DS got kicked out of daycare :(

AnnetteWalker

I got the call from the owner that he bit 3 kids today and that he can not come to daycare any more.

Ugg so now I have no idea what to do.

pixelvixen

Ohhh no Annette!!!  I'm so sorry.    Can you call his Ped tomorrow and ask for advice on biting?  Then start looking for a new daycare.  Or a nanny??  Ugh, that sucks.  Big hugs to you, it'll all work out.

AshleyKimberlyn

Ooooh no Annette!!!     Is this the new daycare you just started??  I'm so sorry!! 

energyzer

That's terrible - I'm so sorry!!  Will they let you bring him back if you get the biting under control?  Did they have advice on how to get him to stop biting?

AnnetteWalker

They said he would be able to come back when the biting has stopped.

But how do I know the biting has stopped when he is not doing it at home to us only at daycare with other children?

 

Seattle_JiLLn

what? kicked out forever?????

That's ridiculous.   It sucks, but it is definitely within the realm of normal toddler behavior.   I'm so sorry they aren't willing to help you with it.   That's awful.   Especially giving you no notice.  What do they think you can do with no notice like that????

MelodyFerg

I am posting here, Flame Free Please!!!

My son goes to an unlicensed in-home daycare (it is my mom's best friends and I have known her since I was 5 years old).  She used to be licensed, but she has been doing this for 35 years and doesn't renew anymore.  Anyway, she doesn't kick any kids out...thank goodness, but her tactics are a little old school.  For biting she puts some hot sauce in their mouths (they have to be old enough and she doesn't put a lot) and let me tell you that happened a couple of times and Caden stopped biting.  I could never bring myself to do it at home, but I was okay with it happening there.

I'm sure there are better ways and I truly hope you find a good place for your son!

IdahoGirl

Oh no Annette, I'm so sorry!!!

tfarabians

I'm so sorry Annette! What a headache and I know the helpless feeling of not being able to resolve it because they don't do it at home with you.  I had this happenening at the club daycare where cruz wanted to wrestle with other kids.  I know that my bf had problems with her son biting and would flick him in the cheek but then again you have to catch them in the act and that isn't something that happens at home!  I hope your able to find a better solution!

AnnetteWalker

MelodyFerg:

I am posting here, Flame Free Please!!!

My son goes to an unlicensed in-home daycare (it is my mom's best friends and I have known her since I was 5 years old).  She used to be licensed, but she has been doing this for 35 years and doesn't renew anymore.  Anyway, she doesn't kick any kids out...thank goodness, but her tactics are a little old school.  For biting she puts some hot sauce in their mouths (they have to be old enough and she doesn't put a lot) and let me tell you that happened a couple of times and Caden stopped biting.  I could never bring myself to do it at home, but I was okay with it happening there.

I'm sure there are better ways and I truly hope you find a good place for your son!

A good friend of ours said that they did the hot sauce thing and that it was very effecive.

Right now we are doing the freeze out. When he bites us we say "No Biting" put him down and walk away and don't look at him.

Yesterday I got tons of teethers and the book Teeth are not for biting. We may try the hot sauce thing is it continues.

Nancy_Drew

OMG!  You are kidding?  I'm so sorry for you, this is just a nightmare for you guys. 

Have you asked them what they were doing/have done to curb the biting? 

When we were told by K&J about A's biting (as we were picking her up leaving for our 4th of July weekend with the truck and boat loaded and running out front)  they also told us what they were doing, gave us ideas about what to try at home (since she didn't bite at home.. things to talk about)   Steve said since we don't see it, they needed to be sure to take displinary action as soon as it happens.  Not sugar coat it, and not just say "we don't bite"  That was the solitary she got there.  SHe had to play by herself away from teh other kids.  (torture) 

If they are not taking action, Robbie won't learn it's bad.  Have you seen it on the web cam at all?

ughh.. I'm so sorry!  Do you think it could still be adjustment to the new daycare?  Or you said he's not speaking much... could be his fustration at not being able to say what is going thru his little head?

AnnetteWalker

Lauri, Last Friday they told me about it and that they were getting down to his level and putting an open hand in front of his face and saying STOP then redirecting him to a different acitivity. Then this week they have been having a teacher on him all the time and if he even gets close to another child he is moved away. But he still managed to bite 3 children.

We are not sure if we will go back to K & J and just deal with the Monday thing or what.  Kev's sister is going to watch him for a while but not sure how long she can do it.

jcyahne

I'm personally pretty surprised a 16 month old would get permanently kicked out for that.  Biting is that out of the ordinary at that age, and not necessarily an easy thing to stop when they are just getting the idea of right and wrong/following instructions.  I'm glad my little biter stays with grandma all day, or we might have had some serious issues!

WatchPot

I'm so sorry!

My son was continually biten by another child and it sucks but I understood and the other child never got kicked out. 
Can you talk with them again and see if you can come to a solution?  Or are you over them now after being so unreasonable? 

Mrs.Kiltlifter

Nancy_Drew:

When we were told by K&J about A's biting (as we were picking her up leaving for our 4th of July weekend with the truck and boat loaded and running out front)

Dude not when you had the truck and boat running....wth didn't they know it was the holiday weekend?