My overly excited DH is getting on my nerves

maryenap

This is my third pregnancy.  My son is 14 and my daughter is 10; both from a previous marriage.  This is my DH's first, so he's naturally gaga with the whole thing.  (He's also a excitable guy to begin with)  He's getting upset that I'm not excited about this pregnancy.  I am happy, but I'm still cautiously optimistic.  It's still really early in the pregnancy.  Plus, I'm super mellow naturally.

 I've expressed to him my wish not to let people know until we hear the heartbeat... but he's already told his family and 2 friends.  I haven't even told my kids yet!!!   I'm glad he's happy, but this is frustrating.  

peztopper

It's really hard to be overly excited this early on. I'm sure all will be fine but we're still going with the "cautious" attitude and haven't revealed to all.

maybe just remind him that he's not respecting your wish by telling others and that you are hurt by that.

i'm finding it kinda fun to be keeping this secret. especially at work. it's turned into a game.

good luck and i hope he can understand.?

mariahcohen

I would be loving how excited he is.  Let him have this!  This is his first...put yourself in his shoes.  Any time the dad is excited is a wonderful thing.  Most guys don't "get into it" until it is almost over and they realize it is all about to happen. 

carladillon

I felt the same way in the beginning, but this is the first for both of us.  I had just felt in the beginning it was too good to be true and was afraid of a m/c.  Even though DH and I agreed to wait until after the 1st trimester, the second I took the second HPT, he was on the phone with his parents.  He's a super excitable guy too, so I realize now there was no way he could have waited that long.

Good luck - and just realize it's not a bad thing....aggravating, yes - but not bad.

Congrats! 

mommy_bear

While it is still early on, I can certainly understand your guarded excitement.

My DH is the opposite of yours. We have had 3 miscarriages and currently have a very high risk pregnancy. Up until just a few short weeks ago he would not even touch my belly or allow any baby items in the house.

Everyone is different.

UTKD

We have been cautious as well -- haven't told anyone with the exception of my two best friends -- b/c we don't want to have to "untell" -- but b/c the dr assured us that we have a very low chance of m/c (2%), I think we are ready to reveal my PG to family this weekend -- they are getting suspicious.  I have a bit of a belly, and I am normally a thin person, so it's getting very hard to hide my PG.  My coworkers are all getting very suspicious, too.  So, I may reveal to them in the next couple of weeks. 

I agree with Pez.  IMHO, you and DH need to operate as a team, come up with a plan you can both agree with and stick with it.  It is not all about him and what he wants.  He needs to respect your feelings; you are the one carrying this baby, and you have feelings about a variety of things that he may not have, and he needs to understand and respect that.  You are already under a lot of emotional and physical stress, so I'm sorry you have to deal with this.  Your DH should help you solve problems, not create problems.  I hope he can understand.