Do you think your life is that bad?

Jerseygirl16

seans_grl:

Jaylea:

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Congrats, ladies! All of you who were all wound up about the OP should be proud that this post has now become full of equally offensive statements and assumptions.  Well done.

Yeah well, the comments by some on this board are not representative of everyone who posts here.  Just as I know that the OP on the WM board does not represent the mindset of all working moms on that board.

Either way, the OP that sparked this whole thing was ridiculous and judgmental.  And I say that as someone who has been on both sides of the fence and know what it's like to work and to SAH.

Right. And that is not really even representative of my own opinion and I'm the one that said it.    I was just reacting to the original post and let my emotions get the best of me.  I apologized.  I know that the children of working moms don't suffer and I know that everyone here is doing the best they can.  But, as I said I also personally believe that if you are lucky enough to have the option of being able to make the choice either way as I was then a parent at home is the best option.  If I didn't believe that I'd be working.  But, I realize that is not an option that everyone has. 

brideon082104

It seems like every week there is a post on the WM board about us SAH mom's. The way I see it everyone has a choice: if you love to work/have to work, put your kid in daycare, etc then so be it. That's your choice. Those of us that SAH, clip coupons, clean, take our kids to the park, struggle sometimes with money - so be it. That is OUR choice. Neither side is right or wrong but honestly I think some of the chicks on the WM think their side is 'better.' Whatever. Water off a ducks' back. I love my life, I love that I'm a SAH mom. Hell it ain't all about laundry, coupon clipping and dirty diapers - I'm off to VEGAS tomorrow for 4 days with a friend, we're leaving our dh's and dc's behind and going for a girls weekend away!!! Suck that one, WM!

Daisy77

brideon082104:

It seems like every week there is a post ......

EXACTLY.  For the life of me, I can NOT understand the never-ending mindless battle over what is "better": Working mom or SAHM.  Who cares?? Why the p*ssing contest?  Leave that to the men!

Frankly, if you have to shout if from the rooftops that you love what you're doing, great!  More power to you!  But if in that very same breath you are turning around and putting down the other "side", then you're looking to pat yourself on the back for what?  To make yourself feel better?  To justify why you have to work/SAH?  I don't get it!

Two of my close friends are working moms.  One loves it, the other would love to stay home but they can't afford it.  I'm a SAHM because I can be.  Do you think this battle ever comes up between us over who is happier/wealthier/more fullfilled?  NOPE.

Now, where's the beating-the-dead-horse emoticon? 

ehicks

Daisy77:

brideon082104:

It seems like every week there is a post ......

EXACTLY.? For the life of me, I can NOT understand the never-ending mindless battle over what is "better": Working mom or SAHM.? Who cares?? Why the p*ssing contest?? Leave that to the men!

Frankly, if you have to shout if from the rooftops that you love what you're doing, great!? More power to you!? But if in that very same breath you are turning around and putting down the other "side", then you're looking to pat yourself on the back for what?? To make yourself feel better?? To justify why you have to work/SAH?? I don't get it!

Two of my close friends are working moms.? One loves it, the other would love to stay home but they can't afford it.? I'm a SAHM because I can be.? Do you think this battle ever comes up between us over who is happier/wealthier/more fullfilled?? NOPE.

Now, where's the beating-the-dead-horse emoticon??

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Agreed!

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There obviously is no real answer, or we would ALL either be working or staying at home. It is what's best for YOUR family. So what is the point in getting angry about it? Do I like that people look at this board to "remind" themselves of why they do what they do? No. That means they are second guessing themselves or truly unhappy with their choice. I don't have to look at another board to remind myself that my decision is right, for me.

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gatogrrl

This is kind of an SFL post, but what's so bad about trying to save money?  No, I really don't mind being thrifty.  I've been doing it all my adult life, and my parents have done it all theirs.  They still drink out of glasses that gas stations used to give out free in the 60's.  Yet they saved a great retirement nest egg, have traveled all around the world on it, and they're happy. As a kid, I didn't suffer from my parents only having one income, and neither will my DD.

Plus, I have TIME.  Oodles of it.  I vastly prefer this to whatever toys we could buy with a second income.  I'm pretty happy with my life.  But if it makes the OP feel better about herself to feel sorry for poor, poor old me, it's a free country.

Kim&Jim

katydid2007:

brownie123:

Kim&Jim:

To each is own, as many have said.  Personally I find it sad that a lot of working moms do so so they can have things or they would go nuts if they had to stay at home with their kids all day.  Imagine if their kids knew how they felt - that things are more important and that spending the day with them is boring/confining/etc.

I agree!!  I could never imagine thinking this about DD.  I think I have the best job in the world!

I don't even know where to begin.  I think it's pathetic that you believe this and sad that you would be ignorant enough to post it. 

I stand behind my statement.  Seriously, go back and read some of the posts and pretend you were your child.  It's an eye opener for sure.

kgb1411

gatogrrl:

This is kind of an SFL post, but what's so bad about trying to save money?  No, I really don't mind being thrifty.  I've been doing it all my adult life, and my parents have done it all theirs.  They still drink out of glasses that gas stations used to give out free in the 60's.  Yet they saved a great retirement nest egg, have traveled all around the world on it, and they're happy. As a kid, I didn't suffer from my parents only having one income, and neither will my DD.

Plus, I have TIME.  Oodles of it.  I vastly prefer this to whatever toys we could buy with a second income.  I'm pretty happy with my life.  But if it makes the OP feel better about herself to feel sorry for poor, poor old me, it's a free country.

You know, I don't think that the OP meant anything that judgmental by it.  What I got from the OP was that she was thinking of staying home, but it was going to be a struggle financially.  She comes over here and sees what it is really like to struggle with that, and decides that's not the position she wants to be in.  No, not everyone on this board is struggling with $$, but some people do, and that was what she was looking for. 

Personally, I have a different issue that makes me think twice about quitting my job (even though for me it would mean more $$).  When I look at this board, I hardly see money posts.  Every post seems to be about women complaining about the issue that would be most pressing for me. 

Oh, and my SAHM friends and family members don't complain about either of these things to me IRL, but it is different to eavesdrop on someone's conversation. 

 

katydid2007

Kim&Jim:

katydid2007:

brownie123:

Kim&Jim:

To each is own, as many have said.  Personally I find it sad that a lot of working moms do so so they can have things or they would go nuts if they had to stay at home with their kids all day.  Imagine if their kids knew how they felt - that things are more important and that spending the day with them is boring/confining/etc.

I agree!!  I could never imagine thinking this about DD.  I think I have the best job in the world!

I don't even know where to begin.  I think it's pathetic that you believe this and sad that you would be ignorant enough to post it. 

I stand behind my statement.  Seriously, go back and read some of the posts and pretend you were your child.  It's an eye opener for sure.

I stand behind my post. Go back and read your post and imagine how your working daughter 25 years from now would feel reading it.  Imagine how horrible she would feel knowing how judgmental and narrow-minded her mother is.

Kim&Jim

katydid2007:

Kim&Jim:

katydid2007:

brownie123:

Kim&Jim:

To each is own, as many have said.  Personally I find it sad that a lot of working moms do so so they can have things or they would go nuts if they had to stay at home with their kids all day.  Imagine if their kids knew how they felt - that things are more important and that spending the day with them is boring/confining/etc.

I agree!!  I could never imagine thinking this about DD.  I think I have the best job in the world!

I don't even know where to begin.  I think it's pathetic that you believe this and sad that you would be ignorant enough to post it. 

I stand behind my statement.  Seriously, go back and read some of the posts and pretend you were your child.  It's an eye opener for sure.

I stand behind my post. Go back and read your post and imagine how your working daughter 25 years from now would feel reading it.  Imagine how horrible she would feel knowing how judgmental and narrow-minded her mother is.

Obviously we're never going to agree on this one.

If my daughter was working because she wanted more "stuff" and found being at home with her kids to be boring/confining, then I obviously haven't instilled in her the sense of family that I wanted to.  I am leading by example and hope she takes that to heart.