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Vent: My H is SOOO lazy

buttrflychic05buttrflychic05
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I realize my H works all week and I don't, but we have always had two agreements when it comes to house work... if I put clothes in washer, change to dryer and take out of dryer- you fold them (we each put our own clothes away)... I have washed about 6 loads of laundry and they just sat in the kitchen floor for about two weeks, I finally decided tonight to fold it myself... HE YELLS AT ME that "he will get to it"

 the second agreement (made before we were married) was that if I cooked, he cleans the kitchen- it takes him like 4 hours to even put the left overs away, most of the time I am afraid of even eating the left overs because he leaves them out so long... and his definition of cleaning the kitchen is washing the dishes (he waits until our entire counter top is covered in clean dishes before he'll put them away, which to me is part of cleaning the kitchen), it takes him so long to empty the dishwasher that its almost empty by the time he unloads it because we have to grab dishes out of the dishwasher to even eat... he doesn't wipe off the counter, he doesn't rinse out the sink, he doesn't wipe off the glass top stove (to the point where if I let it go for even just a few days I have to get the razor blade off to get everything off) 

I hate it, I don't ask much of him- those two things (and now cleaning the bath tub, which takes him almost a week to do after I ask) and it kills me that he can't actually do it... and complains when there are dishes all over the counter or clothes all over the floor or whatever... I JUST HATE IT...

thanks for listening... I just needed to vent before I blew up at him 

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  • thetwistedwillowthetwistedwillow member
    I think many of us can relate! I wish there was a magic button (like on the commercials) for making our husbands HELP out around the house!
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  • buttrflychic05buttrflychic05
    I don't even think its the fact that he doesn't do it, but then either gets mad at me when I do or complains that HIS chore isn't done as if I am supposed to it.
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  • thetwistedwillowthetwistedwillow member

    Honestly I gave up a long time ago. I don't remember the last time DH did the dishes (we don't have a dishwasher). His part of the laundry is carrying the hamper down and the clean, folded clothes up. His major thing is mowing and taking out the trash but even then I sometimes take out the trash if it's really "ripe" because I can't stand nasty smells.

    I enjoy cleaning and having a clean home so I just end up doing most of it since I'm home anyway and have nothing else to do.

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  • SusieQ1982SusieQ1982

    imagenjeosys:
    I think many of us can relate! I wish there was a magic button (like on the commercials) for making our husbands HELP out around the house!

    There is- change the attitude that he should be "helping" around the house. It's his damn house too, so he should be doing half the work anyway.

    I don't know, maybe I just got lucky? My husband is lazy about a few things but he definitely does his share around the house and more now that I'm a frigging whale.

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  • buttrflychic05buttrflychic05
    imageSusieQ1982:

     My husband is lazy about a few things but he definitely does his share around the house and more now that I'm a frigging whale. 

    I think my husband is one of those bone head husbands who thinks that pregnancy is a breeze and that we make up all of our aches and pains- he actually helps out less around the house, won't have sex with me (and it has nothing to do with the baby, just that I have gained 30 pounds), won't shower with me anymore, anything... my frustration with my husband is deep right now and I am sure is the same frustration that many women have with their DH

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  • SusieQ1982SusieQ1982
    imagebuttrflychic05:
    imageSusieQ1982:

     My husband is lazy about a few things but he definitely does his share around the house and more now that I'm a frigging whale. 

    I think my husband is one of those bone head husbands who thinks that pregnancy is a breeze and that we make up all of our aches and pains- he actually helps out less around the house, won't have sex with me (and it has nothing to do with the baby, just that I have gained 30 pounds), won't shower with me anymore, anything... my frustration with my husband is deep right now and I am sure is the same frustration that many women have with their DH

    Have you tried talking to him? He must have some redeeming qualities or you wouldn't have had a baby with him, right? Because you're seriously making him out to be a total a$$hole.

    I mean, not having sex with you because you gained a little weight being pregnant? Give me a break. 

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  • buttrflychic05buttrflychic05

    He's got a great personality- he's funny, smart, driven, hard working and a great cuddler... but me being pregnant (or us being pregnant more or less) is taking a toll on his mannerism like house work and sex

    It seems like I am making him out to be bad- he's not- he just is right now- and yes I have talked to him and since you already think I am making him out to be a butthead- I'll leave his responses out of it- it only makes it worse 

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