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Feeling Horrible :(
Claire had day 3 of preschool today. ?She screamed, cried, and clung to me when it was time to say good-bye. ?They literally had to pry her off me and I could hear her screaming all the way down the street. ?I called a couple of times to check in on her. ?She cried off and on the entire time she was there. ?She refused to go to gym and never left the teacher's side. She even tried to convince the teacher to driver her home! ? She would not play with toys or other kids. ?Her face was plastered against the window when I pulled up to pick her up. ?She said she's never going back and that she just wants to stay home with me. ?I feel so torn. ?Part of me says not to give in. ?To give it time and she will get it. ?The other part of me isn't sure how hard to push. ?Maybe she's just too young. ?She doesn't go back until next Tuesday. ?I am scared to death of Tues morning. ?:(
Claire Avery born at 32 weeks on 10/25/06
Keira Leigh born at 27 weeks on 4/29/08
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Re: Feeling Horrible :(
i'm sorry! how awful!
my SIL had the same issue with my nephew (and just yesterday started with my other nephew!). i swear - it gets better. spend a lot of time talking it up and talking about all the fun things she gets to do that you don't and that she can only do at preschool between now and tuesday. that really seemed to help with SIL. also, make sure you make a big deal about how so and so goes to preschool and now she's a big girl just like them! and be sure to ask the teachers for suggestions, they've been through this a thousand times.
hang in there - you can both get through this!!!!! (((hugs)))
props to claire for trying to get her teacher to drive her home! what a smart girl!
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I totally feel for you. I had a similar day at Nicky's 2nd day of Pre School today. I'm terrified of what Tuesday is going to bring for me.
Best wishes and hopefully we will both have okay days.
I see ur in NJ - where?
Thanks guys.
My Claire is pretty funny without even trying. ?Her teacher said Claire asked her if she had a car. ?The teacher said, "Yes, it's in the parking lot". and Claire supposedly said, "Good. ?Get your keys. ?You're driving me home." ?(Verbal skills have always been Claire's strongest skill!)
Thank you for the advice. ?I'm going to try my hardest to stick with it. ?
Kimmie....I am in South Jersey (Gloucester County), but I grew up in Hunterdon/Warren Counties. ?Where are you? ?(And good luck on Tuesday! ?Page me and we can swap stories!!)?
I'm so sorry Mcdev! That must be soooo hard. It was hard when I took Ruby to my aunt's for the first time and when I picked her up she was crying her eyes out (which she never did at the time)! So I can relate, but I'm sure it's even harder because Claire can tell you how she feels!
Honestly, I think it's probably a little like sleep training though. You have to get over the hump those first few days/weeks so that they can learn to be secure and happy even when they aren't by your side? I would give it a little time before you decide, and hopefully she start to love it like many kids do.
Good luck! And have you tried bribery?
I'm so sorry - that's hard. Big hugs to both of you.
Personally I would give it a little more time. Maybe a couple of more weeks.
Dominic started preschool when he was about 2 1/2 years old. For the first 3-4 months he insisted on carrying his lunchbox with him everywhere. The playground, the classroom, etc. It was his safety item. He cried everyday for almost 2 years. It sucked but I kept taking him (I had to for work) and over time he got to the point where he only cried for about 5 seconds).
Good luck!
My preemie (born at 34wks5days.......now 4 1/2) had a really hard time adjusting to preschool last year....to the point where she would literally try to chase me down the halls. I had to have DH start taking her because she reacted a little better with him dropping her off rather than me (maybe less of an attachment thing) but we just kinda had to stick with it...it took almost a full month for her to not cry in the mornings and almost a full 2 months for her to not constantly talk about wanting to stay home with me (which wasn't an option because I worked then) I don't know if she just kinda gave in and started to open up to everything and enjoy her self, or if she started to make friends...or what but on the last day of school last year she was SO disappointed that it was summer time! now she LOVES school and actually gets pretty irritated with me when they have 1/2 days or no school LOL.
hang in there mama...if you have faith in the place you picked adn you know in your heart its the best place for your baby to be right now...then just give it time and all will work out in the end
Thank you, everyone! ?I'm going to try my hardest to stick it out. ?She only goes twice a week (every Tues & Thurs). ?I'm dreading Tuesday. ?I have never experienced anything like this morning's drop off. ?It was HORRIBLE. ?You would have thought I was killing her with the way she carried on. ?
Claire HATES change and always has. ?She likes routine and takes a long time to warm up to new situations. ?With that said, she is still extremely social. ?She Loves other kids, is very verbal, smart, and has a great sense of humor. ?It just takes her time to warm up. ?Even when we go to a playdate, to a house we've been to a million times, she wants to sit on my lap for the first hour to get comfortable with her surroundings. ?This is one of the reasons why I wanted to start preschool. ?To get her out of her comfort zone and introduce her to new things without having me to cling to. ?I just didn't expect it to be so emotional and painful an experience. ?She says she is "not ever going back to that place" ?because she "already did it." ?My stomach is in knots just thinking about the next drop off.
Oh no! I'm sorry it was rough on her and you. ((HUGS))