Did anyone give their own shower?

bklyn_trini

So my 2 best friends wanted to throw my shower.  I love them but we have different styles and taste so I decided to plan my shower with them.  They will host and facilitate though.  Is that so wrong?

RoxyLynn

Seriously?

bklyn_trini

Not give it, but help plan the basics- like telling your friends what you like and don't like?

krissyh21

What about "It is the thought that counts". I really do not get why it is such a big deal to have duck napkins over plain pink ones or purple balloons over grey. REALLY!

Hand over the invite list/addresses and sit back and enjoy what people are doing FOR you. In the end what should matter is the people there wishing you and your new child well not what surrounds those people.

 

 

 

(Wonders how many people who micro-manage their baby showers were bridezillas as well)

hopefulmom

krissy...had to laugh at your added note at the bottom.  So true. 

No...I did not give my own shower(s) (I had 4 actually).  For my first DD I had 3 and had nothing to do with any of them.  For my 3rd child we had moved (new friends, new church) and a friend gave me a surprise shower so of course I had nothing to do with it.  I thought I was going to a Tupperware party.  I wondered why my DH didn't think I should wear jeans!  lol

I don't think the mom-to-be should have so much involvement...unless asked.  If the hostess wants help or advice and asks then obviously you can give  your opinions or ideas.  More than that...and it would be too much...JMO.

emmyloustu

My mom, my aunt and my BFF are hosting my shower out of state, but I have been very involved per my mom's request. She knows I am kinda picky and she is not great with online shopping, etsy etc... I gave my mom input on shower colors to match my nursery bedding,  I picked out and ordered my invites on etsy & I picked out and ordered the favor tags on etsy. My hostesses chose the location, menu, cake, centerpieces favors etc...and although I know they all match the sage and chocolate brown theme the final products will be a surprise.

I am having a couple's shower locally and for convenience reasons, it is being held at our home so I am even more involved in some ways and not in others.

I think it is to each her own and totally depends on the relationship with the hosts. If my mom hadn't asked me, I would have probably kept my nose out of it. 

EastCoastBride

In the end, as long as you aren't listed as a host and no one knows- who cares.

But really?  Y ou can't just sit back and let them do this for you?  It's a party THEY are throwing.  I'ts not a wedding, it's a shower.

RoxyLynn

A shower for a FIFTH baby???  Unbelievable.

jshf

My sister and sister-in-laws offered to throw me a shower.  But we wanted to do a co-ed one and to invite everyone we wanted, so we ended up doing most of the planning.  We also wanted to cater and not make my family or my DH's family pay for it, so we are paying for almost everything.  They are bringing some deserts and the cake.  We are also having it at our house, because my sister and SIL's live far from most of our friends.  So even though I'd much rather let my family deal with everything and not have to stress out about everything, we couldn't avoid doing most of it.  

I thought that we were being considerate of our families by planning and paying for the shower.  But I've read a lot of posts where people get flamed for hosting their own.  Some people act like the only reason to have a shower is to ask your friends and family for presents.  Our families are very generous with gifts and I didn't want to make them incur more expenses by hosting a party for 50 of our friends and family.  And everyone we invited is close to us, so I know that they would have bought us gifts and then planned a shower for me if we weren't having one.  So IMO, I don't think it's wrong to be involved.  

Jennifer Hassan

due to the size of our families and friend my shower will host about 100 or more ladies....ridiculous I know...so we are renting the the club house at the country club.... My husband wants to pick up the tab for the food... and my girlfriends will split the cake, favors,decorations,cost of games etc....

querylove

My mother in law is hosting my shower but she doesnt have anyone to help her, I dont have many friends and shes not that close to our family, so I will be helping.  This way also the guests dont all show up and have to do everything as has happened.  I think that helping so that you have a great day is fine. 

amberelisabeth07

My mom and best friend our throwing me the shower but I am also helping. I don't see anything wrong with you wanting to put some imput on it. I am also having mine at 23 weeks but only because I live in Germany and don't plan on taking a 12 hour flight after this until lo. I think it all depends on you.