what to do for my friend

snickerdoodle27

A dear friend of mine is going through an awful time. She is recently separated from her husband, and living at her parents house with her 2 kids. She just found out that her father is leaving her mother for another woman. He travels for work and evidently this affair has been going on for quite some time. Needless to say, my friend is devastated. I just got off the phone with her, she was in tears. I told her to let me know what she needs and I'll do it. If it's a place to stay, whatever. I just feel like it's not enough. Is there anything more I can do? She pushes herself so hard. She's at work today even though she was up all night crying. She said she just feels absolutely broken. I can't even begin to know what she's going through. I guess anything I can do to make her life easier is ok huh? Maybe a giftcard to a pizza place and ice cream for her to take the kids? I don't know...just thinking of different ideas.

EMT

Could you watch the kids so she could go get her nails done (or do something for herself)?

I like the ice cream and pizza place ideas too!

npeacock

I think you are already being a great friend. Offer to babysit so she and her mom can go out shopping or something. Take her out for a pedicure. Or maybe just cook dinner for her one night.

shellbug79

I would offer up something theraputic.  Maybe give her a journal so that she can write her feelings in it, maybe even a grateful journal so that she can write down at least 3 things that she is grateful for everyday so that she can focus on the positive instead of all the negatives around her, maybe an aromatherapy candle, lotion, or linen spray so that it can relieve some of the stress that she has.  I would also say maybe a feel good book or a fun book about being a woman.  I also like the idea of maybe one day taking the kids so that she just has time to do whatever she would like.

Michelle

karen6784

I would offer to babysit her kids to give her a break.  Instead of a gift, how about a coupon book with offers for babysitting, girls movie night, an ice cream dinner or other fun things.  I am sorry your friend is going through this.