Blood tests back and results

Brittni Rimmer

They told me I have chlymedia (sp?)! DH won't talk to me now, but he said his issue is himself, not me. I have never cheated on him, and he's been my only sex partner.

NeverKnew

What?!  Soo... what do you do with that??  I don't know the back story, but I can't imagine this is great news.

The Vaughns

Oh no. Sorry to hear that. Is it treatable?

 What do you mean his issue is himself not you? Do you mean he realizes he was the one that brought this to your relationship?  Im just a little confused.

taagent

Is he going to get tested???  GL

murfygirl

Don't they test for this when you first get pregnant? Did you not have it then?

Hip2Bsquare

babyemily:

They told me I have chlymedia (sp?)! DH won't talk to me now, but he said his issue is himself, not me. I have never cheated on him, and he's been my only sex partner.

 Has your DH been tested? Are you HIS only partner? Did the dr. give any other possible way that you could have contracted it?

kimilane

Wow...ummm...if DH has been your only partner...then you got the chlamydia from your DH. I'd have to know when he'd "stepped out" if I were you. However, seriously think about the situation and use the mantra I always use: Only ask questions you'd want to know the worst possible answer to.

Basically, if you wouldn't be able to deal with his worst answer he could give you, and you don't want to have to leave him...don't ask for details, get counseling, and move forward. Otherwise, ask away.

Good luck with everything.

gunsofbrixton

Chlamydia is an STD so obviously someone has been cheating...at least thats the general assumption...hmmm...

ibis

babyemily:

They told me I have chlymedia (sp?)!DH won't talk to me now, but he said his issue is himself, not me. I have never cheated on him, and he's been my only sex partner.

Wow. What are you going to do? He has clearly cheated on you, I guess the question is when... that sucks, I'm sorry.

taagent

He MAY not have cheated if he was with other women BEFORE you.  If not, then yeah, he has cheated.  But there is still the possibility your relationship came AFTER he got the STD.

Hip2Bsquare

Sorry I had so many questions so I googled it.....

here is a good website to find answers

 

april22ky

Have you ever been tested for this before?  Is this something that he could have possibly had prior to you?  Chlymadia is actually one of the easier ones to cure (not that it should make you feel better), but then the issue becomes him. I know that I was getting tested every 6 months for STD's prior to getting pregnant.  I've actually had chlymadia before and am very paranoid when it comes to STD's.  They are a lot more common than you may think, and a lot of men and women do not see any symptoms of it and pass it on because they never get checked.   

Brittni Rimmer

I'm getting my prescription today. But I'm just so overwhelmed. She did tell me that we can't have sex until he gets tested, and then gets treated. I just don't know what to do.

april22ky

DO NOT have sex with him once you start your meds.  If you do that, then there is no point in taking the meds because he will just be giving it right back to you. Make him go immediately or see if the doctor will perscribe the same thing for him. 

 

ibis

taagent:

He MAY not have cheated if he was with other women BEFORE you.  If not, then yeah, he has cheated.  But there is still the possibility your relationship came AFTER he got the STD.

I'm a little confused here... the link that a pp posted said that symptoms of chlamydia generally show up within 1-3 weeks. So unless the OP is pregnant by immaculate conception, her DH cheated. The math doesn't add up any other way as far as I can see. It's not like HPV which can sit around undetected for years.

OP, did you get tested because you were having symptoms or did it just pop up when you went in for something else? 

murfygirl

Chlamydia doesn't really have a lot of symptoms and can go unnoticed. Is it possible you or DH had it before you were together?

murfygirl

ibis:

taagent:

He MAY not have cheated if he was with other women BEFORE you.  If not, then yeah, he has cheated.  But there is still the possibility your relationship came AFTER he got the STD.

I'm a little confused here... the link that a pp posted said that symptoms of chlamydia generally show up within 1-3 weeks. So unless the OP is pregnant by immaculate conception, her DH cheated. The math doesn't add up any other way as far as I can see. It's not like HPV which can sit around undetected for years.

OP, did you get tested because you were having symptoms or did it just pop up when you went in for something else? 

Its known as the "silent" disease because there can be no symptoms for men. 

https://www.cdc.gov/std/chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm#symptoms

Read the symptoms part in this article 

taagent

ibis:

taagent:

He MAY not have cheated if he was with other women BEFORE you.  If not, then yeah, he has cheated.  But there is still the possibility your relationship came AFTER he got the STD.

I'm a little confused here... the link that a pp posted said that symptoms of chlamydia generally show up within 1-3 weeks. So unless the OP is pregnant by immaculate conception, her DH cheated. The math doesn't add up any other way as far as I can see. It's not like HPV which can sit around undetected for years.

OP, did you get tested because you were having symptoms or did it just pop up when you went in for something else? 

I read that too but also know that it can go unnoticed or maybe he thought it was something else and didn't get it checked.  I just wanted to offer another explanation instead of the "he definitely cheated" train because what if he didn't? 

Hip2Bsquare

ibis:

taagent:

He MAY not have cheated if he was with other women BEFORE you.  If not, then yeah, he has cheated.  But there is still the possibility your relationship came AFTER he got the STD.

I'm a little confused here... the link that a pp posted said that symptoms of chlamydia generally show up within 1-3 weeks. So unless the OP is pregnant by immaculate conception, her DH cheated. The math doesn't add up any other way as far as I can see. It's not like HPV which can sit around undetected for years.

OP, did you get tested because you were having symptoms or did it just pop up when you went in for something else? 

I see what you saying but some of the symptoms are soooo vague i.e. cramping and painful urination are also signs of either being pregnant or UTI etc. If the cramping wasn't even that bad than I might even think it was normal for/during pregnancy and wouldn't go to a dr.

Luv-a-Bug

 

Well.... the test for him is going to be a LOT less fun than your test was... so he'll be sorry if he did mess around.    And the good news is that you found this out before the baby was born so and your H can be treated and have it be over with.

Speaking of which, anyone see the bit on the Chlamydia test from Entourage this past week?  I was amused by it, but definitely cringeworthy.

ibis

"What if he didn't" is a weird way to look at the possibility of your husband cheating. 

Doesn't anyone think that him refusing to talk about this makes him look pretty guilty? 

LovelyMissNikki

Even if he had it from way before, if he was sexually active before getting with his wife, the responsible thing would have been to have gotten checked for STDs himself before becoming sexually active with her. All it would have taken was a simple urine test.. so even if he didn't cheat on her, the fact that a) he won't talk to her right now and b) didn't get STD check-ups when he was sexually active before still makes him very much so at fault.

Hip2Bsquare

murfygirl:

ibis:

taagent:

He MAY not have cheated if he was with other women BEFORE you.  If not, then yeah, he has cheated.  But there is still the possibility your relationship came AFTER he got the STD.

I'm a little confused here... the link that a pp posted said that symptoms of chlamydia generally show up within 1-3 weeks. So unless the OP is pregnant by immaculate conception, her DH cheated. The math doesn't add up any other way as far as I can see. It's not like HPV which can sit around undetected for years.

OP, did you get tested because you were having symptoms or did it just pop up when you went in for something else? 

Its known as the "silent" disease because there can be no symptoms for men. 

https://www.cdc.gov/std/chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm#symptoms

Read the symptoms part in this article 

I'm Just pointing out that that's the same website I posted up above with a clicky....but it's all good.

OregonPachey

ibis:

"What if he didn't" is a weird way to look at the possibility of your husband cheating. 

Doesn't anyone think that him refusing to talk about this makes him look pretty guilty? 

Yes, this seems pretty fishy to me.

murfygirl

Italiannvegas:

murfygirl:

ibis:

taagent:

He MAY not have cheated if he was with other women BEFORE you.  If not, then yeah, he has cheated.  But there is still the possibility your relationship came AFTER he got the STD.

I'm a little confused here... the link that a pp posted said that symptoms of chlamydia generally show up within 1-3 weeks. So unless the OP is pregnant by immaculate conception, her DH cheated. The math doesn't add up any other way as far as I can see. It's not like HPV which can sit around undetected for years.

OP, did you get tested because you were having symptoms or did it just pop up when you went in for something else? 

Its known as the "silent" disease because there can be no symptoms for men. 

https://www.cdc.gov/std/chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm#symptoms

Read the symptoms part in this article 

I'm Just pointing out that that's the same website I posted up above with a clicky....but it's all good.

Sorry I didn't read your post and it just says website and I don't have time to click on every clicky  link someone gives. I was just backing up what I put with my own research. But thanks for the advice.

Hip2Bsquare

OregonPachey:

ibis:

"What if he didn't" is a weird way to look at the possibility of your husband cheating. 

Doesn't anyone think that him refusing to talk about this makes him look pretty guilty? 

Yes, this seems pretty fishy to me.

Yes I have to agree...if she is 23 weeks pg than it looks like she might have been cheated on.

taagent

For the record, I am NOT saying he didn't cheat.  It seems we and even the OP may not know the whole story.

TheNextD'Angelo

Good lord girls! Stop freaking the girl out. He totally could have had this for years. I work in an STD clinic and Chlamydia is an STD that is easily treatable. It often has no symptoms especially in men.  It is VERY possible he has had this for years before he met you. It does NOT mean he is currently cheating on you, unless you think he is (of course, I don't know ur husband). He probably feels guilty/scared that his past behavior could affect the baby. Good news...you caught it before you deliver so it can be easily treated appropriately. Just talk it out with him. Girls, do some studying before you jump to conclusions and completely wreck a marriage. I hope this helps and that you 2 can work things out.

Carmela752

TheNextD'Angelo:

Good lord girls! Stop freaking the girl out. He totally could have had this for years. I work in an STD clinic and Chlamydia is an STD that is easily treatable. It often has no symptoms especially in men.  It is VERY possible he has had this for years before he met you. It does NOT mean he is currently cheating on you, unless you think he is (of course, I don't know ur husband). He probably feels guilty/scared that his past behavior could affect the baby. Good news...you caught it before you deliver so it can be easily treated appropriately. Just talk it out with him. Girls, do some studying before you jump to conclusions and completely wreck a marriage. I hope this helps and that you 2 can work things out.

 

This. Thank you.

GulfCoaster

Did you have STD tests done at your first blood draw after becoming pregnant, or as part of a pre-conception panel?  Did you have chlamydia then?  I'd ask your doctor if he/she tested then -- often women don't know what exactly they are tested for unless there is a problem.

If you didn't have chlamydia 26 weeks ago, and you do now, then you have a big problem and it's likely he cheated.  If you weren't tested then, or haven't ever been tested after becoming sexually active with him, it's possible that he could have carried it all this time without symptoms.

First step -- your DH has to get tested.  And then you have to figure out roughly when you caught chlamydia... that information may be highly relevant to what you do to respond to this whole situation.

angelaa73

TheNextD'Angelo:

Good lord girls! Stop freaking the girl out. He totally could have had this for years. I work in an STD clinic and Chlamydia is an STD that is easily treatable. It often has no symptoms especially in men.  It is VERY possible he has had this for years before he met you. It does NOT mean he is currently cheating on you, unless you think he is (of course, I don't know ur husband). He probably feels guilty/scared that his past behavior could affect the baby. Good news...you caught it before you deliver so it can be easily treated appropriately. Just talk it out with him. Girls, do some studying before you jump to conclusions and completely wreck a marriage. I hope this helps and that you 2 can work things out.

and the reason HE'S NOT TALKING TO HER, oh wise one?

dun dun dunnnnnn... He Cheated

neonstarfish

angelaa73:

TheNextD'Angelo:

Good lord girls! Stop freaking the girl out. He totally could have had this for years. I work in an STD clinic and Chlamydia is an STD that is easily treatable. It often has no symptoms especially in men.  It is VERY possible he has had this for years before he met you. It does NOT mean he is currently cheating on you, unless you think he is (of course, I don't know ur husband). He probably feels guilty/scared that his past behavior could affect the baby. Good news...you caught it before you deliver so it can be easily treated appropriately. Just talk it out with him. Girls, do some studying before you jump to conclusions and completely wreck a marriage. I hope this helps and that you 2 can work things out.

and the reason HE'S NOT TALKING TO HER, oh wise one?

dun dun dunnnnnn... He Cheated

darn it.. I wanted to say that.... just the dun dun part... not the he's cheating part...

Wake_Life

Carmela752:

TheNextD'Angelo:

Good lord girls! Stop freaking the girl out. He totally could have had this for years. I work in an STD clinic and Chlamydia is an STD that is easily treatable. It often has no symptoms especially in men.  It is VERY possible he has had this for years before he met you. It does NOT mean he is currently cheating on you, unless you think he is (of course, I don't know ur husband). He probably feels guilty/scared that his past behavior could affect the baby. Good news...you caught it before you deliver so it can be easily treated appropriately. Just talk it out with him. Girls, do some studying before you jump to conclusions and completely wreck a marriage. I hope this helps and that you 2 can work things out.

 

Okay, I was thinking this way at first too however don't they test you for these things at the beginnning of pregnancy? If so, and she did not test positive then, isn't it highly unlikely that he had it for years and just happened to only pass it along to her now that she is half way into her pregnancy? Also, I'm curious why she got tested, did she start having some type of symptoms?  How long has she been with her husband? If he had it prior to their relationship and they have been sexually active for quite some time don't you think she would have gotten it well before this point?   

 

This. Thank you.

lilhotcandie69

ibis:

taagent:

He MAY not have cheated if he was with other women BEFORE you.  If not, then yeah, he has cheated.  But there is still the possibility your relationship came AFTER he got the STD.

I'm a little confused here... the link that a pp posted said that symptoms of chlamydia generally show up within 1-3 weeks. So unless the OP is pregnant by immaculate conception, her DH cheated. The math doesn't add up any other way as far as I can see. It's not like HPV which can sit around undetected for years.

OP, did you get tested because you were having symptoms or did it just pop up when you went in for something else? 

To my knowledge this info is negative. I've had chlamydia before(my loser ex cheated on me haha weird coincidence) and its actually an std that can go months undetected. Some individuals don't even get symptoms.

The best thing to do is have the DH tested. Also find out if he had partners before you, its quite possible that he's had this std for awhile without knowing.

lilhotcandie69

angelaa73:

TheNextD'Angelo:

Good lord girls! Stop freaking the girl out. He totally could have had this for years. I work in an STD clinic and Chlamydia is an STD that is easily treatable. It often has no symptoms especially in men.  It is VERY possible he has had this for years before he met you. It does NOT mean he is currently cheating on you, unless you think he is (of course, I don't know ur husband). He probably feels guilty/scared that his past behavior could affect the baby. Good news...you caught it before you deliver so it can be easily treated appropriately. Just talk it out with him. Girls, do some studying before you jump to conclusions and completely wreck a marriage. I hope this helps and that you 2 can work things out.

and the reason HE'S NOT TALKING TO HER, oh wise one?

dun dun dunnnnnn... He Cheated

lilhotcandie69

angelaa73:

TheNextD'Angelo:

Good lord girls! Stop freaking the girl out. He totally could have had this for years. I work in an STD clinic and Chlamydia is an STD that is easily treatable. It often has no symptoms especially in men.  It is VERY possible he has had this for years before he met you. It does NOT mean he is currently cheating on you, unless you think he is (of course, I don't know ur husband). He probably feels guilty/scared that his past behavior could affect the baby. Good news...you caught it before you deliver so it can be easily treated appropriately. Just talk it out with him. Girls, do some studying before you jump to conclusions and completely wreck a marriage. I hope this helps and that you 2 can work things out.

and the reason HE'S NOT TALKING TO HER, oh wise one?

dun dun dunnnnnn... He Cheated

Thankyou for stating the true facts. Too many websites you cannot rely on and too many ladies are jumping to conclusions or getting there facts wrong.

TarponMonoxide

His issue is himself.

Meaning what? He contracted chlamydia clear out of nowhere (toilet seat or fomite, maybe, also) and nobody else is involved?

What a stupid skumbag.