Did you know that when our moms were all pregnant

Bonzer

or most of our moms, not sure how old most of you are... that it was considered a COMPLIMENT to say to a pregnant woman " awww, look how big you're getting!"

My mom said it to me one day and I gave her the look of death. She was all taken aback by my reaction and said that when she was pregnant or anyone her age that they were excited, wait, no, FLATTERED to be told they were really getting big!

WTF?

lpennie16

I call bullsh!t  :-)

It's easy to hear at this stage of the game, but not in the 1st or 2nd tri.

B!tchBeckman

My mom too...

nadiarl

I like it when people say that, I just hope to god they are referring to my belly and not my thighs. I don't understand the up-tightness around this statement.

Abinormal

I actually feel flattered or excited when someone tells me how big I am getting. It makes me happy because I know that my baby is growing and people can tell that I am pregnant and happy.

I actually really don't understand people who get their feelings hurt when someone makes a comment about their belly. We are pregnant, our bellies are going to get big, it's beautiful and we should all be proud.

sestock17

nadiarl:

I like it when people say that, I just hope to god they are referring to my belly and not my thighs. I don't understand the up-tightness around this statement.

I agree.  We are pregnant and we are getting bigger.  I am usually the first one to comment the state of my rotundness and don't mind when others chime in.  

Bonzer

It only upsets me when they say " oh wow, you must be ready to go any day now" as if they see my baby crowning or something...

Meanwhile I have 8 weeks to go and it's like, " uh, no, Not yet"

and then there eyes bug out and they say " whoa, you're huge"

 

Thanks. 

wordtoyourmother

My family is from the islands.  To tell someone they are big or fat (especially during pregnancy) is a compliment.  I guess if you're eating alot, that means you can afford more food for your family = you're getting paid well.  

 

 

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I love it when people say how big my belly is!!   

A S-ski

I can't stand it.  I guess because people never specify just belly-they just say you are big in general.  No one wants to hear that.  It would also be different if people just said big but it is usually something more like "huge" or "OMG you are huge" and it is usually followed by some type of snicker or laugh.  I actually had a lady tell DH "I'm fat like Andrea but I don't have an excuse".  That really pissed me off.  Maybe I'm just too touchy but I don't think it is ever nice to tell someone they are big. 

buttrflychic05

I think for me it depends on how it is said... you can tell when people are using it as a compliment (like when my dad says "wow, sweetie, you sure are getting big" with a huge smile on his face- he means it nicely; when my 16 year old niece says "OH MY GOSH, you are getting BIG!" with her eyes bugging out of her head like I am an alien- that's soooo not a compliment)

ToledoDeux

I will never understand why people get upset about hearing this.  The fact is, your belly is getting bigger and people are excited for you.  They're not calling you fat, FFS.

Novemberrocks

My mom says this sort of stuff all the time.  She enjoyed getting 'big', but big for her meant gaining 10 lbs (at 9 months preg, she tipped the scales at 125 lbs).  It's a little different for a woman like myself, who would kill to be 125 lbs when NOT pregnant.

Novemberrocks

ToledoDeux:

I will never understand why people get upset about hearing this.  The fact is, your belly is getting bigger and people are excited for you.  They're not calling you fat, FFS.

 Actually, my FIL now refers to me as "fatso".  I let it slide b/c it's kinda the pot calling the kettle black.

jrlandrigan

I don't really mind the "you're getting big" comments.. It's the "here comes the fat lady" comments as DH's grandmother says to me that bother me.. But I know she doesn't mean it like that.. When I leave the room I hear her saying to others about how great I look, so that makes me feel a little better. Just don't call me fat and I will be happy .

 

getnmarried910

Really?  Maybe if it wasn't always followed up with "Are you sure you've only got one in there" it wouldn't be so bad, but pregnant or not, I don't like people commenting on my size.

cchill01

lpennie16:

I call bullsh!t  :-)

It's easy to hear at this stage of the game, but not in the 1st or 2nd tri.

I actually liked it in the 2nd tri because I was so anxious to look pregnant.  Now, I'm starting to take offense.

ilenegrace

I knew my mom was insulting me yesterday when she said she thought my baby looked small!

Harms80

Bonzer:

It only upsets me when they say " oh wow, you must be ready to go any day now" as if they see my baby crowning or something...

Meanwhile I have 8 weeks to go and it's like, " uh, no, Not yet"

and then there eyes bug out and they say " whoa, you're huge"

 

Thanks. 

Same for me.   Everyone at work assumes I am due any day and when I tell them the day before Thanksgiving, they totally bug out.  Not my fault they aren't familiar with pregnant ladies...  We get big!

nmr79

A S-ski:

I can't stand it.  I guess because people never specify just belly-they just say you are big in general.  No one wants to hear that.  It would also be different if people just said big but it is usually something more like "huge" or "OMG you are huge" and it is usually followed by some type of snicker or laugh.  I actually had a lady tell DH "I'm fat like Andrea but I don't have an excuse".  That really pissed me off.  Maybe I'm just too touchy but I don't think it is ever nice to tell someone they are big. 

This.  People often say it in a way that is either amused and/or disgusted. I find it terribly rude.

epopp85

Whenever I get that statement, I just say, "I know right??"  It doesn't really bother me because I AM getting big.  ::side eyes siggy pic::  There's no denying it.  At least I feel like I look pg and not just fat.

SusieQ1982

*shrugs* I don't mind hearing it, honestly.

mandiespudich

nadiarl:

I like it when people say that, I just hope to god they are referring to my belly and not my thighs. I don't understand the up-tightness around this statement.

I'm with you...I enjoy the comments...afterall - and here's the news flash - WE ARE PREGNANT!!!! WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE GETTING BIG!

 

mandiespudich

nadiarl:

I like it when people say that, I just hope to god they are referring to my belly and not my thighs. I don't understand the up-tightness around this statement.

I'm with you...I enjoy the comments...afterall - and here's the news flash - WE ARE PREGNANT!!!! WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE GETTING BIG!

AJluvsLI

Bonzer:

It only upsets me when they say " oh wow, you must be ready to go any day now" as if they see my baby crowning or something...

Meanwhile I have 8 weeks to go and it's like, " uh, no, Not yet"

This.

sgrl

It irks me when I hear it ten times a day AT WORK how huge I am or have people (it's ALWAYS men) who ask me how much weight I've gained - I don't think it's professional to comment on other people's bodies at work! Now, if my family members comment, that's ok. That's my family, that's my personal life. I don't want my coworkers staring at and evaluating the size of my body. That's not their business. Oh, and "Don't worry - you'll get your figure back!" - that's not their business either. I can be as fat or as skinny as I want after this baby and it's NONE of my coworker's business.

iowagirl73

If I'm in a bad mood for some reason, the comment bugs me and sometimes I DO actually enjoy the comment.  But overall, I really don't see the big deal in the comment.  Face it.  Compared to a pre-pg you, your (stomach) IS bigger.  I guess there are just other things I'd rather get pissed off about then someone saying that I'm getting big.

epuorro

&&:

I love it when people say how big my belly is!!   

 Me too!!

jennlovesrandy05

It bothers me. I had 2 ladies at work say, "That is going to be a big baby! You must be done gaining weight".....I said, "I am pregnant and this is the first time in 10 years that I haven't been watching my weight. Leave me alone!" Sooooo annoying!

smilelari

My mom still brags about how little weight she gained and about being able to wear her pre-PG jeans home from the hospital.

Yeah.  Definitely not true for all of our moms

mae0111

It's not so much the "You're getting big" comments that bother me.  It's the "Wow - how much weight have you gained" comments. 

Also, the comments about whatever food is on my plate - no matter what it is.  I'm careful about what I eat, but I still treat myself - just like before I got pregnant.  So I don't want to be told that I'm "starving" the baby when you see me eating a salad with lean protein, and I don't want to hear comments about the "fat lady" because I've decided to enjoy a good meal at an Italian restaurant on a Saturday night.

My thinking is as follows:  if you wouldn't say/do it to a woman that isn't pregnant, don't say/do it to a woman that is.  Don't ask about weight gain, don't rub her belly, and don't comment on her lunch!