Call me old fashioned, but...

pbhennessy

isn't it sort of a major faux-pas to throw yourself a baby shower???  I got an invite in the mail from the parents-to-be for a baby shower honoring themselves, RSVP is to them, registry info included, everything.  Really???  

PeetiePie

Yup - I agree.

sydney0928

Wow, yeah I don't think that is supposed to happen. Tacky!

B2BMN

Yup, that's weird!

MrsDCruz

Hmmm...

JaimieLee

Oh yeah, that is definitely not right.

momagain2009

Yeah, that's just weird. 

KelzinBoston

I think it wouldn't be tacky if they called it a baby welcoming party and declined gifts (or something like that).  But throwing it themselves and including a registry is a little distasteful.

 

shall923

Don't they have friends that would do it for them. That seems tacky and kind of sad.

cintim

Yikes!

My favorite is 2nd baby showers! Where I'm from, you get one big one (or maybe 2, like work baby shower and family/friends baby shower) for your first child. Where I live now, EVERYONE has a baby shower for their first and second child, no matter if the babies are the same sex or if the babies are 1 year apart. Strange.

?Jacqueline?

Yes it is!

Cow-girl

I had a friend that did that because she was very particular about what she wanted...  I think it is extremely tacky!

KelleyBean

Do they not have friends willing to throw them one? That makes me sad.

?Jacqueline?

KelleyBean:

Do they not have friends willing to throw them one? That makes me sad.

I don't have any friends around me to throw me one, but I sure as hell won't be doing it myself or begging someone to do it for me.

KelleyBean

I get it. I wouldn't either but I'd still be bummed about it. I'm a sap like that though.

babygirlpriest

My friend was a (strong) silent partner planning a last hurrah/celebrate the baby party/shower = FINE

Solo hosting, calling it a shower and including registry = TACKY

And ditto - do they not have friends? Of course, the tackiness displayed in throwing yourself a shower might be a good indicator of WHY you don't have friends.

pbhennessy

KelzinBoston:

I think it wouldn't be tacky if they called it a baby welcoming party and declined gifts (or something like that).  But throwing it themselves and including a registry is a little distasteful.

 

Yes, this exactly.  I think the idea of parents throwing a party welcoming baby is cute, but i don't think I would put registry info on my own invites. 

KelzinBoston

?Jacqueline?:

KelleyBean:

Do they not have friends willing to throw them one? That makes me sad.

I don't have any friends around me to throw me one, but I sure as hell won't be doing it myself or begging someone to do it for me.

I was in this boat since I'm not from Boston originally.  I did have a friend offer to help (and she was amazing) and my MIL technically threw me the shower but she was useless.  I don't even know why she offered since DH did ALL of the set up and we ended up paying for the catering.  Money wasn't the issue...I just felt so tacky.  Reason #4098 why I hate this woman.

pbhennessy

shall923:

Don't they have friends that would do it for them. That seems tacky and kind of sad.

Well that's the thing-- this isn't the only shower.  She's having one back home, and this one is for her local friends.  As to friends throwing it for her.... she starting making it known that she was doing this like months ago (before anyone would really start thinking about organizing something)... so she sort of took it out of any of our hands. 

priya&peter

pbhennessy:

KelzinBoston:

I think it wouldn't be tacky if they called it a baby welcoming party and declined gifts (or something like that).  But throwing it themselves and including a registry is a little distasteful.

 

Yes, this exactly.  I think the idea of parents throwing a party welcoming baby is cute, but i don't think I would put registry info on my own invites. 

yea, i don't think we're going to have a shower if i ever get KU again.  I think after the baby is born we'll throw a meet the baby at our house but would never include registry info.  IMO including registry information whenever you are throwing a party for youself = tacky.

?Jacqueline?

KelzinBoston:

?Jacqueline?:

KelleyBean:

Do they not have friends willing to throw them one? That makes me sad.

I don't have any friends around me to throw me one, but I sure as hell won't be doing it myself or begging someone to do it for me.

I was in this boat since I'm not from Boston originally.  I did have a friend offer to help (and she was amazing) and my MIL technically threw me the shower but she was useless.  I don't even know why she offered since DH did ALL of the set up and we ended up paying for the catering.  Money wasn't the issue...I just felt so tacky.  Reason #4098 why I hate this woman.

Ughh, sorry, I don't see why she threw one either if your DH did all the work.My ILs live close by but I can't imagine my MIL throwing me one without some sort of drama.  I just have a few acquaintances around here but no one real close that would do that or would I expect it. 

ShellShockedMama

?Jacqueline?:

Ughh, sorry, I don't see why she threw one either if your DH did all the work.My ILs live close by but I can't imagine my MIL throwing me one without some sort of drama.  I just have a few acquaintances around here but no one real close that would do that or would I expect it. 

I'll throw you one!!! You're in FL right? (unless I'm completely off my nut) OoOOoOo that'd be fun.

:::runs off to plan a strangers party::: hehehehe.

CLAYLIOVER

VERY tacky. Obviously they have friends if they send out invites.

Cissi64

Very tacky!  Might as well say "GIVE ME STUFF!"

As to the shower for second-child-issue.  Friends threw us one for our fourth but it was because the third was almost 8 years older and the opposite sex.  I didn't feel guilty because the first 3 were adopted from foster care and no one even thought of giving us a shower for them..even when the adoption was final because "Well, you're getting paid to take care of them, right?"  Yeah but that  ends when you sign the adoption agreement and before finalization.  Just a token acknowledgement woudl have been nice and that is all that anyone should expect for subsequent children, also.

?Jacqueline?

ShellShockedMama:

?Jacqueline?:

Ughh, sorry, I don't see why she threw one either if your DH did all the work.My ILs live close by but I can't imagine my MIL throwing me one without some sort of drama.  I just have a few acquaintances around here but no one real close that would do that or would I expect it. 

I'll throw you one!!! You're in FL right? (unless I'm completely off my nut) OoOOoOo that'd be fun.

:::runs off to plan a strangers party::: hehehehe.

Haha!  Yes, I am over in Tampa Bay.

Here is a picture of me, so we are not strangers.

 

 

ShellShockedMama

?Jacqueline?:

ShellShockedMama:

?Jacqueline?:

Ughh, sorry, I don't see why she threw one either if your DH did all the work.My ILs live close by but I can't imagine my MIL throwing me one without some sort of drama.  I just have a few acquaintances around here but no one real close that would do that or would I expect it. 

I'll throw you one!!! You're in FL right? (unless I'm completely off my nut) OoOOoOo that'd be fun.

:::runs off to plan a strangers party::: hehehehe.

Haha!  Yes, I am over in Tampa Bay.

Here is a picture of me, so we are not strangers.

 

HAHAHAHAaaaaaaaaaa omg. You're sexay. And I love tampa bayl. i went to University of Tampa and used to live on Davis Island. I would give anything to move back. I miss it there.

But, I'm TOTALLY serious about throwing you a party. I'd totally do it. I love party planning.

On a side note, have you ever been to Keel & Curley winery in Plant City? They have amazing blueberry wine (not that you can appreciate that NOW, but maybe in 7 or 8 months or so)

cintim

ShellShockedMama:

?Jacqueline?:

ShellShockedMama:

?Jacqueline?:

Ughh, sorry, I don't see why she threw one either if your DH did all the work.My ILs live close by but I can't imagine my MIL throwing me one without some sort of drama.  I just have a few acquaintances around here but no one real close that would do that or would I expect it. 

I'll throw you one!!! You're in FL right? (unless I'm completely off my nut) OoOOoOo that'd be fun.

:::runs off to plan a strangers party::: hehehehe.

Haha!  Yes, I am over in Tampa Bay.

Here is a picture of me, so we are not strangers.

 

HAHAHAHAaaaaaaaaaa omg. You're sexay. And I love tampa bayl. i went to University of Tampa and used to live on Davis Island. I would give anything to move back. I miss it there.

But, I'm TOTALLY serious about throwing you a party. I'd totally do it. I love party planning.

On a side note, have you ever been to Keel & Curley winery in Plant City? They have amazing blueberry wine (not that you can appreciate that NOW, but maybe in 7 or 8 months or so)

I'm not too far either... I'll help too!

?Jacqueline?

cintim:

ShellShockedMama:

?Jacqueline?:

ShellShockedMama:

?Jacqueline?:

Ughh, sorry, I don't see why she threw one either if your DH did all the work.My ILs live close by but I can't imagine my MIL throwing me one without some sort of drama.  I just have a few acquaintances around here but no one real close that would do that or would I expect it. 

I'll throw you one!!! You're in FL right? (unless I'm completely off my nut) OoOOoOo that'd be fun.

:::runs off to plan a strangers party::: hehehehe.

Haha!  Yes, I am over in Tampa Bay.

Here is a picture of me, so we are not strangers.

 

HAHAHAHAaaaaaaaaaa omg. You're sexay. And I love tampa bayl. i went to University of Tampa and used to live on Davis Island. I would give anything to move back. I miss it there.

But, I'm TOTALLY serious about throwing you a party. I'd totally do it. I love party planning.

On a side note, have you ever been to Keel & Curley winery in Plant City? They have amazing blueberry wine (not that you can appreciate that NOW, but maybe in 7 or 8 months or so)

I'm not too far either... I'll help too!

You guys are so sweet, and thank you so much for the offer but I am sure something will work out. I won't really think about it for awhile either.

SSM- I have never been to that winery but I have tried some fruit wines that they were selling over at the Pier in St. Petersburg. I think they were from the Plant City area. Davis Island is really nice, I like that area. I did a whole lot of drunk walking there during Gasparilla. I have no idea how I got over there.  I live over in "da burg" as Texas would call it.

teulu07

YUP I do  not like putting registry info on there. Everyone knows you are registered and will ask.. Why do we have to put a big sign that says.. buy me a present and buy it here!

I had to put it on the invitations for the baby shower I am throwing for my friend because the other person throwing it insisted.

Leah11599

Wow! Somebody is full of themselves!

ReiszsPieces

wow... where I come from, we call this TACKY!!!

ReiszsPieces

ShellShockedMama:

?Jacqueline?:

Ughh, sorry, I don't see why she threw one either if your DH did all the work.My ILs live close by but I can't imagine my MIL throwing me one without some sort of drama.  I just have a few acquaintances around here but no one real close that would do that or would I expect it. 

I'll throw you one!!! You're in FL right? (unless I'm completely off my nut) OoOOoOo that'd be fun.

:::runs off to plan a strangers party::: hehehehe.

Ohh, I'm in FL too... lemme help?

cintim

Cissi64:

Very tacky!  Might as well say "GIVE ME STUFF!"

As to the shower for second-child-issue.  Friends threw us one for our fourth but it was because the third was almost 8 years older and the opposite sex.  I didn't feel guilty because the first 3 were adopted from foster care and no one even thought of giving us a shower for them..even when the adoption was final because "Well, you're getting paid to take care of them, right?"  Yeah but that  ends when you sign the adoption agreement and before finalization.  Just a token acknowledgement woudl have been nice and that is all that anyone should expect for subsequent children, also.

That is a completely different story!! I'm talking 2 children born 3 years apart, same sex, with showers for each! It's just done down here and I found it totally odd!

TravelinMama

Ahhhhh TACKY!!!!!!!!!!!

I'd be all in my right mind to just NOT GO!!!!!!

candycane3t

simply tacky