update

MrsKario

So I decided yesterday that there was no way that I was able to go to my work meeting.  I was supposed to be gone from Monday to Thursday.  I was almost having panic attacks thinking about having a M/C in a hotel bathroom when I stepped out of a meeting room for a bathroom break.   Also I am still on progesterone injections and all the IVF restrictions (no lifting anything heavier than a gallon of milk, etc.)   A co-worker encouraged me to call my boss and explain the situation.  A little backstory - we had layoffs and a restructuring a month ago and I now have a new boss who I have never met.  So I called him and told him what was happening.  I didnt give any details about IVF, etc. just said I was preg., there was a problem, I shouldnt be traveling, and I needed to have a follow-up dr apt before next Friday.  Well he was not very nice or even remotely sympathetic.  He said I need to email him a medical excuse from my dr ASAP.  Awful.  He made me feel like I was being a wuss and was bothering him.  So now on top of everything else my new boss thinks I am a flake.  Uggh.  And now one more person knows about our preg. which I hate because Im so worried about a bad outcome. 

So I called the dr office and they wrote me an excuse right away.   And they moved my next U/S up from Friday to Wednesday.  Now I only have to wait  5 more days.  I talked to the nurse a little more about our last U/S.  She said the the dr's notes say she saw something in the gestational sac but she could not see a yolk sac or a fetal pole.  Nurse said that this is a bad sign but there is still a chance.  She also said that she has seen this situation before and sometimes there is a good outcome (but it is unlikely). And I am not having any bleeding or cramping which the dr says is a good sign - although it doesnt mean that everything is okay.   

Thanks girls for reading this.  I really appreciate all of your support, kind words, and especially prayers.

boymamaco

Ahh sweetie, I'm so sorry. I have been thinking about you and praying for a positive outcome. I think you did the right thing by calling your boss. Your health is the most important factor here.

In the long run, he will realize what a putz he is being. I've heard stories like that before. Its hard for me to fathom that there are still work environments like that, but there definitely are and will continue to be for a long time.  Don't let it add to your stress. Now is the time to take take of you!

I'm happy to hear that the u/s got moved to Wed. My T&P are with you!

Betsy

MAH123

I'm so sorry you're going through this and that your new boss is being such a jacka**. Take care of yourself first and worry about him later. I do think it's great that you got to move your u/s up, I've always found that the waiting and uncertainty is the hardest part. Sending tons of T&Ps!!!  

smilee

Oh, honey.

First of all.... your new boss needs a serious throat punch.  I'd be very happy to take care of that for you

Secondly, you did the right thing.  Regardless of what he says or how you feel he perceives you now, this is the best thing for you mentally, physically and beyond.   

I will pray that you are one of the girls that walks out of there on Wednesday with a happy ending.  Huge hugs and tons of prayers that you get your miracle.   

Babsie7

I am so sorry you have to be going through all of this, and then to have a sh!tty boss to top it off. That just plain sucks.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope everything is ok. {hugs}

MDBeachbride

That guy is a jerk.  Sorry.  Glad you took care of yourself and did what you needed to do.

Medtwin

Aw.. Mrs.Kario. I was sorry to read about your news.  If your boss doesn't understand it..that's his problem.. you're problem is just to rest & feel better.  And have hope...  Good luck!

joyfulnature

I am so sorry you are going through this, Mrs. K.

((((hugs)))))

I think you did the right thing by telling your boss. You have to take care of yourself and your family right now, and that comes before work.

My thoughts are with you, and you continue to be in my prayers.

 

peztopper

glad you aren't going on your work trip. your mind would have just been elsewhere.

sorry you had to reveal your news to get out of it though. your boss sounds like a winner.

hang in there. keep thinking positive -- the fact that you aren't in pain or cramping.

i'm staying positive and hoping that you are a good outcome and she can cite your story for future patients in your position.

thinking of you!?

hollymichael

I'm sorry your boss is such a complete and utter a-hole. I always console myself around these kind of people by reminding myself that he is probably a very unhappy person.  Hang in there.  I will be praying that you get good news on Wed.

CharBart

That really stinks that people react in ways like that.  I hope he shapes up and realizes that he is acting like a jacka$$.  Do not let this bother you. The most important thing is that you take care of yourself and that little one.  I am praying for your miracle...keeping the hope alive for you!

You have my thoughts and prayers.  (((hugs)))

FrannyS

Boss is an ass.  He can't possibly understand but in any case, I would have done the same thing.  You have to do what's right for you, no job is that important.

I hope you get good news Wednesday.  Try to stay positive!

ToshaGirl

That boss is on the top of my shiit list today. THE VERY TOP. I am so sorry.  Your health is most important, so as difficult as it might be to do so, try to forget about that jerk right now. You did the right thing.

I will be crossing my fingers very tightly between now and Wednesday for good news.

Enormous hugs to you.

MrsPLW71

Your boss is a complete a$$hat and the way he acted to you is totally inappropriate. 

I hope everything turns out alright, sending lots of prayers your way.

panda246

Oh girl, I'm sorry to hear that your boss was net terribly sensitive.  I remember reading something about Smilee and a Yankee Candle a while ago...my money's on her to handle him for you.

Seriously, though.  Try and not take it personally.  He might just be in CYA mode given the enviroment at the company you work for.  You are doing the right thing by staying home and taking care of yourself.

I'll be sending lots of T&P your way.  The nurse was right, there is still the posibility of a positive outcome in this.

Hang in there and make sure you get Smilee the big jar sized candle.

Strunella

Hang in there, hon!  I'm so sorry this is such a difficult time for you.  And Mr. Boss can take a long walk off a short pier!  It is amazing that we can work with people like this.  I had a co-worker tell my boss once that I didn't "sound sick" when I called in sick that day.  What he didn't know was that I had already confided in my [female] boss that I had to have some minor surgery.  Luckily, my boss hated this guy too, so she told him, "Well, sometimes when a woman gets sick, she doesn't SOUND sick!"  And that pretty much shut him up.

Take care of you!  That's the most important thing.  I'll be thinking of you.

itsmexine

Grrrrr. I can't believe he was such a jerk.  Also I question why he personally requires medical documentation. That should all be handled through your HR department.

On another note. I'm glad that every thing with your body still indicates that everything is still ok. I hope they see the yolk sac and fetal pole in your next u/s.  I have everything crossed for you.

MrsKario

Thanks girls for all your kindness, hope, and prayers.  I am going with the "pregnant until proven otherwise" tactic today.   Still no cramping or bleeding.....   Miracles sometimes do happen.

sadie sadie

I will keep sending good thoughts your way.

rsrn02

your boss is a complete and utter douchebag, and that was craptastic way for him to handle this

i'm glad you didnt go to your meeting. rest up. think positive thoughts. you have lots of love and prayers being sent your way from this board and we will anxiously be awaiting your u/s results on wednesday

take care of that little one; we know he/she's snuggling in and growing.

i agree with PP about smilee i think she will take care of your boss for you

cheekyali

I think you made the right decision regardless of your douchebag boss.

Sending you all the good vibes in the world for Wed.

suzshack

Just wanted to chime in to say take care, and look, it's another day closer to Wed...

 

GymDogFran

Mrs. Kario,

I am late to this thread because I was away from my computer for the weekend.  I am so sorry you were treated wrongly by your boss.  I can't imagine that HR would be thrilled with how it handled this - it was clearly innappropriate.  Is there anyway for you to send your excuse to HR to document why you are absent next week?  Just to cover your bases and provide a foundation in case you every have to file a complaint or explain your absence further?  This guy doesn't sound terribly trustworthy.  

I am glad to hear that you are staying around and taking care of yourself this week!  I am really praying for the best results this Friday!

Good luck!

GDF

LOVEDBYD

I am so sorry you are going through this! (((hugs)))

taratru

MrsK,

1) I want to throat punch your boss.  What a fuckking tool.

2) I hope everything is perfect for you on Wednesday...you're almost there!

*hugs*