vasectomy

soontobecapek

anybody's DH decide he was done with kids? DH told me today he was done with kids and wanted to get a vasectomy. I'm 21 and totally not sure im done.... to make it worse my aunt told him it was a good idea... anybody's DH decide this and then budge or did they remain set on it?

brittneycc1982

I WISH he would get one! I know I am done, but I think he still wants to try for a boy someday.... not happening.

kellnbri

DH only wanted 2 kids.  I said if DD was a boy I would like to try for a 3rd to hoepfully get a girl.  Well DD turned out to be a girl so we didn't have to fight in our house about having a third.  She was born in October and DH had his vasectomy in December.  I told him I wouldn't do anything permanent to myself just in case. 

kellnbri

Oh and he thought it was very cool that he went to the same doctors that re-attached John Wayne Bobbit's pen!s

soontobecapek

kellnbri:

Oh and he thought it was very cool that he went to the same doctors that re-attached John Wayne Bobbit's pen!s

lol that made me literally giggle... I know we'll have one of each, I'm just not sure I'm ready to say I'm done for good KWIM?

Sept17.05Bride

My DH told me the other day that he would get a V after this baby arrives.  DH and I are both on the same page, and only want 2 kids (for money reasons, and because I totally have middle-child complex!), so this will for sure be it for us!  However, since I had a c-section with DS, and will for this baby also, I think I will get my tubes tied during delivery instead of him getting a vasectomy.

soontobecapek

Sept17.05Bride:

My DH told me the other day that he would get a V after this baby arrives.  DH and I are both on the same page, and only want 2 kids (for money reasons, and because I totally have middle-child complex!), so this will for sure be it for us!  However, since I had a c-section with DS, and will for this baby also, I think I will get my tubes tied during delivery instead of him getting a vasectomy.

my aunt did that after baby #4, she knew she had to have a C-section so she figured it was easier that way

j_hope

Dh wants one so bad..he's been talking about it since before I had Claire.  He has never wanted more than two kids.  Realistically, I don't really want more than 2 kids either, but it just seems so final!  I told him he's not allowed to get a vasectomy until Claire's at least 6 months old.  Between lack of sleep and a toddler/newborn there's no way we are thinking clearly in regards to having a 3rd )  I'm sure we will be done w/ the two girls (he isn't one of those guys that has to have a boy...two girls is just fine w/ him), but I just don't want to rush into any decision too quickly.

Max'smom

DH is pretty set on only having two kids. He said that he wanted a vassectomy. I told him I am not ready to do anything premenant until we KNOW for sure we are both done. He respected that we should both be done for sure. I don't know that he will budge on having a thrid but I want the option on the table. 

I would just have a serious talk with your DH about it.

ilovemygirls

Well, it's a problem if HE decides he's done w/kids but the two of you haven't discussed it together.  That being said, we have some friends who are a lot younger than us who married very young & had their kids young & very close together.  The guy got a vas before he was 25- they were SO done & very set on that.  Fast forward about five years- they decided that they weren't done, their family didn't feel 'complete' anymore.  I didn't ask detailed questions, but I think he either had a successful reversal or they did some kind of fertility txmt because they are now expecting #3 and are thrilled about it. 

The moral of the story is- vasectomy in many cases is permanent and final, reversals are not a guarantee.  Knowing how much I changed & life changed from my 20s to now almost 40s- that is a very permanent decision to make at a very young age.  There are plenty of other ways to prevent pg long term.  Best of luck to you both with this decision. 

MrsDB

i don't think that's a deicision he can (or should at least) make without your input. How old is he?

triplea1819

how old is he?  I would think you being 21 may not be done.  If you were older, then maybe.. 

soontobecapek

sorry ladies, he's 23... and thats exactly my point, he can express thats how he feels, but he shouldnt make that decision for me..

Saige&John

I think both of you need to be on the same page.  Can you use another method until you're both ready for that decision (IUD, BCPs?)  I got an IUD and it was wonderful.  Didn't have to think about BCPs or have any weird hormones making me crazy    And depending on which one you get, it lasts 5 or 10 years.  Seems like you need something a little more temporary until decisions are agreed upon.