Second time Pregnant Girls ? for you...

misjenn

Is your dh "less involved" this time around i.e. cravings, drs appts etc?

Amrice78

not really

he's actually going to more appointments overall.  We had a little scare last week about him not making the U/S, but he ended up making it, so he can now continue to live

JandB07

Yes, it makes me kind of sad.  But then I see what a great dad he is with DD and I think that he's just so focused on her right now that the new baby isn't "real" to him yet.  I know as soon as the new baby comes though he'll be over the moon again.

GabbysMama

DH went to every appt. with my during my first pregnancy.  I thought it was a little much but he wanted to be involved and it was cute.  This pregnancy he would probably do the same but I told him there is no need to.  Most of the time at my appts. last time he just stood around looking bored. LOL.

I put on 70lbs my first pregnancy and promised that would not happen this time.  It better not cosidering I have not even come close to losing it.  He doesn't really seem too interested in my cravings, he actually says things like "remember what happened last time".  LOL.  I asked him to do this when I start thinking cake and Doritos are staples in the house.

marinewife51

I'd say my DH was just as involved, or maybe even more involved. He was very sensitive to my needs and wellbeing given that I was working and also had a toddler to run around after. He tried to make sure I was taking care of myself.

mlf625

Sort of, but I don't think it's intentional. ?We both tend to forget I'm pregnant and I think it's just not on the forefront of his mind as much since we don't talk about it incessantly like we did last time. ?One example- he had a slight cold the day of my NT scan and stayed home. ?That never would have flown with DS- but this time around it wasn't such a huge deal. ?

TMs1stBaby

No, but he's never been super involved in my pregnancies.  It killed me the first time through, because I'd read on here about all the DH's being so great and all, but that's just not him.  He's a wonderful father and husband, he just doesn't gush over pregnancy.  I've come to terms with it. 

Shell24

I'd say he's the same.  He probably doesn't talk to my belly as much as he did the first time though 

I'm almost less involved this time    With my DD, I was just so excited and focused on the pregnancy, etc.  I'm excited this time, but it doesn't feel real, and I'm so busy with my DD, selling our condo, etc. that I don't have time to focus on it as much. 

But I really can't wait for the baby to get here   

Nicole731

Not really. Pretty much the same. He only went to u/s before and he's done the same this time.

JSORIANO

DH still attends all Dr appt with me.  He just doesn't baby me as much, which doesn't surprise me as he is taking care of DD more so I can bum on sofa and sleep.

MrsKellyOrBust

He's not as into this pregnancy but he's probably just following my lead. With our first, our lives revolved around the pregnancy. Notsomuch this time around.

Heather R

yes, but I was high risk and on bedrest and unable to drive, etc. last time.

lite-bright

Not really. He's more involved in taking care of DD when I feel crappy (which was a lot during the first tri) and doing things around the house -- neither of us had to juggle those things the first time around. But he still picked up frosties or pretzels when I was feeling sick. (I have way more aversions than cravings.)

He hasn't gone to an appointment yet, which is a big difference -- but I've only had two, scheduled them at bad times for him to get away from work, and both of us were okay with me not changing them. They already have his family history, etc., and we're familiar with the process/our doc/the hospital from going through it all before. But most of my appointments he'll end up coming to, to handle DD. 

true_norskie

So I'm not currently PG but with my second he went to less doctor's appointments.  But he was WAY more sensitive to what I was actually going through.  He totally took on the house work, a lot of the caregiving for DD, "waited on me" and let me rest when I needed to. 

Having watched the birth of our first and my recovery from that gave him a LOT of respect for the sacrifice women make to carry and birth children.

Mrs.tlcS

yes, but he's not been at his current job for all that long, and he doesn't get the same kind of liberal leave as he did before, so I'd rather he wait and take a few days off when the baby is here instead of coming to my appointments and stuff.  As far as catering to my cravings or whatever, that's fairly close to the same.

brandonsfuturewife07

yes.  he can't go to dr. appts because he has to hang out with DS--DS isn't allowed at the dr. office.

he has made it to 2 out of 5 ultrasounds though.

MattsWifey<3

nope. he's still as excited as if it were our first all over again. he's very helpful and i like to use it to my advantage. tee hee hee.

KGsky

Yes, but he's still extra-involved in the care of #1, so I can't be too mad at him.  I do become a bit of a primadonna when I'm "in a family way," so sometimes he gets annoyed and I have to just let it go.  He does still try, though.  I'm just not sure it's possible fo him to cater to me as much as he did with #1.  I have to be honest, I kinda miss it .