WWYD? (kinda long)

jacobandcrystal

These are our 3rd and 4th babies, so we're obviously not having a shower.  They are the first girl grandbabies on both sides though so I think everyone is excited to shop : ) 

My hubby's immediate family told us they wanted to get together (his parents, sisters, and their hubbies) just to celebrate the twins, and I think they're planning to bring some gifts.  We didn't want them to feel pressured to buy us anything, but also didn't want to ruin their fun and flat out refuse the get-together.  So, we're getting together this Sunday.

One of my SIL's (who is expecting their 1st in Dec) e-mailed today saying that they want to get us something and is wondering what we need.  Of course, we have a list of things we still need to buy... but I would feel really weird telling her to buy a specific item.  Not to mention I don't want to assume any particular amount!  The things we still need are pretty particular too... so I can't just say "oh, some of these, or those".

Anyway, how would you reply?  With specific items?  Or just kindly say "you don't need to buy us anything"?  I'm stumped : /

lutzcowgirlie

If someone doesn't want to buy you a gift, they just won't ask. She asked. She wants to buy. Just tell her some of the things you need, but give price point options. Like, "While we don't want you to feel obligated, it is very generous of you to ask. We were planning on getting the boppy pillow or this diaper bag. The nursery theme is ___, so I liked this blanket. If none of those is what you had in mind, of course, we'll need plenty of diapers, too! I'm sure that any gift from you will be a great one! We appreciate you thinking of us and look forward to seeing you on Sunday!"

 

Or, if you have a registry (I made one online so that I could get the discount) you can pass along that info and say "Here is what we were planning on purchasing. Couldn't pass up the 10% completion discount!"

 

 

CrazeyJaneyR

I'm making a wishlist on the BRU site for our families. They want to buy, and we need the help!

Temp6313048411121614

Ask for diapers.  It's something not too specific, not too expensive, but an expense you'll have down the road. 

jacobandcrystal

Thanks ladies!  I ended up just sharing a BRU wish list with her.  Felt weird to do, but oh well.

Rinnie

I kind of had the same issue.  I had my DD first and then the twin boys who were born a week before christmas.

A couple of weeks after their birth my SIL & BIL are coming to visit help and she calls me and asks if there is anything I need for her to bring. 

She said would be running to Walmart/BRU - so I hedged around it, I felt uncomfortable because they have their own kid and my BIL is out of work.  She called again later in the week and  asked again I said yes I need xyz.

I agree with other posters.  If she asks she wants to - so let her.