Got our first "shut up" from Nora last night

cooker71

I was NOT amused. It was in the middle of yet another crying fit over something ridiculous, so I put her in timeout on the steps and told her we don't talk like that to people in this house. I wouldn't let her come down until she apologized.

Do you think I did the right thing?? I REALLY want to nip this backtalking, etc. in the bud. And while I know part of it is her age, I don't want her to be a mouthy brat! 

hikerbeth

I think you did the right thing.  We're pretty strict about backtalking (or even eye-rolling and non-verbal rudeness).

She gets warned and then put in her room 'til she apologizes.

joseysbride

That's exactly what I would have done.  While Rory hasn't said that, there have been plenty of "no's" with a foot stomp and attitude lately, and I do the same for that.  Oh, and my newest favorite is sticking her tongue out at me when I asked her to do something last night.  Lovely.

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Yes you did the right thing.  Lorelei gets timeouts for back talking. You gotta nip it in the bud.  I am thinking that 3 is the worst (at least it is worse than so called terrible two's).  They are so smart and they live to test us - try to push the limits.

Halo79RN

Ragdoll72:

Yes you did the right thing.  Lorelei gets timeouts for back talking. You gotta nip it in the bud.  I am thinking that 3 is the worst (at least it is worse than so called terrible two's).  They are so smart and they live to test us - try to push the limits.

ditto... at three they have reasons for what they want , try to negotiate, talk back .. ugh.   I think you did the right thing.  I correct dd and then either send her to her room or ignore her... but don't argue with her.. oh my!  that could be trouble.  dd has spent a lot of time in her room in the last month or so.  sass.  she says something mean or talks back and I just say, "I don't want to play with you when you say things like that."  and I walk away.   something to say that what she says is hurtful and the effect of her actions is that people won't think she's cute and fun.. they won't want to be near her.   harsh , maybe??  but it works.  

femmegem

Alex has taken to telling me I'm stupid when he's overtired. I love that.

I deal with it by saying calmly we don't talk to people like that and then moving on. But I don't think you were too harsh.

femmegem

Halo79RN:

Ragdoll72:

Yes you did the right thing.  Lorelei gets timeouts for back talking. You gotta nip it in the bud.  I am thinking that 3 is the worst (at least it is worse than so called terrible two's).  They are so smart and they live to test us - try to push the limits.

ditto... at three they have reasons for what they want , try to negotiate, talk back .. ugh.   I think you did the right thing.  I correct dd and then either send her to her room or ignore her... but don't argue with her.. oh my!  that could be trouble.  dd has spent a lot of time in her room in the last month or so.  sass.  she says something mean or talks back and I just say, "I don't want to play with you when you say things like that."  and I walk away.   something to say that what she says is hurtful and the effect of her actions is that people won't think she's cute and fun.. they won't want to be near her.   harsh , maybe??  but it works.  

I do that, too.

pincushions

Well I have 2 mouthy brats! I would really just stay consistent with it. It is hard with 2 screaming and balk talking and I know I slip/ignore and it only comes back to bite me in the ass.