its good for baby's lungs to cry it out

wifeypooh

If I hear my FIL say this one more time, I may punch him. And I really appreciate the fact that he says he let DH's cousins daughter do it all the time. That means FIL will not be watching M.

ChefBrit

I have had a few older generations tell me exactly this.. my grandmother for 1, and an older Hispanic man i work with told me this as well..

mommy411

My mom and MIL say this but when DD cry they pick her up 1st!~

katlizabeth

My FIL told me that when ds was 7 weeks...exactly why I wouldn't let him alone with ds at that point. 

FMIL&MOB

Tell your FIL:

As for crying being healthy for baby's lungs? Kitzinger and Taubman both agree the advice is "stupid and inappropriate." In her book, Crying Baby, Sleepless Nights, Sandy Jones elaborates, "The real truth is that crying is hard on a baby, and it uses up his limited resources. Although young babies can't help crying, you can tell it is self-punishing behavior. When a baby's cries aren't stopped, his arms and legs tighten, his mouth gets dry, his lips start to turn blue, his lungs probably ache, his blood pressure goes up, the veins in his head may swell and even break, and his blood oxygen level starts to go down, not up." 

My opinion is they cry for a reason and I can think of nothing better to do with my time than to comfort them. It is cruel to let them cry, it teaches them they can't depend on you and doesn't promote attachment. Breaks my heart that my generation even thinks this myth is logical.