Would you tell?

two-pink-shoes

So I'm sort of co-hosting (sort of b/c up to this point I've done all the work) a b-party next week for my BFF.  There is one other girl who has said she'll help me and I'm writing her a note about what kinds of foods we should serve.  I said I want to get already prepared foods even though we had previously discussed using her kitchen to do a bunch of the cooking.  Should I tell her this is because I'm pregnant and am going to do whatever possible to make sure I get in a nap before the party?  Or just leave it?

jensneb

I'd say it depends on if you're ready for people to know yet, and how close you are to this person.  If you're ok with the news slipping go ahead and tell.  If not, I would just keep it quiet and let her think you're a little quirky

buckin

Just leave it. You don't need to excuse every decision you make because of the pregnancy.

I thought you had a wedding to be in next weekend?

mrsadamc 05

Leave it.  If there is going to be drinking involved at this party who's to know if she's going to get drunk and tell someone. 

You could always tell her the week of the party you have been feeling under the weather and you are taking the easy way out!

lecooke

If she asks you why then tell her that since you've been doing all the work yourself so far anyway...

Tell if you want.  Just know that if you do, other people will find out from her instead of you. 

two-pink-shoes

buckin:

I thought you had a wedding to be in next weekend?

The bachelorette party is Thursday and the wedding is Saturday (same person).

buckin

two-pink-shoes:

buckin:

I thought you had a wedding to be in next weekend?

The bachelorette party is Thursday and the wedding is Saturday (same person).

OH OK. I saw B-party and was thinking Birthday party and I was like good gawd how much is she cramming in one weekend? I'd need a nap even if I wasn't pregnant!

jCamsquared

I think it's reasonable to want to do that and take a nap before a b-party even when not pregnant!

Anna&Matt

I think it depends, does the bride already know you're pg? I'd probably try to avoid telling - maybe just say you think time will be tight and you should get prepared foods for the party.

The harder part is going to be when they all notice you're not drinking. I'd prepare an excuse for that if you would normally be drinking significantly (I used migraines for a while).

caffinated_tulip

I took a nap before my bachelorette party, and I wasn't pregnant. Napping before a party needs no excuse.