It's silly that this bothers me

kklickka

...but DH calls me Mommy all the time.  It wouldn't bother me every once in awhile - I think it would be kind of cute - but the fact that he does it every.single.time. he talks to me bugs me.  I want to say: I'm still your wife, not just your child's mother!  We used to call each other Baby or Babe, and when he says something like "I love you, Mommy" I always say, "I love you too, Baby" thinking he might get the hint, but he hasn't.  It's not worth getting all emotional over so I don't necessarily want to bring it up, but grrrr...it gets to me.

Aliliv

DH does this too, and it is the biggest turn off ever....   I tell him that, sometimes he remembers not to call me mommy........

Natalie27

I think it's almost a reminder to them that they are really daddy's now!! DH calls me mommy every once in a while, but I do get the occasional babe, which is nice.

thatgirlang

My first question- Why are you dropping hints with your husband instead of just saying something?

Second- does he do this just in front of the baby or all the time now? It makes sense to do it for childrens' sake but it needs to be controlled, too... take my parents as an example of why you need to say something. They STILL call each other mommy and daddy... and I am 31 years old! It is so so SO embarassing. LOL

 

nuestra _boda

I think you should bring it up before you get more annoyied

cedens

aww haha i think i know how you feel- dh doesnt do it all the time but when he does, its weird- cute at first, not so much anymore haha

they are just excited- maybe it will pass?  my parents do call each other mommy and daddy when they are talking to us and refering to each other haha- but not if they are talking to each other

thatgirlang

Oh. And I should also say that DH and I have always referred to eachother as mommy and daddy in front of DS1 but called eachother by names in front of him as well. So, I'd say to him, "Give it to daddy." But then I'd say, "Here, Scott."

And last week he started calling us Angie Mommy and Scott Daddy. LOL

kklickka

thatgirlang:

My first question- Why are you dropping hints with your husband instead of just saying something?

Second- does he do this just in front of the baby or all the time now? It makes sense to do it for childrens' sake but it needs to be controlled, too... take my parents as an example of why you need to say something. They STILL call each other mommy and daddy... and I am 31 years old! It is so so SO embarassing. LOL

 

I tend to get really emotional, and I don't want to cause a big issue over something that isn't really that big of a deal.

And yeah, he does it all the time, not just in front of the baby.  I call him Daddy sometimes, too, but only if I'm talking for Noah - I'll be holding N and say, "Daddy, will you make me a bottle?"  like Noah is the one saying it, if that makes sense. 

mommy411

Just tell him.He IS your husband! I don't see the big deal in letting your DH know something bothers you. What is he going to do leave?

thatgirlang

I understand...

But I hate to see something bothering you that you can't bring up. Since you are aware that you get emotional maybe you can say something and preface it with what you're telling us, "Ok, this is not a HUGE deal and I don't want to get emotional about it but there's this little thing that's annoying me that I want to get off my chest...."

If NOT, well good luck. Know that you're not alone. A lot of people lose their identity, so to speak, with their partners when they have kids. Just hope you get your name (or terms of endearment like "baby") back before your kid is 30.

PhoenixsMom

Just tell him you don't like it. He's your husband. If something is making you uncomfortable, let him know.

DarcyLongfellow

Can't you just make a joke about it? Either pretend like you're looking for HIS mom when he says it, or just smile and say "since when am I your mom?"

Mike&Care

I would not make it a big deal. Instead tease him a little like "geez babe, you don't have to call me Mommy all the time. I am still your sexy wife!". Then if he still doesn't get the hint, I'd be like "no seriously, it's a little weird babe!" I'd keep it light and bring it up when you are both in good moods and he has just said it.

kaylenpar1

DH calls me mommy and I call him daddy, but only when we're talking to the baby.  Otherwise it's Hon or Babe.  Talk to him about it.  Maybe he's still just excited that you're parents.  I just hope he doesn't want you to call him Daddy when the baby's not around, lol!

CalinsBride

That would bother me a lot. You're going to end up one of those old couples whose kids are grown up and still calling each other mom and dad. It's weird. Tell him to stop.