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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
What's wrong with me? IL non-vent?
Why did I agree to take myself as well as my 5mth old son and drive to my in-laws place for CanadianThanksgiving...we're talking an over 12 hour drive. Did I hit my head? We're staying 3 days, but they're likely going to be the three longest days of my life! I cringe thinking of MIL saying "come to Nanny" and swiping him out of my arms. I think this is because she came down when he was 2 weeks old and did this--I hardly saw my son at all for the whole weekend. Then they came down when he was 2 months--same thing, but for a week. Added bonus, my milk disappeared as a result...at least three months earlier than I had wanted. What's even better/worse, DS is teething somewhat worse than usual right now, and he's going through that initial stranger danger phase, and is extra clingy. I know I need to "grow a set" and set MIL straight when she tries to hold him the whole time..and once I get him, she takes him back like 2 minutes later, but I'm a wuss! Help!!
ETA: she also works in a doctor's office, so she loves to tell me what vaccinations he should get. She doesn't feel his doctor sees him often enough, so she wants him to have an examination there. She scares me, and my stomach is in knots. She really hasn't done anything bad, just annoying sometimes. Not related persay, but on my wedding day, she told me that I could still be replaced. Who tells that to a child of divorce?
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Re: What's wrong with me? IL non-vent?
Oh GOD. GL os all I got to say!!! I can't even take DS in the car for 3 hours without him throwing an absolute *** FIT, let alone 12 hours??? LOL.
Take some Benedryl for him
I personally think the car ride would be much worse than the IL's.
GL.
Seriously? This is your MIL vent? That she wants to hold him? She lives 12 hours away, and doesn't get to see him very often... she obviously loves him a ton and misses him like crazy. She might also have the idea that she's giving you a little break.
I am very lucky and don't have any IL or parent issues, but I have read some seriously messed up stories here on the bump, and your issue is just... well, it's really not so bad.
It's just a few days.
Sorry, this might sound harsh - but you'll be okay!! So will your LO.
You're right..it's not much of a vent, and it isn't so bad really either. It's more that she bought a pack n' play for him to sleep in and expects him to use the change table on it (he's 18lbs), wants to give him ice cream, and totally disregards my opinion in anything as his guardian. I guess I didn't really include the vent-able stuff.. we asked for a relaxing time, and every day has something planned as it always is, so that doesn't surprise me any. As I said in the unpopular opinion post...she's so much like the parts of me I can't stand. That said, she isn't really that bad, but sometimes I like to make the decisions too!
You're right too. I'm just worried because he will be meeting DH's brother and sister for the first time and hasn't seen his grandparents in 3 months and is going through his screaming his head off phase...even with my sister who he sees every week (mainly with men though apart from her). I'm just afraid MIL will want to hold him, and he won't really know her and be miserable with her. I want him to be happy, I want her to be happy, but I still want to hold my little guy some myself too!
He does like the car, but he likes to play too...and we all know what kind of inner-monster teething brings out! I think that might be the worst part for me too..lol
lol..yeah that doesn't make sense, does it. I meant to say that I got so stressed out while she was down (and I was pumping), that my supply went way down the first time. I worked it back up and it was just at a good spot again, and they came down again--and the stress came back, and then I went from pumping 8oz to maybe 2 before she even got there. Then they were at our small 2 bedroom appartment most of the week, and well, I was self-conscious about pumping so I did it twice a day (which was my fault, I admit it), so at the end of it, I had myself in a bad schedule and she had bought 5 cans of formula (score!) on sale, so I had an easy way out...so really, I guess it was my fault, and I majorly regret it.
I'm wondering this too. If she gave him formula against your wishes I can see why you'd be upset. But how did she not allow you to feed him?
ETA: Nevermind. Just saw your response above
"You're gonna miss this You're gonna want this back You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast..."
Aww, shanyzmac!! Now everything makes much more sense!! I'm glad you came back to clarify everything. Try to be assertive - he's YOUR LO and YOU are the parent.
I hope it all goes well and that it's not as bad as you expect - and if it is, that time just flies!! Good luck!
Thanks
) I may not come out to post much, but when I do I'm hardly ever disappointed! I don't know where I'd be without you girls!