MIL Help!

Jess4481

So my mom and MIL are basically sitting here starting at me waiting for me to give birth which is extremely uncomfortable.  

In the past few weeks MIL has asked DH and I multiples time what the status was after our appointments(i.e. dialation, dropping etc).   We started telling her we weren't sure that the doctor was vague just to shut her up because we don't think it is any of her business.  She asked both of us every other day and we gave her the same answer.

Finally she announced when she was coming this week that she would be going to the doctor with us because we were obviously not asking the right questions to find out when this baby was going to come (because the OB has a freaking crystal ball).  DH came right out and told her we don't want to discuss it with anyone and doctor's appointments were private for just the two of us.

Well after that she told my Mom today that she is staying to go to my doctor's appointment tomorrow. WTF????? What else do we have to say to make it clear this is none of her damn business???? I'm at my wits end.   

Yorkie_lover_1988

Stand your ground. My MIL is mentally handicapped and is instant upon being in the room while I deliver. She told DH "her mom gets to be in their so I get to be." In the end she can't be in their if I don't want her in their. Go to the doctor without her. If she comes tell the nurse who takes you back that she is not welcome in the room. I hate to say it but you might have to be really mean. It's none of her business so if you say NO that means NO. Nothing and no one can make you tell her or invite her or anything else.

 

Julie

jessicaclare

So she thinks its ok to be in there when you're spread eagle in the stirrups getting your cervix checked? What a nut. If my MIL was doing what yours was I'd tell her that if she showed up to my doctors appointment I'd have security escort her from the building. Then I'd do it if she did show up. I don't care who she is, she has NO right to impose on the situation.

mrs-rogers

there is no way i would let my MIL go to the dr. with me. NO WAY. She already drives me crazy, I cant imagine how bad she will be when we are close to our due date.

itkatydid@gmail.com

Why doesn't she understand what you are telling her? How freaking rude! If she is so rude about your pregnancy... what is she going to be like with your LO? I feel so bad for you but at least you and DH are on the same page with her pushiness!! Has anyone told her that your pregnancy and baby are GUESS WHAT?... not about her? 

EmilyK508

I remember when you first wrote about this. You poor woman.

I would just tell her again that she is not coming to the appointment with you -- don't say you don't want her to or that you'd rather not -- tell her that she IS NOT.

If she is still insistant tell one of the nurses or the receptionists are the office to keep her out. If she gets ridiculous they can escort her out and it won't be your fault.

marciana

Holy crap. I totally feel for you. That is just awful.

joannalmoore

OH MY GOD. Seriously!? That's crazy! I can't believe she is insisting on going to the dr with you! Thank God your hubby feels the same way, mine is ultra ultra sensitive about his mom.

What do you think you're going to do? Are you going to tell her not to go? Maybe you should say don't go, and also change your appointment time so there's no chance of her showing up. When she does go to the appointment she thought was yours and gets ticked that you changed it, tell her it serves her right, that she shouldn't have shown up in the first place!

SusieQ1982

Just tell her no, firmly. She can't go without your permission so it doesn't matter what she says.