DH might have been right.

ILoveBoys

So the doggie's been back for a few hours. DH is less than happy. It comes out that he was looking forward to us being able to go on these work trips with him (all for a week) in the spring, and he's really sad we won't be able to go now. He's super bummed. What do I do???

Mrs.Hubbard

I am sure you could board the dog at a vet's office or something so you could go.

ILoveBoys

Well we can't afford to board her. They are really high around where we live. I guess he's just going to have to get over it huh? She went to the shelter and then came back once already. She's staying.

Right now he's not really talking to me though. He says his mom will be super disappointed that we are not going to come down a week in jan and a week in feb when he travels. We can't go bc of the dog. I think he will eventually get over it??  He says that everything is right in my world right now (bc shes back) but that its the only one. That everyone else is going to be disappointed we got her back. How do I deal with that??

Mrs.Hubbard

Our dog goes with us if we go visit mil. I feel bad for you that the dog seems to be causing you so much turmoil. I guess I am just lucky that we have family that lives close and will take care of Max and that everyone knows he is part of our family so sometimes if you want the rest of us you get him too.

kada626

Your dog is back?? I'm bet he is happy!

I wouldn't worry about other people's disappointed. The dog was only gone for what a day? They'll get over it. 

If going to visit your DH's mom is a big concern just try to save up a bit to kennel the dog or take her with you. I think if you shop it you can find a reasonable price.  

ILoveBoys

Yes, the dog is back. I couldn't stand it and made my dh go get her back today. She's a little nervous and not quite settled, so trying to pay lots of attention to her. I just talked to DH and he said she doesnt bother him that much, maybe he just needs to start spending more time with her too. MIL offered to pay for the kennel when we would come visit her, we told her no way lol.

Dh said he thought i wanted to go with him on those two trips and see people from back home (family), and not stay in Minnesota where its going to be super cold. When he realized i didnt want to travel with him as much as he wanted me to travel, that made him sad. I felt bad. But we're going to see everyone in november and december. Then my parents are coming up the first part of february and his parents are going to see us in feb or march sometime. I'd rather stay home and sleep in my own bed, especially if we have luck with ttc this month or next and i'm several months pg. I won't want to be on the road 14 hrs plus!

ecoppins

It sounds like the dog is kinda an excuse or at least only part of the problem. You don't really want to go, which makes perfect sense to me considering how stressful traveling is esp when pg. 

We have friends who watch our dog occasionally while we're gone, but we really don't travel that much. If you want to go, you could ask some friends to watch the dog on the cheap, or as a swapped favor.  

kada626

Sounds like you'll have a lot of visiting going on in the next few months. I wouldn't want to travel to much being pregnant either.

If it makes you feel better, I have dog issues too. My dog is 19 yrs old & has been going potty in the house multiple times a day. Between work, diapers, taking T to the bathroom & cleaning dog messes I'm going crazy. I'm assuming because of her age she won't have too much longer.