Mom type I can't stand **flameproof suit on**

excitedtobemrs

The SAHM's who have never worked, professionally, that is -- b/c they married into $$ and have no understanding of what it takes to be a WOHM.  The ones who think tap, gymnastics, art class, etc. is the be-all, end-all of the world, and act SO exhausted because they've had to take their kids to classes all day.  Or clean the house.  Or make dinner.

Give me a f*cking break.  SAH is hard, (right now I'm doing both -- SAH during the day & working nights -- but until recently I was strictly a WOHM so I sorta know both sides) but come on.  True exhaustion is made up of much more than running carpools and parading your kids at various extracurricular activities.

emiliemadison

I 100% agree that some of those types are annoying. I also cant stand the WOHMs who think that women with college degrees who SAH are wasting their degrees. Or that being a full time SAHM *cant* be just as exhausting as having a career.

EliseB0323

I don't understand why it's always a contest as to who is the most exhausted.

eclaires

I've never worked, but I did go to law school while splitting time w/ being a SAHM.  I never thought I was tired when I was just SAH, even if we had something going on.

True exhaustion for me was going to class from 8am-8pm so I could have 3 days a week with Jackson and studying on top of that. 

SAH is a vacation compared to that.  Maybe because I had to do work outside of the time I was out of the house too.  I don't know...

kittycarr

excitedtobemrs:

The SAHM's who have never worked, professionally, that is -- b/c they married into $$ and have no understanding of what it takes to be a WOHM.  The ones who think tap, gymnastics, art class, etc. is the be-all, end-all of the world, and act SO exhausted because they've had to take their kids to classes all day.  Or clean the house.  Or make dinner.

Give me a f*cking break.  SAH is hard, (right now I'm doing both -- SAH during the day & working nights -- but until recently I was strictly a WOHM so I sorta know both sides) but come on.  True exhaustion is made up of much more than running carpools and parading your kids at various extracurricular activities.

All of the above in addition to exhaustion comes from having to white glove the maid and have to remember to write her check.

joseysbride

EliseB0323:

I don't understand why it's always a contest as to who is the most exhausted.

This is exactly what I always wonder!

excitedtobemrs

I should clarify that I have an IRL friend who is like this & it drives me insane.  Especially b/c it's almost like she looks down upon anyone that doesn't live their life solely for their children.  She gave up EVERYTHING to become a mom (school, friends, any hope of a career) and I just wonder what she'll do with her life when her kids grow up and have lives of their own.

excitedtobemrs

Oh - and Kitty -- you're right on.  One comment the other day related to having to go to XYZ appointments to schedule their services.  Services being normal household activities.

shouldbworkin

excitedtobemrs:

The SAHM's who have never worked, professionally, that is -- b/c they married into $$ and have no understanding of what it takes to be a WOHM.  The ones who think tap, gymnastics, art class, etc. is the be-all, end-all of the world, and act SO exhausted because they've had to take their kids to classes all day.  Or clean the house.  Or make dinner.

Give me a f*cking break.  SAH is hard, (right now I'm doing both -- SAH during the day & working nights -- but until recently I was strictly a WOHM so I sorta know both sides) but come on.  True exhaustion is made up of much more than running carpools and parading your kids at various extracurricular activities.

I agree.  I have one SIL who has 4 kids that she SAH with and she never complains.  I don't know how b/c that has GOT to be exhausting.  Another SAH with 2 kids and is always complaining about everything.  I get it, it's exhausting, but aren't you forgetting what a blessing it is to be able to SAH with your two young kids?  And, if you hate it that much that you complain all the time, do something to make it better!

JOEBunny

Raising hand slowly.  I worked for 12 years, had a "real" career.  Supported myself, bought my own house, saved for retirement, ect.  SAH or even working women who have never lived on their own, at least those who don't get that they have had a huge leg up because of their situation, get on my nerves in general, kids or not. 

One of my neighbors, who recently became a mom, but has been annoying me for 4 years.  Moved from college in with her DH.  Lives in a $750K house paid for by her lawyer DH, and  her career was teaching spanish to kindergateners.  Nothing wrong with that, but the judgements that come out of her mouth and the lack of understanding of other people is phenom.  Doesn't seem to understand why all 30 year old people do not live the "perfect" way she does.  Yes, she has her 7 month old in daycare 2X a week, but does not work.  She is also super religious, which I find annoying in the ungrateful. 

r9stedt

Word.

xbrooklyngrl

I'm pretty sure I am THE MOST EXHAUSTED

lol

gracendantho26

Wow. That's an awesome perspective. I'll remember that when I am working in the classroom for the millionth time, picking up Bestsy Sue's kid to take them with us to gymnastics, making sure we have all the volunteers we need for the yearly Halloween festivle etc. I am in no way trying to sound like a martyr (and truly I work from home so I am not a fulltime SAHM) and I do like doing the daily thing with the kids but your attitude sucks a$$. Way to minimize what SAHM's do though! congrats!

Chrisy-Wyobride

Yeah, I have some friends somewhat like this...they criticize people for what they look like (fat or unkempt), what they do (work or whatever), etc...meanwhile they live in beautiful $600K-$2M houses, do not work outside the home (some never have) even when their kids are in school fulltime & generally have a pretty charmed life.  I just want them to walk the shoes of someone else for one day & I think they'd get off their high horse a lot. 

SMHWife

I'm a WOHM with a 3 year old.  My DH and I work opposite shifts and therefore we single parent our child during the hours she's not at preschool. There are days between working all day and then coming home to laundry, making dinner, taking DD to dance class, that I'm just exhausted.

My sister is a SAHM with 3 kids.  3 kids with 3 very different schedules, activities, school times etc.  She literally is in the car all morning dropping off at 3 different schools (one in elementary, one in jr. high and one at high school).  Then she does it again in the afternoon and then it's basketball practice, soccer, art, gymnastics, doctor appointments, etc.

During the day, she works on things around the house, pays bills, helps her DH out with some of his work, plans meals and gets prepared for the evening. 

Some days she's just as exhausted as us working moms! 

pincushions

SMHWife:

I'm a WOHM with a 3 year old.  My DH and I work opposite shifts and therefore we single parent our child during the hours she's not at preschool. There are days between working all day and then coming home to laundry, making dinner, taking DD to dance class, that I'm just exhausted.

My sister is a SAHM with 3 kids.  3 kids with 3 very different schedules, activities, school times etc.  She literally is in the car all morning dropping off at 3 different schools (one in elementary, one in jr. high and one at high school).  Then she does it again in the afternoon and then it's basketball practice, soccer, art, gymnastics, doctor appointments, etc.

During the day, she works on things around the house, pays bills, helps her DH out with some of his work, plans meals and gets prepared for the evening. 

Some days she's just as exhausted as us working moms! 

this.

dpdw

joseysbride:

EliseB0323:

I don't understand why it's always a contest as to who is the most exhausted.

This is exactly what I always wonder!

Ditto. 

isabella22

SMHWife:

I'm a WOHM with a 3 year old.  My DH and I work opposite shifts and therefore we single parent our child during the hours she's not at preschool. There are days between working all day and then coming home to laundry, making dinner, taking DD to dance class, that I'm just exhausted.

My sister is a SAHM with 3 kids.  3 kids with 3 very different schedules, activities, school times etc.  She literally is in the car all morning dropping off at 3 different schools (one in elementary, one in jr. high and one at high school).  Then she does it again in the afternoon and then it's basketball practice, soccer, art, gymnastics, doctor appointments, etc.

During the day, she works on things around the house, pays bills, helps her DH out with some of his work, plans meals and gets prepared for the evening. 

Some days she's just as exhausted as us working moms! 

I really hate to enter this debate, but I have to say... who/when do you think things get worked on around the house, bills paid, meals planned, etc for WOHMs?  They aren't exempt from this stuff, they are doing it too.

excitedtobemrs

gracendantho26:

Wow. That's an awesome perspective. I'll remember that when I am working in the classroom for the millionth time, picking up Bestsy Sue's kid to take them with us to gymnastics, making sure we have all the volunteers we need for the yearly Halloween festivle etc. I am in no way trying to sound like a martyr (and truly I work from home so I am not a fulltime SAHM) and I do like doing the daily thing with the kids but your attitude sucks a$$. Way to minimize what SAHM's do though! congrats!

Thank you for your comments.  And btw - your attitude sucks ass too...just so you know. it may be exhausting, but in this particular case, it's a slap in the face to this woman's friends -- who would love to be able to do any ONE of the above activities with their children -- but are unable to because we all have to work for a living & didn't marry into / for $$.  I'm not minimizing what people do, SAH or WOH, but to complain about how HARD it is to be able to do the things that others only wish they could, that's inconsiderate.

 

gracendantho26

See my post above. I don't need your sass today missy.

StephNJer

EliseB0323:

I don't understand why it's always a contest as to who is the most exhausted.

hopefulmom

I've done boh...WOHM with really young kids and SAH with young kids...WOHM with older teenage kids and SAH with teenage kids.  IMO...it is more exhausting to WOHM with either young or old kids.  Not only do the WOHM's have to be gone 9-10 plus out of the day, but they have to pick up their kids and take them to practice/games or classes AND then come home and make dinner, do laundry, housecleaning, etc.  On top of that...they have to "schedule" every.frickin.event!  Being at home was easy in comparison.  If kids had class in the evening...I'd just make dinner early so it was ready when we came home (can't do that when you're at work).  If I wanted to help on a field trip or class party I would have to use vacation days...which I really wanted to reserve for when my kids were sick, etc. but felt it was necessary for me to make most of those school functions.  When I was at home...I'd just automatically go on the field trips, help with school parties, pick up and take home other people's kids.  It was not exhausting and I knew I'd have plenty of time to make dinner when I got home.  I loved being able to do that.