Would you use a name that had a NN you hated?

MrsWindyCity

DH and I both really like the name Patrick. If we named our son Patrick, we would 100% call him Patrick and in the beginning, we would ask others to do the same.

But of course eventually he will  have friends, etc. who may start calling him Pat. I really hate the name Pat.

So, would you use a name you liked if you hated the potential NN? 

CHI-06

I wouldn't

sunnyday016

Probably not, but I really love Patrick!

whitneyj988

Probably not

 

MrsWindyCity

For the record, I am saying no and DH thinks I'm crazy so I'm glad to see that (at least so far) I'm not  

ubermoose

I don't think Pat is an automatic nickname for Patrick. Besides, I think Pat is more of an "adult" nickname, I don't think people will naturally call a little one Pat.

queenbone

I did.  I am combating that by calling him by the nn I love.  But I know one day people may use the other (or he might like it for that matter). 

Patrick is a hard name.  I love it in full, but shortened for a boy or girls isn't appealing for me.  I have SNL flashbacks.

Ciconrad

DS is Joseph an I detest Joey.  I would be seriously annoyed if anyone referred to him as Joey.  (Not a big fan of Joe either - but Joey is worse, IMO).  We call him Joseph an tell everyone his name is Joseph and have had no problems so far.  Once he gets into school it will obviously be more difficult to control but at some point he is going to have to decide if he is ok with a nn or not.  If he is in  highschool and wants to go by Joey, then I won't really have a say anymore.  He'll always be Joseph to me though.

sunnyday016

Ciconrad:

DS is Joseph an I detest Joey.  I would be seriously annoyed if anyone referred to him as Joey.  (Not a big fan of Joe either - but Joey is worse, IMO).  We call him Joseph an tell everyone his name is Joseph and have had no problems so far.  Once he gets into school it will obviously be more difficult to control but at some point he is going to have to decide if he is ok with a nn or not.  If he is in  highschool and wants to go by Joey, then I won't really have a say anymore.  He'll always be Joseph to me though.

We're in a similar, yet completely opposite boat. We only call her Sophie, and tell everyone her name is Sophie. It's not that I dislike Sophia (I did give her that name, afterall) it's just that I love Sophie so much more. I think Sophia is more formal and I did want her to have a formal name.

Qmommy

Yes I would name my child a name even if I didn't like a nickname that could go with it. 

 

wheelenl

Only if it had another obvious NN I liked: example, Charlie instead of Chuck.

johannaknip

I would. I think you are the one's that will set the tone for what this baby will go by. If people call him Pat, let them know it's Patrick. I agree with PP, if he wants to go by Pat later in life, so be it.

mlf625

We did. ?We named DS Anderson because I love the name and it's in honor of my grandmother (her maiden name). ?I'm not a fan of the name Andy at ALL. ?Plus, my name is Mandie and the thought of being Mandie and Andy makes me cringe. ?But I still went with the name because I know I will never, ever call him Andy. ?If he goes to school and chooses to go by that, fine, but at home he'll be Anderson. ?

Plus, there's no guarantee the nn will ever be used. ?DH is Jonathan and has never been called Jon- his parents always used his full name so at school, he corrected his friends who shortened his name. ?Same goes for my brother Michael. ?

ReiszsPieces

never

MrsCFB

yes i would.

if i didn't like the NN that typically went with my kid's name, i would just insist that everyone call my kid by their given name and refrain from using the NN.

my name has a NN that i don't like - it's never been a problem.  if people try to call me by the NN, i tell them that i only go by my full name.

future_mrs.lambdin

Probably not. Maybe use it as a mn?

Wymasa

No, I wouldn't. I know eventually, they are going to be called by either what they prefer or what their friends call them and I know I will hear it a lot in the teenage years. I'm sure it would grow on me but I am name obsessed so I am making sure I like the name and all possible nicknames associated with it.

SeaStar430

My first reaction is no, but I've had lots of Patrick friends and would never DREAM of calling any of them Pat.

Harms80

I wouldn't and I've always been annoyed by parents who insist beyond reason that their child is called by the full name.  I had a friend in high school named Daniel who's parents were this way.  He wanted to be called Dan at school and his parents would reprimand any of his friends who didn't call him Daniel.  ANNOYING!!!

K2thaT

I do like the name Patrick. I despise Pat. Makes me think

BBachmann

Nope

shopgirl_07

Nope, especially not with Patrick, where Pat is the obvious nickname. I loathe the name Pat.

WheelerToBe

I wouldn't but I am like sunnyday01, we named our kids because we like the nn.  My son is Mackenzie but he is called Mack and introduced as Mack.  Only doctors call him by his real name.  However a lot of teen call there friends my a shortened name.  But my 2 brother in laws are Micheal and Patrick and no one shortens their names but for my husband because everyone he knows shorts their name so he said he just can't help himself.

Annabelle81

Yes, I think others will call him what you call him if you are consistant.  I have a friend with a 2 year old son named John Thomas.  He goes by John Thomas and no one has used any nicknames for him yet so it can work.  (A bit formal for a toddler if you ask me).

KristinKD

Probably.

DH is James, and it wasn't until his adult life that people started calling him Jim even when he introduces himself as James. He just corrects them when it happens.

I have a cousin named Patrick who we've always called Patrick.

mlgd

I've always liked the name Patrick, but the "Pat" thing is the one thing that I always think about. I hate that nn too. However, if you love the name enough I think you should use it. I've known quite a few Patricks, and almost all of them were called "Patrick" until they hit adulthood... some of them go by Pat now, but that was their choice.

cupcake_queen

No I wouldn't because that would annoy the sh!t out of me.

naflmj

I don't know but my mom HATES the nn Nikki and they still named me Nicole, making it clear that my name was Nicole. Some people would call me Nikki as I got older and I just corrected them because I also didn't like Nikki, never a problem. If your son likes Pat, then it is inevitable but I think you can control it to a certain degree.

tnpjuly04

This is too funny.  DH's name is Patrick, but EVERYONE (except his mom, and g-ma) call him Pat.  MIL HATES that we all call him Pat.  Now, I would be more than happy to call him Patrick, but he was always called Pat to me, he introduced himself as Pat to me, whatever.  And, I think Pat is cute, but I must be partial to it.

That being said, I would not name my child something with an automatic nickname (like Pat from Patrick), especially if I didn't like the nickname.  You can't control what others will call him - regardless.  Yes, you can try (and believe me MIL STILL tries), but chances are he will get a nickname in school, from teachers, from friends, etc.  You aren't even 100% safe with a "nickname-free" name.  My DD#1 is Nora and her nickname is Non-ie ... from her friends at daycare.  Can't win.

I was thinking of naming this LO Edward, but I hate Eddie.  We nixed it just because of the potential for that nickname.

JulieCarolyn

I would use the name.  You have every right to correct people who are calling your son by the wrong name.  When I have students with names like Elizabeth (or another name that is commonly shortened) I always ask what they go by. 

Corinneallyson

I wouldn't...it's inevitable. That's why DD isn't Jocelyn.

renafaith

Most people call you what you tell them you want to be called. Therefore, if your son grows up and says "Hi, I'm Patrick", people will call him Patrick. If he says "Hi, I'm Pat" then, that is what he wants to be called and he should have that choice. So, my answer to your question is, yes. I would. Just call him what you want others to call him.

pinkflipflops44

Name him what you love, refer to hiim as only patrick and if some day he decides to go by a nickname, it's his choice.

layla1704

I wouldnt

Mrs. J

Probably not. 

I'm with you on loving Patrick but not Pat. 

PhilsWife07

Yes. If your son also didn't like the nickname Pat, he would tell his friends not to call him that.

hersheykiss

Nope. It took us almost 9 months to come up with the baby names we finally decided to use for that very reason. If either one of us hated the NN, it was thrown out.

cathylynn1213

What if you determine the NN-- maybe you could generally call him Patrick, but give him the NN Rick (which is much better than Pat, IMO), and then if someone calls him Pat you could correct them and say that he goes by Rick.

MandyWes

Qmommy:

Yes I would name my child a name even if I didn't like a nickname that could go with it. 

 

This, I'd just make sure everyone knew his name was Patrick, not Pat.

mrsseguin

No, I wouldn't.  It would drive me nuts to hear the nn if that's what people ended up calling him/her.

soon2Bmrspower

Patrick was one of the 3 names we went into the delivery room with for DS#2. I absolutely love it! We didn't like Pat either though, and that was one of the main reasons we didn't choose this name. I think I actually would have been able to use Patrick even though I strongly dislike Pat, but my DH just couldn't do it.