Advice needed...

swtmely

A good friend of mine recently moved to FL with her husband and were staying at her aunt's house. Something happened there that they had to leave and didnt have a place to stay so DH and I offered our place for them to stay until they could get their act together. They have been there since last Saturday and already DH is starting to regret having told them they could crash at our place... I need to tell them they need to go but dont know how. I can always pull my friend to the side and tell her that her being there is causing a lot of problems between DH and I, but know this will create a problem on its own... I really don't know what to do... They have other family here but for some reason don't want to bother them. I know I was the one who offered but somehow I got cornered into it (there was a lot of crying involved and crying always wins me over...)

Ahhhhh, I feel like calling my mom and asking her to handle the situation for me. Like she used to when I was a little kid... Can I do that? Can I?

Dani123

Hmmm, is there a particular reason its bothering DH? Something they can fix?  Did you guys discuss a timeline or anything? Do they have a plan? etc.  Who moves to another state without condusive arrangements? lol

swtmely

They do!

And DH and I are stupid enough to offer our house... ahhhhhh!!!!

Dani123

Yikes!  So are they just annoying or doing "something" to piss you off?

momofolivia

I would just sit down with your friend and say what are your plans? Let's work out a plan together for a move out in two weeks.  Do you need help apartment hunting?  Just approach it very matter of factly.  They *cannot* live with you forever, and you are just stating this fact.

If she starts crying, then she is manipulating you and you need to push it to one week.

Saige&John

momofolivia:

I would just sit down with your friend and say what are your plans? Let's work out a plan together for a move out in two weeks.  Do you need help apartment hunting?  Just approach it very matter of factly.  They *cannot* live with you forever, and you are just stating this fact.

This.  Just be very straight forward - she knows she isn't going to live with you forever, and it's your every right to know what he plan is.  I would not tell her it's causing probs b/t you and DH.  Too much drama.  Just be very matter of fact.