1st Preg at 41(1st tri) - Any good advice

ralph&juanita

Hi.  I can't tell you how little advice I will receive from my friends and family right now because none of them know I am pregnant.  I don't have a mother in my life either. I'm 41,  I have a MIL-to be, but my fiance's mom doesn't yet know.  We want to wait to get out of that hugely popular danger zone...but I tellya, it's getting tough to wait because I'm sooooo happy...

 Can you offer me some wisdom, especially relating to age differences (being over 35) - possible do's or do overs, or don'ts, but had to...or how to decrease any potential risks related to our age...

 

Thanks Smileyface for reminded me about this group of which I fully belong...lol

mama.bear

Congratulations and welcome.

We're neighbors! I'm 40 and live in Leesburg.

My best advice would be to stay put. This is a great board. Lovely, supportive women on this board. We're glad to have you!

Kari

cheekyali

Congrats! I am 38 and pg with #1 after IVF as well. I lost my Mom almost a year ago, so I also feel very alone in this too. This board is a little slow but the women are great. Good luck to you.

shelby9201

Congrats and welcome!  My best advice to you is relax and enjoy it all!  Educate yourself, and don't let anyone pigeon hole you into being a statistic.  Definitely find a doctor or midwfie that "gets" you.  Unless you have an underlying medical condition that requires additional care, there should be no reason for you to not have a perfectly happy and healthy pregnancy!

This board rocks!!!

lilacfritz

Congrats on your pregnancy!  Taking good care of yourself - eating healthy, getting some exercise (that was hard for me in the first tri because I was exhausted) resting, etc.  will help no matter what your age.  And enjoy this amazing experience!  

KirstieC

Hooray! Congrats!!! I'm 40 (39 when I conceived) and pregnant with my 1st. When I first found out at 6 weeks I gave myself the liberty of telling 2 close friends for 2 reasons. A) These 2 friends both have kids and I wanted to hear their advice, and In the case I did have a miscarriage, I wanted to have some sort of female support system around me.

Have a happy and  healthy pregnancy!!!

ladyphoto

Congrats and welcome!  My main advice would be to get a simple book like "what to expect when you're expecting".  It's well written, easy to read, and really lists all the do's and don'ts... although they list every single don't, many of us that have done this before don't stick to every single "don't".  When in doubt ask us, we'll give our two cents.

I will say another peice of advice- especially since this is your first and because of your age (no offense!  I'm 40 too)  please rest and rest often.  You will not belive how tired your body will feel- especially in this first trimester- do not feel guilty about taking it easy... I'm an "on the go" type of person and I had to train myself to take naps and rest- now I've gotten used to it and I'm a bit too loungy I'd say, but do take advantage of your resting times.

Most of all, ENJOY!

Rebecca

leffe1

I just wanted to say congrats and welcome. The only wisdom I have to offer is enjoy your pregnancy. There will be lots of worries but so many women have healthy pregnancies at our age. I was treated no different due to my age (37 at time of conception, now 38). They do offer more testing when you are over 35.

serrill2

I just turned 42 this month.  Congratulations on your BFP!

We didn't tell many people we were expecting until around 11 wks.  If you have any questions, or just need to vent, we are here for you!

Welcome aboard

Julia-Henry

Congrats and welcome!

ralph&juanita

Thank you so much ladies.  Appreciate the kind words and well wishes, most of all the welcome.  I am enjoying being pregnant more than anything!

Worcbride

Congrats!  I was 38 when I had DD and will be 40 when DS arrives.  Don't really have any advice except to ENJOY! 

debbadebbadoo711

Congrats!  I am 37 and on my 1st pregnancy.  I also lost my mom this year. 

Since I'm still "new" I don't have a lot of good advice yet.  I am having a very "sick" first trimester, and I am just trying to make it through so I can enjoy being pregnant!

Start reading some pregnancy books. I like "What to Expect" for the basics and "The morning sickness companion" has really helped me through some tough times.  Don't be afraid to ask your doctor questions.

 

 

tkcarnes

Congratulation and I hope you have a healthy and happy pregnancy!