Anyone on or ever been on bedrest?

mandyn44

I began having contractions along with a shortening cervix at 32 weeks.  I went right into the hospital for 4 days and am now home on bedrest with some meds to keep from having contractions....I'm 2 weeks into my bedrest and have about 2 more weeks to go.  My husband is being FANTASTIC and I really can't complain.  But I also can't help some of my feelings...like, I'm so excited to be pregnant, especially so obviously pregnant = ) and I want to be out in the world!!!  I feel like I'm missing out on such a special part of my pregnancy.  Does that make sense?  I had so many plans for these couple months and now I feel like they are being wasted.  Of course, when it comes down to it, I know how important it is that I keep my baby healthy and 'incubating' as long as possible....aaaahhhhhhh....anyone have any thoughts?

southphilly

when I was on hospital bed rest, I thought of it this way: it's me on my back or my baby in the nicu fighting for his life. Obviously if you baby is in the hospital and you spend your days visiting him you are still missing out on your pregnancy- bedrest is best!

mandyn44

Absolutely.  I'm 100% for obeying my docs orders--just venting a little = )  I'm being really good and doing as I'm told because nothing matters more than the health of my baby...just was wondering if anyone had similar feelings.  Thanks for your thoughts!

TripMomma

I spent the last 6 weeks of my pregnancy in the hospital, so I know exactly what you mean. I felt very cheated out of a lot of stuff, and honestly the only thing that made it better for me was DH agreeing would could have another baby. So in a way I will get a do-over Hang in there...you are doing what's best.

mcdev

Absolutely.  Your feelings are very valid and I'll bet every one of us who have experienced bedrest can tell you that we felt the very same way!  I was bedrested with both pregnancies and I remember buying a bunch of maternity clothes just before hospital bedrest began with baby #2.  Clothes I couldn't wait to wear.  It was such an insignificant thing in the grand scheme of things (trust me...there was much more to be worried about!), but I still felt sad and very very cheated.  Hang in there.  It will be over before you know it and you will have a very healthy, thankful baby for it!

hewinked

I wasn't on bedrest, but I had the same feelings when DD came 5 weeks early.  Like the first time I drove post-partum and I looked down at my stomach and noticed I was no longer almost touching the steering wheel (I'm only 5 feet tall).  And I kept thinking, I should still be pregnant.  It was enough to make me cry.  I had those moments a lot after DD came.  I hope your baby stays put and grows to be healthy and strong and full-term.  GL!!

TupeloChick

You're not really missing anything. On the bright side you don't have to worry about everybody, even strangers, coming up to you and rubbing your belly. Use this time to do things you haven't had time to do before like watch all the movies you've missed, read those books you've had stacked up for months, go to Hulu and see if there are any shows you've never seen before and would like to watch. 

Seriously, when the baby comes, you will not have time for yourself for quite some time so just take advantage of it.

 

lemen99

I was only on bedrest for 2 weeks - then my baby was in the NICU - and I too felt totally cheated out of my pregnancy.  My showers were cancelled, and never did a stranger comment on my cute belly because it was just growing.

I know how you feel.  Just remind yourself that you're doing the best thing for baby and try to make the best of it :-) 

gizmo909

You're not alone on this one.  I was on bed rest from 12 weeks to 34 weeks when I delivered... yes, 5 months.  I won't lie, it sucked big time.  I still feel cheated out of my pregnancy, the birth of DS, and his first 3 weeks of life in the NICU.  Just keep reminding yourself that you're doing what is best for LO... and that's the best thing you can do right now.  Hang in there.  It will all be worth it in the end!

clyoungsey

I was on hospital bedrest for 5 1/2 weeks after pPROM...it sucked.  But in hindsight, I don't remember how horrid it was...I just am so thankful I had a 33 weeker instead of a 28 weeker!

mrst1014

I was on bedrest for 5 MONTHS! Ever since I was 8 weeks pregnant, and I delivered at 32 weeks. It majorly sucks, and I did feel totally cheated out of the whole experiance. The one day where I actually felt like a "glowing mom to be" was the day they released me off bedrest for my shower...she was born 48 hours later. If it wasn't for me being in bed, she could have come way earlier, or not at all. Sometimes we just have to do what we need to do. Hopefully next time (God willing) I will, and you will be able to stay away from the bed!