Baby Shower Blues..

MamaMandaW

long story short- this is my 2nd pregnancy, different gender, 2y5m apart.  I did not want a baby shower, but was persuaded by ALL family and friends that I have to and to stop being modest just because it's your 2nd.. etc, etc..

So finally when my BF, MIL and Aunt volunteered to throw a baby shower for me "whether I liked it or not", i came around to it and got excited about it being pink and girly (opposed to my sons co-ed baby shower blue and sports themed).. this was going to be a small intimate ladies only get together..

well... i'm 26 weeks and nothing... I don't know a date, or thoughts of anything.. and whenever I mention this the hostesses they go, "ya we should probably figure that out"

Not that I need a baby shower, or even expected one- I'm just kinda bummed that it most likely fell thru..

I think the big dilemma that is causing issues is that no one can figure out a date.. I need it to be after thanksgiving so that my grandma can come (she's on a around the country road trip and is coming back home right before thanksgiving).. and then I am due at the end of January..

They can't decide to do it sometime early december or a mid january, a few weeks before my EDD..

Sorry, I guess this wasn't a long story short lol

ToesnthesandBride07

Is it possible that they are trying to surprise you? 

MamaMandaW

I've thought about that lol.. and I confronted my friend, and she was like oh no! and i was like ok good because i should probably give you a list of addresses and stuff, and she was like yea, i have no idea who you want to invite so i'll need a guest list!

Sooo... I'm pretty positive that it's not a suprise..

TCTF

I kinda know how you feel, my MIL has mentioned two times about having a shower for me, but it was a kind of "Well you'll probably get that when we have your shower." But that's all I've heard! No date, no location, no anything. Not even a "yes we are having a shower for you." Not that I need one, my mom is planning one for me when I go back home for the holidays, but still, its kinda weird. And DH's coworkers said they wanted a shower for us, but I'm not sure if its still going to happen or not. They wanted me to tell them when to have it, and I have no idea!

MamaMandaW

TCTF:

I kinda know how you feel, my MIL has mentioned two times about having a shower for me, but it was a kind of "Well you'll probably get that when we have your shower." But that's all I've heard! No date, no location, no anything. Not even a "yes we are having a shower for you." Not that I need one, my mom is planning one for me when I go back home for the holidays, but still, its kinda weird. And DH's coworkers said they wanted a shower for us, but I'm not sure if its still going to happen or not. They wanted me to tell them when to have it, and I have no idea!

You are in the same boat as me! They want me to settle on the date too- but I really want their input and ultimatley I want them to decide because I really want to be left out of it, because I have some guilt about having a 2nd baby shower (thanks to this board!) and I figure if I stay completley out of the planning my guilt will wither away lol

BeccaMac

I know alot of people probably think you should just keep your mouth shut because it'll sound like your asking for a shower which is not cool but here's what I'd do.  I must say first that my family and friends aren't always sticklers for proper etiquette and would not have a problem or be offended by any of this.

I'd give the hosts or whichever one seems to be most in charge a few dates and say "these are the days I'm free for the shower".  I'd also give them a list of address of who I'd want to invite.

Again I say this may not be proper but my friends would appreceiate the directness of it.  I love them but no offense, none of them are really a take charge type.  That was always my job.

 

MamaMandaW

BeccaMac:

I know alot of people probably think you should just keep your mouth shut because it'll sound like your asking for a shower which is not cool but here's what I'd do.  I must say first that my family and friends aren't always sticklers for proper etiquette and would not have a problem or be offended by any of this.

I'd give the hosts or whichever one seems to be most in charge a few dates and say "these are the days I'm free for the shower".  I'd also give them a list of address of who I'd want to invite.

Again I say this may not be proper but my friends would appreceiate the directness of it.  I love them but no offense, none of them are really a take charge type.  That was always my job.

 

Thanks, haha no my family isn't up on miss emily post! I could and will be saying- sooooo what's up with the shower? you guys are still doing it right? k, lets do it this day. this is who i want to come.

it's just what goes on with my family and friends.. and i never asked for a shower- they offered already, so it's not like i asked them and they said ok and then they are kinda brushing it off- it was their idea!

lol thanks ya'll!

abba916

well if they offered they are thinking about doing it but sometimes people just need a kick start.

i agree with pp- give them a list of dates and a list of addresses- no pressure just say I was making my xmas card list and put these addresses together for you...at that point they can say if they have plans yet... 

SG5506

They are running out of time!!  My mom just sent my invitations out and i"m due the end of jan also.