DH said the most hurtful thing to me

ShannonLK

As most of you know I have been married before.  DH and I were talking and I'm not even sure what the conversation was about but before he said the hurtful remark he made the comment that I had made a promise to love him forever.  Then he said "But you already broke that promise once."

It cut me like a knife and I'm not going to get over it or forget it no matter how many times he says he is sorry.

Thanks for letting me vent!

carladillon

Yikes!  What in the world what possess him to say such a thing???  Did he think he was being humorous?  My DH has a bad habit of putting his foot in his mouth - it's a family trait from what I understand.  I've learned this and can see the second after he says something, that he then processes what he has said....it's like a switch goes off.

I'm so sorry....<HUGS> 

maryenap

Ouch!  I'm so sorry!  This is my 2nd marriage too, and I so worry that he worries about that too.  Hang in there... 

ShannonLK

He said he didn't mean it and didn't think I would be upset since anytime we've talked about my previous marriage it hasn't been in a positive light.

He has apologized several times but really I don't think that he thinks he did anything wrong.  And to be honest, I don't want to forgive him yet.

I want to say "Yeah I don't know what I was thinking by divorcing such a wonderful man."  My ex was far from wonderful and DH knows that.  I think that's what made the remark so hurtful.  

UTKD

That is a very hurtful comment.  I'm sorry he said that to you.  I think you have every right to be mad at him. 

BrideBuddies

Men are the carriers of the stupid gene.  I'm convinced.

akgram

I'm sorry he said that but glad he apoligized.  I'd have a very hard time forgiving and forgetting something like that too. 

Julia-Henry

Ouch! Does it help to remember that men are stupid sometimes? I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you...

YaraC

I'm sorry he said that to you. I know how hurtful that must have been. As a second wife myself though, I can admit that that is something that sometimes crosses the mind. I pitched a fit once over DH's old wedding album being in our house, telling him that I didn't need a reminder of the day he promised to love only her until he died.

If he has apologized, I think you should accept. It is not easy to be number 2.

leffe1

Wow..I can imagine the hurt that must have caused. We all have said things in anger we don't mean. I would forgive him and move on. I am sorry you had to go through that.