Does your LO look like you? Vent inside as well...

Zeener

Or does he/she look a lot like DH?

A few friends kept making jokes this weekendthat I look more like Tay?s nanny since she looks SO much like DH. ?You?re agreat nanny??.?you?re around a lot for a nanny.? She looks so much like mike?yadayada.

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I played it off and joked along with them,saying things like ?if it wasn?t for these extra 20lbs I can?t lose, I?d guessthat she wasn?t my baby either?.

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Truth of the matter is, I?m kinda bummed shedoesn?t look anything like me!

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Dh tried to make me feel better and say thatshe has my chin. Great, we share chins.

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Does not looking like LO bug you at all??

KellyMRocks

you know, I read somewhere that babies tend to look like their daddy so that it would help daddy with bonding.

My DH is a blond and blue eyed dane. I am a half mexican brunette with dark eyes. G looks JUST LIKE his daddy. I always said that people must thing I am the nanny, since we look nothing alike. As he got older though people have started telling me they see more of my features in him.

KellyMRocks

P.S. Love the siggy! She is adorable!

jsugrin

When Andrew was little so many people who say that he looked just like DH, one friend even said to me"where does he get the redish hair?" ummm I guess the fact that his hair is the exact color of mine didn't register?  Now that he's older he totally looks like me, but I'm surprised at how often people say he looks just like DH.  Now Cooper on the other hand is a DH mini me through and through.  He looks nothing like me and I've had people ask if I'm babysitting him.

If people made nanny type comments to me I would just flat out say, hey I know you're teasing but enough is enough already.

alibee09

My daughter is the spitting image of my husband (although she doesn't have a goatee). No one has ever said those nanny comments to me, though... wow, people are just thoughtless. They do make a lot of "well, I guess you know it's your's, then, B!" comments instead. (!?!)

 

When we have our next kid I'm going to say, "Well, we wanted to name him/her after her father, which is why we're calling him/her 'Milkman Poolboy S'."

alibee09

Also, check out this entry I wrote after taking a poll about it here on the Nest.

pink.dutch.tulips

rosie has my eyes .. shape and color .. but the rest of her is a carbon copy of her dad, his brothers and all of the neices and nephews on THAT side of the family.

 her saving grace is that people look at her long skinny fingers and at my long skinny fingers and realize that yes she's mine :P

mcunningham

i have dark brown hair/green eyes - and my son has blond hair/blue eyes (exactly like my husband). he is a complete spitting image of my husband, even the body type and it doesnt really bother me at all. i think my husband loves it

Mrs.BoomBoom

My 1st looks JUST like me.  Her adoptive parents are greek and white (british) one of their adoptive kids looks like him, one looks like her.

mrscerruti2be

I guess there is some inherent thing that makes us want our children to look like us.  I really didn't care if he looked like me, but I wanted him to look like my side of the family.  Is that vain?  People tell me all the time that he looks just like my husband.  I just don't see it.  I think he looks just like my oldest brother.

I have to be honest and say that I would rather he get more of my physical traits than dh's.  That is vain, but honest.

 Oh, and those nanny comments are just stupid and insensitive.

MrsEmm

I struggled with this a bit with my oldest. Her dad is vietnamese so his darker eyes & hair were very dominant - as shes gotten older people have started to tell me she looks a lot like me - they change so much as they grow. People are lame sometimes and think theyre being silly with those comments.

And FWIW - K & I totally have?the?same chin too!! haha.

Either way - you've got a beautiful little girl on your hands!! try to ignore them.?

EmmieB

I've read that about newborns looking like their fathers at first, too.

After that I think it's a case of dominant genes. 

That's my $.02.

MrsEmm

oh and i was excited that when I got married my next child had a greater chance at looking like me (since DH is dark hair & grn eyed like me) but guess what?? I got a blonde hair - blue eyed baby that still somehow looks like her daddy more than me!!! lol!?

Mrs.K&C

KellyMRocks:

you know, I read somewhere that babies tend to look like their daddy so that it would help daddy with bonding.

This - 

She may start to look more like you as she gets older. DD used to look only like DH - there wasn't a hint of me in there. The comments didn't really bother me too much, except for the fact that since she is an IVF baby there really is a chance that she isn't biologically mine...but once her personality started coming out it was clear there was no mistake in the lab. And, as she's gotten older, she physically has some of my traits as well. 

pink.dutch.tulips

rosie has my eyes .. shape and color .. but the rest of her is a carbon copy of her dad, his brothers and all of the neices and nephews on THAT side of the family.

 her saving grace is that people look at her long skinny fingers and at my long skinny fingers and realize that yes she's mine :P

futrkingsley

DS was born looking very much like his daddy and his daddy was thrilled.  I was too, but mostly because he had dimples like me.   But as he's grown some, it's obvious to everyone that he lookes more like me. He has my hair, my chin, my ears, my hands (which are just like my dad's).  He even has more of my mannerisms than Dh's. 

Thankfully it's not a contest and the baby really just looks like themselves anyway, right?

Zeener

MrsEmm:

oh and i was excited that when I got married my next child had a greater chance at looking like me (since DH is dark hair & grn eyed like me) but guess what?? I got a blonde hair - blue eyed baby that still somehow looks like her daddy more than me!!! lol!

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LOL! (and LOL about the matching chin) What is it about our lil girls and our chins?

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Zeener

I can't wait to see what she looks like when she gets older. She's the cutest baby in the world (of course i'm biased here, lol) and I love her just the same if she's DH's carbon copy.

Between the nanny comments and the many comments of FB that she looks like DH, i'm like, seriously? Are my hips the only proof that I gave birth to this child? LOL!!!

If looking like DH helps them bond....I definitely believe it. DH is such a good dad! We have a little daddy's girl on our hands!?

Zeener

MrsEmm:

I struggled with this a bit with my oldest. Her dad is vietnamese so his darker eyes & hair were very dominant - as shes gotten older people have started to tell me she looks a lot like me - they change so much as they grow. People are lame sometimes and think theyre being silly with those comments.

And FWIW - K & I totally have?the?same chin too!! haha.

Either way - you've got a beautiful little girl on your hands!! try to ignore them.?

oh, and BTW...BOTH your DDs are beautiful! You have a really beautiful family!?

SeasonalCook

When E was born I thought she looked just like DH. Her little lips and chin were a carbon copy of his. Now that she's a toddler, people tell me she looks more like me. And it's really nice to hear. When she was a baby, I hated hearing, "ohhhh she's so cute. she looks just like her father." Great.

BlissfulGurl

I dont think A looks like me at all, she has DH coloring and light brown hair.  I'm sure people think I'm her nanny but oh well, she's mine and spent 8 months in my belly!

ZoeMay06

DD looks exactly like her dad. I always say that if I hadn't actually seen her come out of my body, I'd wonder who her mom was but that there's NO doubt who her daddy is. As she gets older though, people tell me that she's starting to look a little more like me. I still don't see it though. The weird thing is, she looks just like my mom did when she was a baby, and is somehow still a carbon copy of DH.

StefandTodd

I went to a friend's baby shower Saturday, and two other friends had their 2 year old daughters there.  They both look like spitting image carbon copies of their daddies.  Like, crazy.  Except for one friend's little girl has her mommies chin.  haha.  Just had to chime in b/c it was reeeeeally crazy how obvious and apparent it is.  The other one (who doesn't have mommies chin)...her dad was at the shower towards the end and I commented, "wow, R...she looks sooo much like you..." and he said "really?  Everyone says that, but I don't see it?...maybe if we gave her a goatee..?"...but then, his wife/her momma said she definitely sees it.  Really interesting.

everydayeve

My DD looks like my husband spawned her and I had nothing to do with the process. I always say that if I hadn't pushed her out myself, I would think I had nothing to do with making her. That said, I love when people tell me that anything on Eve looks even a bit like me. A girl at the mall said that she had my eye shape last week and I think I scared her with my profuse thank you's.

And just to prove my point: https://everydayeve.blogspot.com/2009/06/talk-with-elephants.html

quesarah

DS was a clone of DH when he was first born.  I mean it looked like I had no part in it other than carrying DH's clone.  Hah.  As he's gotten older though, I've heard more comments about how he's starting to look like a mix of both of us.

soon2Bkranz

I agree with what KellyMarie said...I know Tony loves that Jonathan looks like him...takes away the guesswork on if I cheated LOL

ALso JLK obviously doesnt share any of my physical charactersistcs, although as you know we look alike. And that "look alike" is happening more and more and it will for you to.

Because she makes the same faces I do...uses her hands the same way I do...etc..And I can actually see myself in her now!

So just be patient and wait to see how she changes..it will happen

Oh and tell your friends you dont apprecuiate what they are saying..thats ok to do

HisMrs07

I would of been pissed, i'm sorry they were being so rude. saying it once ok, ha ha but any more than that is taking it too far.

i get soooo much that she looks like dh, which i hate. if she wasnt born with dark hair im sure i would be getting the same remarks. my sister is the only one who says she looks like me lol i think she says it to make me feel better.

im so curious to see her grow up and to see whos features start to come out. of course i want mine. I look exactly like my mom but i was #3 and my mom looks just like her mom but my mom was also #3 so maybe I will have to have 3 to get my clone lol

she does have my fingers though which is funny.. i cant really tell anything else, some people say she might have my eyes but its so hard to tell right now. i have a feeling she will look like dh though, so oh well. i just pray she keeps her dark hair 

m&m818

I'm dark, hispanic, dark hair... DD is pale, white and light hair with blue eyes. I've been asked if I was the nanny 3 different times by random strangers. It sucks.

I wanted my daughter to have darked skin, just so I don't have to worry about the sun/burn issue. I do wish she looked more like me. I really do wish I had a more witty response when people say, "Oh she must be all daddy".

 

quesarah

m&m818:

I'm dark, hispanic, dark hair... DD is pale, white and light hair with blue eyes. I've been asked if I was the nanny 3 different times by random strangers. It sucks.

I wanted my daughter to have darked skin, just so I don't have to worry about the sun/burn issue. I do wish she looked more like me. I really do wish I had a more witty response when people say, "Oh she must be all daddy".

 

I think M looks so much like you!!

ashleyhuney

DS looks just like me....and my DH....and even weirder DH and I looked alike when we were babes   If any of our kids doesn't look just like us it would be a surprise, we are both mixes of all ethnicities to the point where we just look like mutts.  J does have fab strawberry blonde hair from somewhere back on the family tree - I was born with dark almost black hair and DH blonde but we both are medium brown now.

 

tri_bride05

M looks just like me - my whole family really - and nothing like DH's side. Everyone is always telling us. It bugs DH and I think his dad too, since for the first 6 months or so he would drag out baby pictures of DH and BIL at every opportunity in an attempt to convince somebody that M looked like his side of the family. He finally gave up.

tri-reader

No, it doesn't bug me.  I kept thinking she was switched at the hospital becuase she didn't really look like DH either.  But alas both my kids look alike so no switch.  But no one really gave us grief about it so I guess that's why I'm not too worried.  With Ethan everyone says he looks like DH and I joke that the only thing strong from my genes that passed through was my eczema, lol.  I'm just happy both my children are gorgeous. 

august20th

LO looks nothing like me -- she's the spitting image of DH as a baby. Interesting since we have the same eye and hair color (DH and I) but the baby seriously looks like him and his side of the family.  The only feature I've been told she has of mine is my chin! So I so know how you feel. But she is adorable

dblhappiness

It doesn't really bug me as much as it baffles me. I was sure that some of my dominant genes would come through on the boys, ie dark hair and eyes. But they had reddish blond hair in the beginning then it lightened up to blond last year only to have it darken to what looks like DH. Both of the boys resemble DH so much that we call them his mini-me's. Every once in awhile I will see me in them...but overall they are very much like DH.