? about sonos

Jitterbug2668

So the MIL words of wisdom have begun...

She went for her mammogram and told the tech that her DIL (me) was pregnant and didn't want to know the sex of the baby.  DH and I decided we did not want to find out, we wanted it to be a surprise and I WANT to keep it that way. 

Well apparently the tech told my MIL that w/ the sonograms these days (apparently they're the 4-D ones @ our hospital) that we won't have a choice.  That we will see what it is regardless.  So MIL calls DH and tells him this and gets me all irritated this morning because everyone just wants to be nosey.  My hormones are telling me to tell her to piss off already. 

Please tell me that if we tell the tech we dont want to know they wont show!? 

Artslvr

That's totally ridiculous.  They can't MAKE you look for pete's sake.  Just ask the tech to ask you to turn away when they approach the nether-regions.  That way you can still see baby but look away so the surprise is not spoiled.

Temp763151187501242

I would think they can still see it but NOT tell you.  That's the way it is for non 4-D ones.  Without them explaining, at least on a regular u/s, you really wouldn't know what you were seeing.

vtmezzo

You won't know what you're looking at until somebody explains it to you. Just tell the tech you don't want to know, and they won't tell you. Props to you for being able to stand the suspense - I felt like I just HAD to know ASAP!

QueSrah

At our "big" u/s, the tech definitely asked us if we wanted to know.  And at every subsequent u/s (I've had a lot), the tech generally asks up front if we know the sex - I assume so she will know whether or not to use "she" or a generic "the baby" when she's narrating what she's seeing on the screen.  I can't imagine seeing a tech who is so insensitive to the many people who want to be surprised that they won't ask before giving the news away!

 I hope your MIL doesn't drive you nuts through the whole pregnancy!

ETA that while the hospital has machines that do 4D, most of the visit (at least at VHC) is done in the old-school and harder-to-read-to-a-newbie 2 or 3D pics and they only switched to 4D at the very end of the appointment to show us the baby's face.  The regular diagnostics (the main point of the test) aren't done in 4D mode.

jess08200

We made it through our entire pregnancy without finding out.

Like PP said, they will ask you if you want to know or not and when it came time for the "money shot" she told us to turn away so we wouldn't know if it was a he/she.

Artslvr

QueSrah:

ETA that while the hospital has machines that do 4D, most of the visit (at least at VHC) is done in the old-school and harder-to-read-to-a-newbie 2 or 3D pics and they only switched to 4D at the very end of the appointment to show us the baby's face.  The regular diagnostics (the main point of the test) aren't done in 4D mode.

Yeah, I would be surprised if insurance covers 4D unless it's medically necessary.

Hey Jellisy

I will say even though we told the tech we did not want to know, MULTIPLE TIMES, she still told us.  It wasn't the end of the world and we love our daughter just as much for knowing as being surprised.  

Sofka

I never had a 3D or 4D u/s; we did not want to have anything that wasn't medically necessary and I'm pretty sure our insurance wouldn't have paid for it if it wasn't medically necessary.

unless you are a pro, you really won't know what you are looking at; tell your DH to tell his Mom to butt out, it's your baby and this is the 1st of many decisions she won't agree it, and she doesn't have to, but she does have to respect it b/c it's YOUR baby

DCtoLowcountry

When I had my u/s, switching to 3D was just a matter of flipping a switch for the tech, so we have 3D pictures from our regular ultrasounds. It depends on the equipment at the office.

But on topic, if you want to be surprised on the baby's birthday, ask MIL to respect that!

MrsNJSwimmer

At every u/s we had, the tech or doctor always asked us first if we wanted to know.   We did want to know, so it was good that they could actually see.

My mother was the same way in the beginning as your MIL is being... "you HAVE to find out b/c I HAVE to know what color I need to buy things in"...   I finally wrote her an email and told her that if she didn't stop hounding me, that I wouldn't tell her ANYTHING about the pregnancy until after the baby was born!  I was def pi$$ed off.  She did back off then.  She can always chalk it up to your hormones, but hopefully she'll get the picture.

 

ak1234

We caved during the big ultrasound, but the tech did ask ahead of time if we wanted to know.  When she needed to take a pic of the baby's genital area to make sure everything was normal, she told us to turn away.