Do you think you worry too much?

annies123

I think the amount of worrying I do is normal. I get nervous around the time of doc appointments. I do have fears of what if there is no heartbeat. But apparently, I'm worrying too much according to people who have never even been pregnant.

I'm 37 and have been extremely sick with m/s. All day, everyday. So I know it's probably ok. But, I get tired of people telling me there is no need to worry. I turn to these people for support, but I'm starting to think I'll just keep my thoughts to myself.

I guess they all think it's just puppies and rainbows. I am super excited to be pregnant. But the last 12 weeks I have been very sick. And we all know that gets old fast. I'm very grateful to be pregnant.

It's just tough not knowing daily what the LO is doing in there. I know I have to have faith that it's ok in there. But, I think it is normal to have some caution/worry.

mommy_bear

I'm a "glass is half empty" kinda person. It's just my personality to worry. I've had a very tough pregnancy myself.

I have discovered that people are very uncomfortable with *bad* news. They like to concentrate on the positive because it makes *them* feel better.

Is there a MS support group you can join? Maybe something like this?

https://www.dailystrength.org/c/Multiple-Sclerosis-MS/goals?filter=9

I agree. I think it is normal to be cautious and worry. You are not alone!

Kari

annies123

Kd, I should have clarified. I meant m/s as morning sickness. But yes, you are right about them not wanting bad news and positive things making them feel better. That is a good way of putting it.

livvielo

In general, yes, I worry too much.

I also think that for a long time, when you're not feeling the baby move and you're not showing too much, it's a lot easier to worry than to not worry! I remember feeling uneasy up through mid 2nd tri because I didn't feel any movement and didn't really *look* particularly pregnant--it was always like, is the baby still okay in there? At one doc appt--maybe my fourth month?--after the nurse came in to listen to the heartbeat, I burst into tears because I guess I was more worried about it not being there than I realized.

I'm sorry people are not being supportive--I think the worry is totally natural!!

leffe1

I worried so much during the 1st few months. Heck, I still worry but it has lessened over time.

I didn't experience m/s like you have. I cannot even imagine feeling that way all the time. I just took it day by day and realized that things are progressing the way they should unless the dr. told me otherwise. So far, so good! Hang in there! It is quite the journey but it is amazing the further along you get. I hope you feel better soon.

daisydana

You are completely normal if it makes you feel any better. Some people just get pregnant and it IS all puppies and rainbows. Those people usually don't understand the "irrational" fear of thinking something could be wrong.  

I think that you will feel even more at ease when you start to feel your LO move. That's when it felt real to me. I still get nervous every once in a while that something will go wrong, but for the most part I do believe that I will be holding my baby in a few short months.  

And as for the people you are turning to for support - no, don't just keep your thoughts to yourself. Confide in them still, but post here more too. We all get it.

 

YaraC

annies123:

I think the amount of worrying I do is normal. I get nervous around the time of doc appointments. I do have fears of what if there is no heartbeat.

 

Sounds perfectly normal for early pregnancy to me. It does get better as you get further along. 

MrsKLS

I worried A LOT more with my 1st PG then this one. With this one as soon as the amnio came back with a perfectly healthy little one I relaxed completely. I hope to just enjoy the rest of the PG.

NHnative

I think its in a pregnant woman's nature to worry especially since the drs give you such a long list of things not to do/eat, etc. I have hd a fairly easy pregnancy physically but very tough emotionally. Constantly beating myself up over what I do, eat, etc. Nobody really understands so I've stopped confiding in anyone about my phobias. I wish I could agree with one poster who says it gets easier as you get further along, but for me it is almost worse now as I think "I've come this far... what if what if".  I will say feeling the LO move is a bit of a relief.