My Thursday Confession

AMYfromKY

No need to flame...I am sure others think this.

When someone who is 35, 36 weeks posts "I am already 4cm dilated and 70% effaced" I just want to throw something across the room.

Yes, I know it doesn't mean anything, but today my Dr told me my cervix is high, thick, and closed and that I will probably end up with a c-section.

Wonderful. 

edit:  I am sure the feeling only gets worse the closer someone is to 40 weeks and beyond. 

Dufflings09

I hate dr. scare tactics - you will be just fine!~

Henry will come when he is good and ready - hopefully that is before 40+weeks!

Mrs.Bert

Don't worry, I'm only 1 cm!  Things can change overnight, and no one really knows what may happen before your EDD!  Think positive thoughts! 

imaPrincess

Ugh!  You still have 2 weeks Amy, don't stress yourself out just yet!  I'm sure it still stinks to hear from your doctor though.

cooperme2871

Don't stress about it- I'm sure Henry will come when he is ready. You have just made such a good home for him, he wants to stay in there!

jldittber

Awe, you get no flaming from me.  I don't care if they say these numbers don't "mean" anything...progress is progress and when you are in the last leg...you want progress damnit! 

I make hubby put out pretty much every night after our walks just so I can feel like we are closer to progress (plus, its not a bad time--wink wink LOL). 

 Chin up!

B!tchBeckman

that's how my cervix was with my first...

c-sections arent the end of the world, but I hope that if it's not what you want that something will start happening to the cervix for you...they arent a fun thing to go through but theres no wrong way to deliver the baby.

I can imagine how you are feeling. And I hope you feel better soon (Or show signs of progress)

lspinman

I feel like all pregnant women should be allowed to send a good forehead flick the way of their OB's from time to time!

I am not getting checked so that I dont get frustrated like that because I know I will!

Just think "opening" thoughts and keep walking by your stork!  

AMYfromKY

imaPrincess:

Ugh!  You still have 2 weeks Amy, don't stress yourself out just yet!  I'm sure it still stinks to hear from your doctor though.

What scares me (and I don't know if it has anything to do with it) is that my mom could not go into labor.  She was induced and they couldn't even get her cervix to soften so they had to do a c-section (she was 3 weeks overdue).  With my brother her water broke (2 weeks late), but she didn't have any progress at all for 12 hours into labor.

I don't want to take after her!

 

In the end though, as long as Henry is healthy and I am healthy that is all that matters.   

Kdonn15

This may be a dumb question, but why is your dr. jumping right to a c-section....wouldn't he/she start with an induction and go from there is you don't progress?  Just curious, but either way, I hope it all works out the way you hope it does!

imaPrincess

AMYfromKY:

imaPrincess:

Ugh!  You still have 2 weeks Amy, don't stress yourself out just yet!  I'm sure it still stinks to hear from your doctor though.

What scares me (and I don't know if it has anything to do with it) is that my mom could not go into labor.  She was induced and they couldn't even get her cervix to soften so they had to do a c-section (she was 3 weeks overdue).  With my brother her water broke (2 weeks late), but she didn't have any progress at all for 12 hours into labor.

I don't want to take after her!

 

In the end though, as long as Henry is healthy and I am healthy that is all that matters.   

ok, now that you bring that to the table, I TOTALLY see why you are freaking out a little.  Try to stay calm and keep thinking positive!!!  Henry just loves your womb

AMYfromKY

Kdonn15:

This may be a dumb question, but why is your dr. jumping right to a c-section....wouldn't he/she start with an induction and go from there is you don't progress?  Just curious, but either way, I hope it all works out the way you hope it does!

He said my cervix is not "favorable" for an induction.  Of course, he is one Dr out of 7 (although he's one of the best) so that may not be the view of all of the Drs.  

I totally trust him, but I don't want to be cut open if I don't have to be. 

libertadw

I was 1 cm for 3 weeks, ended up in induction but I did not need a c-section. Don't let them scare you.

Kdonn15

AMYfromKY:

Kdonn15:

This may be a dumb question, but why is your dr. jumping right to a c-section....wouldn't he/she start with an induction and go from there is you don't progress?  Just curious, but either way, I hope it all works out the way you hope it does!

He said my cervix is not "favorable" for an induction.  Of course, he is one Dr out of 7 (although he's one of the best) so that may not be the view of all of the Drs.  

I totally trust him, but I don't want to be cut open if I don't have to be. 

Gotcha, and as long as you're comfortable with your dr. all will be well. 

curlilocks1207

My doctor told me this with DD. He also told me that my pelvic bone structure was too small to have a vaginal birth. He induced me and I did have DD vaginally despite it all.

I think it was you that I got the recommendation for the Hypnobrithing book from? One of the things that really stuck out to me in that book was not letting other people's experiences define your own.

Keep thinking those positive thoughts girl! Your body knows what it is doing.

mari_gold

AMYfromKY:

No need to flame...I am sure others think this.

When someone who is 35, 36 weeks posts "I am already 4cm dilated and 70% effaced" I just want to throw something across the room.

I feel the same way!

ericaelaine2

AMYfromKY:

 In the end though, as long as Henry is healthy and I am healthy that is all that matters.   

You have the right attitude.  Bottom line is you have no control over it just take care of yourself in the meantime!

MrsSandro

I get annoyed because it doesn't mean a thing.

I am also the type who is asking the doctor not to tell me where I am at until 40 weeks. I prefer not to know as it really doesn't mean anything. I haven't felt a cramp or contraction yet and I am not in a hurry really.  

tnpjuly04

Want to hear a good story???  (well, it's good for you, not good for my friend).

A friend of mine was pg with her second, the same time I was pg with my second.  She was 4 cm and 90% effaced at 35 weeks (the same time I was 39 weeks and getting induced). She made a remark "looks like we'll be having these babies the same time after all."  I was soooo not happy about getting induced (long story) and was really pissed that she was making statements like this.  My cervix wasn't ripe or anything - but I had cervadil inserted just prior to my induction and everything went just fine.

ANYWAY, she delivered at 40w2days.  Walked around at 4 cm for 5 weeks, and boy was she pissed!  Puts it in perspective ... maybe?

Hang in there - and did you get that prescription for the belly support???

JulieandBen

B!tchBeckman:

that's how my cervix was with my first...

c-sections arent the end of the world, but I hope that if it's not what you want that something will start happening to the cervix for you...they arent a fun thing to go through but theres no wrong way to deliver the baby.

I can imagine how you are feeling. And I hope you feel better soon (Or show signs of progress)

Ditto this. 

If anything it might be easier knowing you have to have a csection than going through hours of labor and then ending up with a section in the end.

My recovery was not bad. Of course everyone is different of course. I was up and down my stairs all day without issues and holding, nursing, carrying my newborn without problems. Sure I was uncomfortable. A comfortable sturdy chair like a glider was essential for me.

 

AMYfromKY

tnpjuly04:

Want to hear a good story???  (well, it's good for you, not good for my friend).

A friend of mine was pg with her second, the same time I was pg with my second.  She was 4 cm and 90% effaced at 35 weeks (the same time I was 39 weeks and getting induced). She made a remark "looks like we'll be having these babies the same time after all."  I was soooo not happy about getting induced (long story) and was really pissed that she was making statements like this.  My cervix wasn't ripe or anything - but I had cervadil inserted just prior to my induction and everything went just fine.

ANYWAY, she delivered at 40w2days.  Walked around at 4 cm for 5 weeks, and boy was she pissed!  Puts it in perspective ... maybe?

Hang in there - and did you get that prescription for the belly support???

Ok, this is really weird, but I figured out if I put my bella band on and tuck it into a sports bra that it holds my stomach up!  It seems to be doing the trick.  I actually slept without back pain last night! 

And does it make me a bad person for snickering at your friend.  Who makes a comment like that! 

tnpjuly04

AMYfromKY:

Ok, this is really weird, but I figured out if I put my bella band on and tuck it into a sports bra that it holds my stomach up!  It seems to be doing the trick.  I actually slept without back pain last night! 

And does it make me a bad person for snickering at your friend.  Who makes a comment like that! 

I'm sure that's a site to see!  By the end with my other two, I had to wear the pg belt, a tank top, and my bra ON TOP of the tank top so it didn't dig in.  soooo sexy. 

Nah, not a bad person.  She has a tendency to come out with some doozies sometimes.  Easy to take in person, but in cyber-land, she would be eaten alive.

fellesferie

For whatever it's worth, at like 38 weeks I was 2cm, 50% effaced, and with a "bulging bag of waters."

Sure, I went into labor on my own. But after 4.5 hours of pushing, my doc was starting to talk c-section. I finally got him out, but my kid's head has been in the 95% percentile ever since he was born.

Even a cooperative cervix won't necessarily help avoid a section. Hope you do have the labor you want!!

blushingbrideoct07

No flames here!! ?I would feel the same way as you if I was as far along as you were. ?

Heck, I kind of feel that way now when I see women due after me who are further along and I am not even full term!

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EDIT: ?Not that I want this baby to come anytime before 37 weeks!?

Daisy525

I totally agree with you!!!?

ashleybrynne32

I agree and I'm only 38w... and I loathe when women who are like 34-35w tell you to relax. Condescending and annoying.