Wierd situation with inlaws...

knmommy

So I'm seeing posts about IL's playing favorites, my parents favor my kids only because I make an effort and my brother does not.  Anyhow, my INLAWS favor my DS over my girls.  Keep in mind DS is not their biological grandchild.  They met him when he was almost 2.  They have come to everything for Nathan at school (they live 3 hrs away)

Kaitlyn is in Kindergarten this year, they have a grandparents day Oct 23.  Every year BIL comes down (they live near IL's) with his kids to go to the Zoo right before Halloween.  MIL sent me an e-mail asking when we are going to the zoo, she has not said if she is coming for grandparents day.  The zoo thing is the weekend before grandparents day (she works EOW) It is also the grandparents day weekend but DS won't be home that weekend that is why we were planning on the weekend before the 23rd.  I'm scared that when I tell her it is the weekend before, they'll invite themselves down then and not come to Kaitlyn's grandparents day.  Sorry this is long and I am probably overthinking this.  I don't know how to respond to her.

MelandJeff

They probably show extra effort towards DS because he isnt their bio grandkid and go over and above to make him FEEL as though he is?

I have no advice for you, as I am struggling with my own somewhat similar situation myself.

DandelionMom

Is he the oldest?  Both sets of my kids' grandparents would do anything to attend every little thing for my oldest DD but it is like pulling teeth to get a grandparent for the younger ones' events. 

I wish I knew how to handle it.  I just keep reminding them of the scheduled events and letting them know it would mean a lot if they were there.  It also helps to have the child call and invite them to things.  It is kind of sneaky but they have a hard time saying no to the kids!