown, LO has reflux and a milk protein intolerance.  It was really hard in the beginning and there were times I felt as though DD and I weren't compatible for BFing.  It was devastating.  But I kept with it and now it's so rewarding.  She still has moments where she pulls off screaming, but now I know what the problem is.

    Keep with it and don't let anyone discourage you. 

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