sex after d&c

sarahandeddiejune212008 · October 2009

It has been 11 days since my d&c and I really want to have sex. I'm am just barely spotting. DH is scared because my OB said no sex for 4 weeks. I need the closeness with him. Everything I've read said it is okay once you stop bleeing, but to take precautions to avoid infection. What to you wonderful ladies think?

Mizz&Shizz · October 2009

I was told to wait a week after my D&C, but we waited till I stopped bleeding. We had sex for the first time on Thursday. DH did the condom thing, because my CM is sorta tinged brown, and he felt weird about it. I really wanted to, we both did, so we did. It was really hard for me, but I didn't let him know it. It was sort of painful, I hope it won't be like that for you!

sarahandeddiejune212008 · October 2009

I just don't understand why every doctor has a different time frame. I'm trying to convince DH that it is okay to try it and if I'm uncomfortable we will stop. Maybe I'll try again tomorrow. I really don't want to wait another 2 1/2 weeks.

Mizz&Shizz · October 2009

I completely agree with you...I hate how everything is in "shades of gray". It just makes me think that there really is no right answer, and they really have no idea what is going on.

I think if you feel that your body is ready, you should go ahead and have sex. Maybe use a condom to be precautionary. Have fun! Smile

teachinbr · October 2009

I was told no sex for 2 weeks (she told me this before the D&C so I dont think the fact that I had no bleeding had anything to do with her statement). But I had absolutly no bleeding after my D&C and very little during the procedure OB says. She told us to use condoms for at least 2 cycles (didnt want us trying again till after 2 periods).

roxyttandme · October 2009

Personally, I would do as your OB says.... but I am a bit of a wussy w/ stuff like that. I guess I am the "better be safe than sorry" girl. Perhaps use a condon? At least than you wouldn't have the possibility of infection- at least I wouldn't think you would.... but, what do I know???

GL and have fun!

Swede25 · October 2009

My discharge paperwork said to be on pelvic rest for 2 weeks to minimize the risk of infection (not just from DH but from anything, i.e. a condom). In that timeframe, I stopped bleeding and spotting. We used condoms until my first AF (9 weeks later...ugh!) because my doctor told us to wait one cycle before trying again. I'll be honest, it did NOT feel good. I felt sore and I think I was nervous so I was, ahem, clenching up a bit. Halfway through I started crying and we had to stop. I wasn't crying from the pain, but from realizing that we were going to have to start the TTC process all over again. The second time was much better.