uncomfortable shower situation

gallerygirl

I met my H though a group of guys that I knew. I was always friends w/the guys and about 3 years ago started to make an effort to hang out w/the girls. I made a few friendships, but they have since fizzled out since the ladies are basically catty and clicky. Often times, I feel invisible when I am around that group and really miss the days where I just hung w/the boys. I basically am always left out of stuff like "girls night" and only get invited to showers or birthday parties where it is expected I bring a gift.

 Fast forward: the one girl works with two of my friends and found out I was thrown a shower and none of them were invited. I didn't control the guest list, but my sister knows how I feel so left out around these group of women. This girl contacted my husband and now they want to plan me a small shower. The irony is, I was just at a wedding on Friday where they basically ignored me the entire night! 

I can't imagine going through this... I imagine this will be painful, but I'm sure there is no way to decline- especially since I'm not supposed to know. My H thought there was no way I should be surprised by this given my lack of relationship with them. I just hope it is co-ed and my guy friends are there!

MrsJWeaver

If you are expected to bring gifts to their showers then I would let them spend the money on a shower for you.  I would ask DH to tell the girls to make is co-ed so that you at least feel comfortable with having the guys there.

mindingpandq

I agree that a co-ed shower would be the best in this situation, then you can actually enjoy your time with your guy friends too! At least they are making an effort, right? Enjoy!

burghbaby

before I even got to the end of your post i was thinking... a co-ed shower would work.  Or just a gathering with the guys and girls.  If not you could ask your DH to tell them you are just getting to uncomfortable for a shower this late.  It's probably not entirely true but worth a shot

 

AngelLuver_02

MrsJWeaver:

If you are expected to bring gifts to their showers then I would let them spend the money on a shower for you.  I would ask DH to tell the girls to make is co-ed so that you at least feel comfortable with having the guys there.

this. I think co-ed would be great. Have your DH bring it up to the girls and hopefully they will listen.

gallerygirl

Thanks! I will ask H to suggest the co-ed idea and offer him to help out. I don't want to sound ungrateful, it is just a weird situation and these are people I have been recently choosing to not have in my life. *sigh*

PurpleK26

Yeah, it may be uncomfortable. But, since you're the guest of honor, you will be kept pretty busy and can just let things revolve around you! You can't really stop it, and would probably nix any future friendship possibilities if you did, so... if it's a horrible 4 hours, well, at least it's for your LO! Can't be any worse than ms or labor!

MrsGhappilyeverafter

That definitely does sound uncomfortable.  I hope it does end up being co-ed!