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dnh

I text my dh and say "I think we should plan a weekend trip for Valentines Day just the two of us. Go out for dinner and dancing like we used to"

His response " That sounds great , but a few BJs would also be appreciated in the meantime"

Now that takes my good intentions, smooshes them to *** and makes me not want to cook dinner tonight... We used to have sex 4 times a week pre pregnancy. I will admit I have been slacking on the oral. Now we have sex about once a week this trimester ...

Tell me ladies how often are you having sex or giving oral?? Am I being a neglectful wife???

MEN!?

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sgrl

I would laugh at that comment, but maybe that's just the way my husband and I communicate.

We had not had sex in a couple or three weeks before this Wednesday. I leaned across the snoogle (aka the c*ck block) to cuddle and give him a kiss Wed. night and it turned into nookie much to our mutual surprise.

I haven't given a beeje in aaaaages. I can't even tell you when.

B!tchBeckman

im prolly not the best person to ask... my H just got back from a 2 month hiatus so im pretty generous with what I do... plus Im a bit of a nympho. and love giving oral... yea... I spoil my husband in more ways than one... lol.

thetwistedwillow

What's sex? What's a BJ? Ha ha ha ha ha ha!

You're not a neglectful wife. Did you sign a contract saying you'd give him so many BJs or something? If not, then don't sweat it. Pregnancy + oral sex = GAG!

katieL09

Dont feel bad i havent given my DH any since i was 3 months pregnant!! The thought of it make me want to puke!!!

DiscusCoach

2-3 times a week but it isn't just me. DH has been exhausted and stressed.

 

Basil27

sgrl:

I would laugh at that comment, but maybe that's just the way my husband and I communicate.

We had not had sex in a couple or three weeks before this Wednesday. I leaned across the snoogle (aka the c*ck block) to cuddle and give him a kiss Wed. night and it turned into nookie much to our mutual surprise.

I haven't given a beeje in aaaaages. I can't even tell you when.

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ahhah THis pretty much to a T!!!?

sara_smile

Wow. I get that your DH is accustomed to a certain sex life, but I can't even begin to describe how much this would piss me off. Let me just say that sex, oral or otherwise is NOT an obligation in my house, and if it was, it would go BOTH ways.

That said, we both enjoy the shower hand job... we get to be close and cuddle, the soap helps things slide along nicely, and clean up is a breeze!

snsgurl728

sgrl:

snoogle (aka the c*ck block)

LMAO! 

angie05161

Hmm...to be honest we tried to have sex a couple weeks ago and it was a fail.  We haven't tried again since, but I'm sure we will at some point.  No oral in the meantime either, but I've never been a huge fan...

ashleybrynne32

I would be so pissed if my husband said that to me, but every couple is different. We just started having sex again once I hit term but before that it was MONTHS b/c I was on pelvic rest, off pelvic rest, on pelvic rest the whole pregnancy. I don't think you are being "neglectful"- giving your husband a blow job is not your "duty."

sestock17

and what about him?  When was the last time HE went down on you?  If my DH was brave enough to venture down there while I am 36 weeks pregnant, I might consider returning the favor.  Needless to say that hasn't happened in a good long time!

Damians09

We used to have sex more than 8 times a week. Now it's probably twice a week. You are not being neglectful. I dont even have the desire to do oral. My DH is okay with it he knows what i'm going thriough.

snsgurl728

We used to be like rabbits, but it has dwindled a bit in the last few weeks. I don't mind giving oral at all. I like to give him little treats for being the most amazing guy EVER since I've been on bedrest

B!tchBeckman

I think I am alone on this one...

 

PizzaBride

The last time we had sex was a few weeks ago and before that I couldn't tell you when.  That's mostly his choice than mine, though...I could have sex every night, but he doesn't want to have sex with me while I'm pregnant.  The last time I gave him a BJ was in 1st tri.  Pregnancy has definitely been a dry spell for both of us...although he doesn't seem to mind.

nikalina

That is funny.  Tell him you have no problem but you will be using your teeth. 

We have sex almost daily.  I give him oral everytime.  The most comfortable position is him laying near the edge of the bed, I put a pillow under my belly and lean over him.  Mind you it only lasts for maybe 5 mintues and then I become uncomfortable or heart burn sets in...

 Make him dinner and blow him while he is at the table.  That is HOTT

B!tchBeckman

nikalina:

That is funny.  Tell him you have no problem but you will be using your teeth. 

We have sex almost daily.  I give him oral everytime.  The most comfortable position is him laying near the edge of the bed, I put a pillow under my belly and lean over him.  Mind you it only lasts for maybe 5 mintues and then I become uncomfortable or heart burn sets in...

 Make him dinner and blow him while he is at the table.  That is HOTT

I think I Love you...

ruffle&rust

Sex / Oral in our house is 4x a week. With us it's mostly the oral... it's the most comfortable.

nikalina

sestock17:

and what about him?  When was the last time HE went down on you?  If my DH was brave enough to venture down there while I am 36 weeks pregnant, I might consider returning the favor.  Needless to say that hasn't happened in a good long time!

 

What?!?!?!  He won't go down?  My God that is a must in my bed.  If he wants his BJ's I get my oral stim...  He doesn't have an issue with it though

madalynnsmommy09

The last time my DH got a BJ yea.... hahaha, and sex it's been a few weeks.

TDKitty

We have *maybe* averaged once a month since BFP. Not only have I had zero desire to do the deed, but it has been extremely uncomfortable all the way through the pregnancy. I embarrassed to admit I'm not all the good at oral, so when I do occasionally give in, we usually go for the real deal.

PizzaBride

B!tchBeckman:

I think I am alone on this one...

 

No, no!  I'm a total nympho and I love giving oral sex as well, but not since I've been pregnant.  Probably because my m/s has lasted the entire time.

burning_television

Sex? maybe twice a week. I just can't get into it. Oh, no, the poor thing. He doesn't seem to understand that there *are* other preggo women who are told NOT to by their docs. That there *are* other men worse off than him. Bah.

Last week, I finally gave in with his first beeje since i was... what, 14 weeks? Just the thought of it made me puke back in the day. I just couldn't. ::shrugs::

I do totally agree with he shower hand jobs, we both LOVE those.  

ZacksBride

we prob only had sex once every 2 weeks or so for most of the pregnancy, trying for once a week now at the end, but i'm just so tired most of the time.  very rarely has he gotten a stand alone bj, usually just as foreplay...

nikalina

try popping a peppermint in your mouth while giving a BJ.  Not only will it feel hot for him but it will stave off m/s

xnbride

I have never struggled with a gag reflex until pregnancy so needless to say I have not been giving oral.  Lots of handjobs, anal and some vaginal put he has been pulling out since it causes to much contractions if he cums inside. When I am at 30 weeks or so, then he can do whatever. 

katee2184

sgrl:

I would laugh at that comment, but maybe that's just the way my husband and I communicate.

We had not had sex in a couple or three weeks before this Wednesday. I leaned across the snoogle (aka the c*ck block) to cuddle and give him a kiss Wed. night and it turned into nookie much to our mutual surprise.

I haven't given a beeje in aaaaages. I can't even tell you when.

LOL

I seriously had the same goodnight kiss scenario last night w/DH !

...and ditto for the BJ, can't even recall the last time that was!

emmyloustu

sgrl:

 the snoogle (aka the c*ck block)

HA! Dh nicknamed our snoogle this from day one! It really has been one.

Our frequency is wayyyyy down - 1x per week or less, but I try to compensate with a BJ here and there, although I am sure my DH would like me to be more generous. 

pregali80

I'm sorry op, the post made me laugh. Such a typical response from a guy, but as for me I'd give in. . I don't mind the giving-it makes me happy, too.

My boobs are a big deal for me and he hasn't gone there lately- he's afraid something is going to come out if he starts playing with them! I said don't worry when it gets to that point I won't let you touch them! So he tries to help me in other ways...

dnh

Okay ladies Im going to leave work, make dinner as planned put the lil ones to sleep, take a shower, remove the c*&k blocker from the bed, blow him and try not to gag lol?

thanks for the responses?

nikalina

xnbride:

I have never struggled with a gag reflex until pregnancy so needless to say I have not been giving oral.  Lots of handjobs, anal and some vaginal put he has been pulling out since it causes to much contractions if he cums inside. When I am at 30 weeks or so, then he can do whatever. 

 

Anal has been the best during pregnancy.  I thought I was the only weirdo that would do this while pregnant.  Thanks for sharing I now don't feel all alone lol....  My dh just had to start pulling out due to the BH it causes.  I can't deal with those at the moment. 

nikalina

dnh:

Okay ladies Im going to leave work, make dinner as planned put the lil ones to sleep, take a shower, remove the c*&k blocker from the bed, blow him and try not to gag lol 

thanks for the responses 

 Good for you!  Remember it isn't always about sex.  It is also about the closeness.  Maybe your guy is feeling a little neglected or forgotten about.  I am dreading going 6-8 wks without once baby arrives.  My DH has a lower libido than I do so it won't bother him in the least.  Go for it!  remember we are sexy pregnant women!  Make it hot and make it unforgettable!

Amanda_&_Eric

I think I am also in the minority on this one. I absolutely cannot get enough of his .... well, lets just say I really enjoy giving oral right now.

Pre-pregnancy it was a pretty rare occurance, but I guess my hormones have helped it become a more regular afternoon activity. 

HRALFS

I would go down if he did but thats not in the cards for us these days. ?Not feeling very sexy these days.?

kimberly.kent

I love mine and DH's nakie time, as he puts it, but I was put on pelvic rest so it has been a long, long 6 weeks. I'm hoping the Dr will say it's ok after our next appointment since we've made it to at least 36 weeks and the contractions haven't stopped anyway.

I've been a bad wife though. I figure I can't get any so why should he? I guess I'm just grumpy about the whole thing.

wareto

Wow. I probably would have called DH to see if that was supposed to be a joke before deciding whether or not to flip my sh!t. It's been about a month since we've had sex and probably closer to six months since oral. When my sex drive fell off the cliff (around four months pg) I told DH that while I'm not horny enough to initiate he can feel free to do so and I'd probably be willing. At about six months I told him to let me know if he needed some "attention" 'cause I'm not thinking about sex and it wouldn't occur to me. He told me not to worry about it-just take care of myself and the kids and he'd be fine. I know this is probably not normal, DH has never been a super horny guy.

Jessalicious01

We don't have sex anymore. We've tried, it doesn't work for us and hasn't for about 3 months now.

No BJ's either

He can deal. I talked to my Dr about the sex being so painful and she assured me I'm not alone in this (which I know from bumping so much). Many other husbands have to "accomodate." and my DH is fine with that right now. He's actually scared to have sex now anyway since I'm getting farther along so it's not much of a conflict between us. 

 My Dr's comment and the one I will give you is that you will more than make up for it later after the pregnancy is over and it's safe to do so.

 

mrs_sherod

We don't have sex anymore, it's uncomfortable.  We tried lube, but he hates it.  I rarely do BJ's, although he has asked numerous times.

SusieQ1982

Yeah, it probably wasn't an appropriate time, but he's a guy. Give him some head and he'll be happy.

We're having sex about 3x a week now. He loves it because we can really only use his favourite positions now!

vmm0016

B!tchBeckman:

I think I am alone on this one...

 

Your not alone.  I give him one 2-3 times a week.  We haven't had sex in so long I can't even remember.