this sucks

MrsKario

I feel like I am in purgatory.  I have to wait until Wednesday afternoon for my second U/S.  This is miserable.  I cant stop crying.  Still trying to hold out hope for a miracle but I know that is such a slim chance. 
And my boss called me today and said that my medical excuse needs to be submitted to Occupational Health, blah, blah, blah.  I called them and they made me feel like I was a slacker looking for short term disability.  They said my excuse needs to include a diagnosis and a specific reason. The note I have is not sufficient and they need a note with more info today because the meeting is tomorrow.  Well too bad, I will get it from my dr on Wednesday when I see her.   Then boss emailed me and said he will need to meet with me all day on Mon and Tues to go over what I missed at this meeting.  Seriously dude?  I do not want to have to call him and cancel on Monday if I start to M/C or need a DnC.   This is a nightmare. 

Also - today I completely outed myself with a co-worker.  I ran into him this morning and he asked when I was leaving for our meeting.  I told him I wasnt going and why.  Not sure why I said anything - guess I just couldnt come up with a good lie.  He was so understanding and supportive.  Said that he and his wife would pray for me.  It really felt good to talk to someone IRL.  Strangely I dont regret telling him. 

sadie sadie

. I'm sorry that your boss is such an asshat.

Medtwin

Oh, Mrs. Kario.. I'm so sorry you're going thru this... and then to have work be asses on top of it.. I'm sorry.. I'm thinking of you!! Don't give up hope!

Strunella

You poor thing!  Hang in there...we're all hoping that you get postive news on Wednesday.  Wow...this is such poor timing with the new boss.  I wish he weren't being so difficult and making things even harder for you.  Lots of hugs to you! 

FrannyS

I am glad your co-worker was supportive because your boss is an a-class jerk-off.  I can't believe the whole note business, especially since you told him what you are going through.  Some people just do not understand IF.  

Good luck to you on Wednesday.  I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you!

Babsie7

I'm so sorry! That's such bs - I'm sorry you have to deal with all that. Try not to let work get you down too much, and take care of yourself. I'm praying for good news on Wed.

taratru

I'm so sorry.  I wish I could do more, but

cfreshyg

MrsK I'm so sorry to hear about your situation with work on top of everything else. I've been following your story and will be praying for you.

Chin up girl...

CharBart

What an idiot!!! You can just tak vacation days...you don't need a note.  What you need to do is call your HR dept, tell them what is going on and then tell them what an a$$wipe your boss is being. Ask him if he's heard of FMLA??? 

I'm so sorry that you are going through this and I am praying for you and your DH.

(((hugs)))

QE2

I'm so sorry your going through such a difficult time Mrs K. I'd love to come down to hug you and give your boss a little ass-kickin'!!!!

FlgBride

I'm so sorry that you are going through this difficult time and dealing with a insensitive boss too.  You are in my thoughts.

panda246

I guess it really is true that sometimes when it rains it pours.  You and DH are going through such a stressful time right now and you have to deal with the new boss...definitely does not sound like fun. 

As an outsider looking in I'm still going to say that it seems like your new boss is just making sure he does everything by the book.  He seems to be doing it in a remarkably cold and unemotional manner, but that's just how he operates.  You're obviously a valuable employee.  If I remember correctly there were recent layoffs at your company and you did not get cut.

Try and take care of yourself and DH.  I'll be thinking about you and sending lots of T&P. 

GymDogFran

CharBart:

What you need to do is call your HR dept, tell them what is going on and then tell them what an a$$wipe your boss is being. Ask him if he's heard of FMLA??? 

This.  I'm really confused by the Occupational Health involvement.  OH is for work-related injuries/illnesses.  So strange.  I don't mean to be flippant, but I don't think your pregnancy is work-related!

I am so sorry.  Who gives someone a hard time about pregnancy-related illnesses, especially with a doctor's note?  I do think you could suggest documenting with HR.  I think you could say it in a nice way, but get the message to him that you are protected under the law.  No one should have to deal with this!

cheekyali

I am going to echo what the PPers are saying- your boss is an idiot and I think you need to talk to HR about him. So sorry you have to deal with him on top of all this. Hang in there- only one day to go (((HUGS)))

kb75

I'm so sorry you're going through all this. ((hugs))

ToshaGirl

As I noted the other day, he's still at the top of my shiit list that boss of yours.

I am so sorry honey. I wish I had a fast forward machine to get you to tomorrow afternoon.

((hugs)))

DMD1029

I think that we should schedule a virtual a$$kickin for your boss!  Maybe if we all think about it at the same time, he'll feel a poke in his rear end and start to behave more appropriately!!  Wow!  What a jerk! 

Bad, horrible boss aside, I'm so sorry that you're going thru all of this uncertainty.  The only thing I can say is hold on to your hope.  My RE just told me a story today about a woman whose betas never really went up and she went on to have a successful pregnancy.  You just never know.  Don't give up hope unless you're certain that hope is gone.  From what you've posted so far, it doesn't seem like you're there, so just hold on and feel free to vent to all of us. 

And for anyone who wants to join me in the virtual a$$kickin, I say that we should set our communal minds to it at 4pm ET today...anyone with me?

ccbanana

Oh Mrs. Kario, your boss sucks.  I'm so sorry. 

hugs.

LOVEDBYD

I am so sorry you have to deal with your boss on top of everything else you are going through.   (((hugs)))