Greedy baby shower wanter strikes again! Lord help me

sawyer2

Back story 

So, some of you may remember that I have a "friend" that is on her second child same sex as the first that are not even a year apart. Her baby shower for her first was less than a year ago, and now she is having another. She sent out invites with a list of peoples names and a few gifts listed by each one for that person to get her, "so she doesnt have to take back returns". She has even reg. for everything she already has,  bouncy, swing, tub, clothes, bla bla bla.

Anyway I told her I would not be going to her shower, 1. I do not agree with it, 2. I will be 38-39 weeks pregnant and frankly I would rather find something else better with my time.I plan on getting the baby a gift when the baby is born. She has asked dh mulitple times if we are going to throw a baby shower for this baby. He politetly tells her it is not proper to have a 2nd shower for a same sex child within so many years, but we will have a meet the baby bbq, Baby Q if you wil,l where we will grill some food and have some things for the kids, no gifts. We decided to have this child and were grown enough to know we needed to provide for this child. (now i have recieved gifts for baby-but they were b-day gifts for me or people who just really wanted to get something--plus my friend has a serious shopping problem and I am thinking of getting her professional help).

Well today I get a email from her and he friend that says We have not recieved your rsvp for the shower, if you can not attend here is the address we would like gifts sent to. (bolded statement is word for word) Now to me that is just greedy. She once again had a list of the guest with what she wants them to buy her next to their name.  I find this so tacky and sickning. 

Woud I be wrong if I asked her not to talk to me anymore?

ellemoney:)

My mouth seriously dropped. Seriously.?

That is the most outrageous thing! ?I would really want to tell her that asking for gifts is rude and that you're NOT coming to her shower.

I would cut her out after that. How awful! ?

Liss_37

wow, that's really ballsy of her. people like that make me sick. sounds like she's just having the kid for the gifts

wnk1029

Holy cow!  I would totally NOT be sending anything, either before or after the baby's birth... it's not really a "gift" if it's being forced upon the giver.

hipstrix

You need to do an IRL "de-friend". 

kimberlyk921

omg i can't believe somebody would ever do that! i would totally understand if you told her to stop talking to you lol...although i'd keep her around for entertainment purposes jk jk! its crazy to think that some people will go along with it and buy her the gift she asked them to, i hope they don't! 

dmarabia

I feel bad for her children...clearly they will grow up as self-entitled as she is! Ew!

kle+spd

What? Who tells their friends what gifts to buy!? I also can't believe she told you where to send the gift if you aren't going! I would straight ignore that and just ignore her! Wow!

B!tchBeckman

wow how greedy can one get!

that's ridiculous.

blessedinthewest

Wow, that is so tacky.  I am going to a shower this weekend for someone who has a baby that just turned one last month.  Her baby is due in 3 weeks.  They will be 14 months apart.

A friend of mine lives in Miami and she said some of the girls there actually charge you to go to their baby showers.  Now that is TACKY.  She said the invitation she got indicated it was $25 dollars to attend.

CKLee1107

*lurker*

OMG....Its one thing to have a second shower, even with her timeline...fine, I could overlook that...but telling each guest what to buy???  I seriously hope this is MUD...If not, go ahead and nail her to the wall...I'd be responding to the email saying something about since you know exactly what you want from each person, go ahead and buy my assigned gift yourself and put my name on the 'from' spot.  wow....

Anyways, have a great BabyQ!! 

jdouglas84

I think second showers are okay in some situations (different sex, big age difference, etc) but to throw your own second shower in this situation is tacky IMO. I would be totally offended, first of all, to have gift buying suggestions on the invites. I would be completed floored if I got that same email asking to mail gifts to her. It really makes your friend look greedy. I can't believe someone would think that's okay.

 BTW you're "baby-q" party sounds like fun Too bad your friend didn't get the hint that she should just have a small get together after the birth of LO #2.

NOVAMommy5

Wow. There are no words. I personally cannot imagine having a friend like that... that is beyond absurd. Obviously it's your call on cutting ties, but I would in a heartbeat.

sjp

OMG!!! that is all I can say

libertadw

WOW!!! She sounds like a peach. I would distance myself from them as much as possible. She doesn't sound like the type of person I would like in my life.

Stephanie586

This is crazy. How has noone told this girl how out of line she is? The people I know would have no problem putting me in my place if I did anythign even remotely like this. Super tacky and rude!

sawyer2

hipstrix:

You need to do an IRL "de-friend". 

lol I really should.  The only reason I even talk to her is because her dh and my dh are friends here. (its kinda hard for him to get a good friendship going)  Her dh has even said she is being greedy and selfish. He has even sent out I am sorry notes to those he has learned recived invites (just learned that tib bit of info a few min ago)

MrsPatterson

Oh my gosh.  I had to pick my jaw up off the floor after reading that.  I seriously would not even respond to that, probably because no amount of cooling-off time would get me over that one and I'd end up saying something really mean.  That is the tackiest, most greedy and selfish thing I have ever heard.    

ETA:  Also, I would not be sending her a gift at all, even after the baby is born. 

katee2184

Oh my...

She sounds like a treat!

stckgrl79

I would not even respond to the invite!  How rude of her to say that.  Or you can say...."I will not be attending your shower and oh by the way, since you do not want to have to return stuff, I decided not to send anything since I do not feel like going shopping/post office/anywhere for a greedy mom to be...."  hehe sorry.  And I will say what I said last time someone posted this about the aunt telling people what to buy.....tell her you are inviting your friends and family to pay your bills the month your LO is due and she is in charge of your mortgage....here is the address to send the money order (no checks please I do not wnat to deal with one bouncing).  

JinglesChic

O-M-G that's too much. I wouldn't talk to her for a while (if ever) after this. Obviously she has a sense of entitlement issues and only thinks about herself. I wouldn't send her any gift at all, call her and let her have a piece of my mind, and then forget about her. Just curious though, what did she want you to get her?

beachykeen1723

Send her a book on manners.

If you're feeling snarky, you could even buy the gift she has instructed you to buy, and put the manners book in that box.

Stephanie586

MrsGarciatobe:

Wow, that is so tacky.  I am going to a shower this weekend for someone who has a baby that just turned one last month.  Her baby is due in 3 weeks.  They will be 14 months apart.

A friend of mine lives in Miami and she said some of the girls there actually charge you to go to their baby showers.  Now that is TACKY.  She said the invitation she got indicated it was $25 dollars to attend.

 

Assigned Gifts? Paying to attend?! What is going on with people these days!

HRALFS

WOW! I could not bare to be friends with someone like that. Yes, you should stop talking to her, she sounds like a character on a television show, not a real person. Its almost laughable, but mostly sad!

yourmom5309

I am aggravated just reading about this girl.  I would not buy her another present, go to her shower, or host a BBQ for her.  She sounds like the tackiest person.  Save your money and energy.  She spends enough time focusing on herself - no need for you to give her another second of attention.

Abinormal

And to think I've been stressing over gently inquiring the who, why and where as to the shower I know my neighbors are planning on throwing! UGH!

This chick needs a slap and a major reality check!

sawyer2

stckgrl79:

I would not even respond to the invite!  How rude of her to say that.  Or you can say...."I will not be attending your shower and oh by the way, since you do not want to have to return stuff, I decided not to send anything since I do not feel like going shopping/post office/anywhere for a greedy mom to be...."  hehe sorry.  And I will say what I said last time someone posted this about the aunt telling people what to buy.....tell her you are inviting your friends and family to pay your bills the month your LO is due and she is in charge of your mortgage....here is the address to send the money order (no checks please I do not wnat to deal with one bouncing).  

hahahaha you just make milk come out my nose,  I so should do this

ZAngel

If I received an invite like that, I would call her up immediately and ask if it was a joke.  If not, I would tell her exactly what I thought of it... no sugar coating.  People like that need to be shown their "wrong doings".  I would hope it would click but she sounds like a real winner so I'm sure she sees nothing wrong with it.  I hope no one shows up.  She needs a reality check.

qtjess1110

Thats over the top. Seriously.

wareto

sawyer2:

hipstrix:

You need to do an IRL "de-friend". 

lol I really should.  The only reason I even talk to her is because her dh and my dh are friends here. (its kinda hard for him to get a good friendship going)  Her dh has even said she is being greedy and selfish. He has even sent out I am sorry notes to those he has learned recived invites (just learned that tib bit of info a few min ago)

Aw, her DH sounds sweet. I'd probably keep them as a "couple friend" but not hang out with her other than that. I don't think her circumstances were right for another shower, but telling people what to bring is waaay out of line. Good luck with your Baby Q-we're planning something similar.

MAprincess

OK, I totally agree with everything you said.  On top of that, there is no rule that states you HAVE to send a gift to an event you will not be attending.  In fact, that is generally considered above and beyond if you do so.

Never talk to this person again. 

smurfetteinred

sawyer2:

Woud I be wrong if I asked her not to talk to me anymore?

Nope not at all! This whole situation is ridiculous and I'd imagine she'll be losing contact with quite a few people shortly. 

SLHurst11

You can always go with...  "I will not be attending your shower.  You want me to buy you a bouncer (whatever gift).  I've decided that I would like for YOU to buy ME a bouncer as well.  So let's just get our own, and call it even."

HapPapFam

hipstrix:

You need to do an IRL "de-friend". 

This, Exactly!

SusieQ1982

I would definitely send her a Miss Manners book.

pregali80

De-friend. You don't need to call her and tell her why. I don't think she'd get it.

RebandJake

WHOA TACKY

libertadw

MrsGarciatobe:

Wow, that is so tacky.  I am going to a shower this weekend for someone who has a baby that just turned one last month.  Her baby is due in 3 weeks.  They will be 14 months apart.

A friend of mine lives in Miami and she said some of the girls there actually charge you to go to their baby showers.  Now that is TACKY.  She said the invitation she got indicated it was $25 dollars to attend.

A friend of mine actually showed me an invite with the same thing, no gifts just $25 to attend. WTF???

Basil27

OMG!!!!! thats all I can say!!! wow!!!

Bhahn09

ellemoney:):

My mouth seriously dropped. Seriously. 

That is the most outrageous thing!  I would really want to tell her that asking for gifts is rude and that you're NOT coming to her shower.

I would cut her out after that. How awful!  

Layla116

beachykeen1723:

Send her a book on manners.

If you're feeling snarky, you could even buy the gift she has instructed you to buy, and put the manners book in that box.

LOL--Great idea!!