inviting friends

megann831

I have 3 close friends from work, I've been to their baby showers, kid's birthday, christening, Bat Mitzva (sp), ect.  There have always been their family and other friends at these events.  I feel kinda funny inviting them to my shower because it will only be family, I really don't have any close friends.  Do you think I should tell them it's only going to be a small, family shower so they'll know not to expect an invite, or should I invite them and tell them its only going to be family so its up to them if they'd like to come?  This situation is going to come up again and again unless we meet other parents through LO and have my friends to invite.

avbliss

I would just invite them. No warning needed. I too have very few friends, and only 2 are attending the shower DH's family is throwing, which is all just his family, but I didn't feel the need to say anything. People expect it to mostly be your family at these events, and if all three come it's not like they don't have each other to socialize with. And if this is going to be a recurring thing then they may as well get to know your family now.

ToesnthesandBride07

I agree with the PP. Go ahead and invite them!!!

EastCoastBride

O.k, wait.  do you WANT it to be a "family only" event, and/or is that what the hostess wants?  If it's a yes to either of those, then no- don't invite them.

If your just purely concerned that it will be MOSTLY family and you dont' want them to feel odd....  then yes, invite them.  They aren't going to feel odd. I'm sure they expect most of the guests to be family.

But if it's the prior- that it really should only be family, then don't invite them and if they ASK about a shower, then you can say "Oh- my ___ is throwing one but it's for family only".  No harm in that.  If any of them want, they could actually throw another small shower.