So sick of people telling me how I feel/will feel!

MrsPatterson

Other moms tell me I will be exhausted, overwhelmed, etc.  People at work tell me I will be a basket case of emotion when I return to work after leave, and also that I will be trying to be Super Woman.  My mom tells me I'm a ball of anxiety and will be a mess if I keep it up.  Stop telling me how I will feel or act people!  Just because YOU felt a certain way doesn't mean I will, and even if I do feel that way, just let me feel it instead of smugly trying to predict my emotional future.  Ok, deep breath....vent over.     

RebandJake

AMEN times 10000.   Offering friendly advice is one thing but trying to scare me or being all gloom and doom is just annoying.  Let me have my experience!  Jeez

HisKathy

yeah, I'm so sick of that too.  As a matter of fact I'm getting pretty sick of people talking to me in general   They rarely have anything useful to say that I haven't heard a million times and I'm so sick of answering the same questions.  I should get a T-shirt that says:

I'm due around Halloween
It's a boy
It's my first
I'm not sharing names (this one is getting harder and harder and I can't help but feel like a *** for not telling people, but it's my choice, dammit)

WearingRed

Right ON SISTER!

LCTL05

I think it's funny how some people think that they way they experienced things is the way EVERYONE else will! 

 

On the sunny side of things, I never felt sleep deprived with dd - she slept through the night by 7 weeks - and before that, I tried to get sleep when she would.  And I was ready to go back to work, I was sad when I dropped her off for the first time, but the 2nd day, I was good.  So - you don't have to have the same horrible experience that everyone else has. 

Most of it is the outlook you have on the situation.  Go in with a positive attitidue, and you'll likely have a positive experience.  And vice versa - if you're a negative nilly - you're setting yourself up with those expectations!

mbss

A -freaking-MEN.

I know it will be hard and I know it will try my last nerve but I've also wanted this baby more than anything. I'm just praying I'll find solace in that during my darkest hours.

mybobble

Yup, I agree! Just because it happened to be X way for them they just assume it's going to be the same for you or I. Let us experience this for ourselves and decide on our own!

RebandJake

LCTL05:

Most of it is the outlook you have on the situation.  Go in with a positive attitidue, and you'll likely have a positive experience.  And vice versa - if you're a negative nilly - you're setting yourself up with those expectations!

Brilliance!  I totally agree.

saverne

MrsPatterson:

My mom tells me I'm a ball of anxiety and will be a mess if I keep it up.     

I get this from both of my parents too, and it annoys me soo much!  I can't hardly talk about baby related things with them, unless it is all "puppies and rainbows," without them saying something like this!  I was just informing my dad about the SIDS risk of sleeping on the stomach and he started in on me.

What is it with parents saying this?  Its like they have forgotten the anticipation of waiting for a baby.  I am not stressed or anxious, just really excited and trying to be prepared.  They mistake my preparation for anxiety.