at what age do you think is "too old" to get pg?

minnasmommy

I am 39. we would like to have another child. I always thought 40 was my cap for how long I wanted to be pg...now that 40 is looming, idk.

what do you think?  

 

edited:::: and we do want another child, so God willing, I'll have an easy time getting pg again and that will be it. I have a friend who has 5 kids--the last 3 were born while the mom was in her 40s. I personally don't have an issue with "older moms"--just wondering what the general consensus on this board was. 

you're right too--this board is a little biased to us "advanced maternal age" mommas!  

fauxshelley

I would say 50.  Go for it!!

minnasmommy

fwiw--I am very healthy, great diet, exercise. no medical issues except for asthma that I've had since I was 2 and is very well under control.

I had an easy time getting pg and aside from the morning sickness I loved being pg.

 

BrideBuddies

Methinks you ask a loaded question in these parts, since we're all biased toward older moms being just fine and dandy.

If YOU think you're too old, then that's the determining factor.

I'm 42 with kid #1 and we might try for a second one after this once comes out of the oven.

 

YaraC

There are lots of fabulous 40+ mamas on this board and parenting after 35, so I think 40 is not even close to too old.

Married2003

I'll be 40 when I have this baby and I definitely know I want at least one (possibly 2) more baby; so I hope it's not too late!

redsox_baby

This is such a tough question to answer, and I am not even sure I *have* an answer for you.

However, I am 36 now (will be JUST shy of 37 when the baby is born), and that's it for us. Age is one reason that will be all for us, but not the only reason.

When my son Benjamin was born, I suddenly found myself wishing I had him years sooner. I can't really explain it. 

So pregnancy and birth beyond 40 isn't for me personally, but more power to anyone who finds herself ready, willing and able.

 

lilacfritz

You're as young as you feel in some ways, and know what your body can handle.  I have a friend who had her first baby at 44 - no complications, she's very healthy and active,etc. and another friend who didn't want to have her body go through pregnancy past the age of 33.  : )  I think it can really vary. 

UTKD

I say go for it!  My SIL had her first baby at 40, and she would like to have another, if she can talk my BIL into it (he's 43 and has a 13-year old and 11-year old from a previous marriage-- he's not sure he wants four kids!).  I am having my first baby at 36.  My BFF is 36, too.  She has an 11-month old, and she and her DH want to have at least two more kids.  So, if you are healthy, willing and able, there is no limit to age for PG! 

Also, thank you so much for your comments about CVS.  It was nice to hear about your experience.  I had the procedure this morning, and now we must wait patiently for the results.   

livvielo

I don't think you can put a hard, fast cutoff number on it. It's totally dependent on the person and her health and situation. I would probably go by what my doctor had to say, along with how I was feeling. I'm 37, pregnant with my first now, and I do hope to have another.

JLSBWG

This is a personal question and hence my feeling about my own life, no one else's, is that 40 would be it for me. 

shimmerairbrush

I had my first at 31...i thought that would be it for me since i was single. Then i got married and am now pg with #2 at 37. EDD 1 day before my 38th bday. I am hoping to talk dh into another in a couple of years! I really dislike pregnancy but i love my kid so much, i want as many as i can.

Aug Bride

I was thinking 50 also.  Good Luck!

calico39

I'm 40 (as of last week) and pregnant with my first so I definitely don't think 40 is too old!!!!

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Sunsh1ne

Well, my mom had kids at 35 and 39, and my maternal grandmother had kids well into her mid-late 40s, so I hardly think you're too old.  I really think it's a personal decision.  But I hardly think 39 is "too old."  That sounds really silly to me, in fact.

You're only "too old" if you feel and think that way!

BarefootContess

Pregnancy gets a lot more stressful as you get towards 40, in my experience.  We hope to have one more after this one and I really hope to deliver when I am 40-41. 

OCNewlywed

Well, I am on #3, due in December and just turned 43. This is it for me! I wouldn't have minded being a bit younger but I got married at 36, first baby after just turning 38, then second at 40 and then two miscarriages before this pregnancy. We thought if it happens it happens and feel very lucky! So, ultimately, I think it's all relative...

Mrs.BoomBoom

My 1st thought was "when you can't conceive anymore" but then I thought of all those who go to extreme lengths of IVF/ED to conceive even when they're younger, so, I don't know.  I think it's when YOU feel like it's too old.

KGsky

I'm gonna say 45.  That's kind of arbitrary, but my sister had one at 43, no problem (except toward the end when her placenta started to dessicate...but I digress...) so, I figure at least until 43 is OK.   It's just weird that when my niece graduates from H.S., my sis will be 61.  Weird!