Funk ~ Help?

angel13

Hey ladies ~

I am in this funk....and can't seem to shake it.  VERY UNLIKE ME!  I am usually the one bringing people up and I can't even do it to myself. 

I am at the end of my 2ww and just KNOW that AF is going to show up soon.  I don't have ANY PG SYMPTOMS....so although I am trying to remain positive.....it is hard.

When you are in a funk.....what helps to bring you out of it?

LOVEDBYD

joyfulnature

Hi, Angel.

Funks are hard. I'm sorry you're going through one. Like you, I'm generally the upbeat person in the group, but I, too, have been where you are in this process.

What helps me:

-I take stock of all the wonderful things in my life already. Four years after we met, finding DH still feels like a miracle to me. We are really perfect for each other, and he was so worth waiting for. We have great families and friends. We are blessed with good health. We laugh a lot. All good things!

 -I do something absorbing and not TTC related that I like:Go for a walk in the woods, read a great book, watch a favorite movie. Cook or bake.  A night out with the girls is ALWAYS a good thing...provided the girls aren't expecting, which can be a little tough when you're in a funk.

-Work usually distracts me.

-I remind myself regularly, funk or no, that when it comes to TTC, there is only so much that's in  my control (and that's the fun part. heh heh). There really isn't much I can do to control when, or if, the BFP happens. Related to that, but slightly different: There's no sense in trying to guess if I am or am not KU'd in any particular cycle. Pregnancy symptoms are pretty much like AF symptoms. And some people have NO symptoms at all when they get their BFP.

-Those few things I can do, I do: I walk every day. I take my pre-natal. I limit myself (99.9 percent of the time) to one cup of coffee, etc. I say to me: "Good job! You've done what you can!"

-I remind myself that I WILL be a mom one day. I don't know if it will be through medical intervention, natural miracle, or the miracle of adoption. But it will happen.

Hope that helps a little.

((((hugs)))

FrannyS

I take comfort in knowing I have a really happy solid marriage, despite where this takes us.  Also my dogs comfort me more than one can imagine.

MDBeachbride

alcohol

angel13

joyfulnature:

Hi, Angel.

Funks are hard. I'm sorry you're going through one. Like you, I'm generally the upbeat person in the group, but I, too, have been where you are in this process.

What helps me:

-I take stock of all the wonderful things in my life already. Four years after we met, finding DH still feels like a miracle to me. We are really perfect for each other, and he was so worth waiting for. We have great families and friends. We are blessed with good health. We laugh a lot. All good things!

 -I do something absorbing and not TTC related that I like:Go for a walk in the woods, read a great book, watch a favorite movie. Cook or bake.  A night out with the girls is ALWAYS a good thing...provided the girls aren't expecting, which can be a little tough when you're in a funk.

-Work usually distracts me.

-I remind myself regularly, funk or no, that when it comes to TTC, there is only so much that's in  my control (and that's the fun part. heh heh). There really isn't much I can do to control when, or if, the BFP happens. Related to that, but slightly different: There's no sense in trying to guess if I am or am not KU'd in any particular cycle. Pregnancy symptoms are pretty much like AF symptoms. And some people have NO symptoms at all when they get their BFP.

-Those few things I can do, I do: I walk every day. I take my pre-natal. I limit myself (99.9 percent of the time) to one cup of coffee, etc. I say to me: "Good job! You've done what you can!"

-I remind myself that I WILL be a mom one day. I don't know if it will be through medical intervention, natural miracle, or the miracle of adoption. But it will happen.

Hope that helps a little.

((((hugs)))

This is PERFECT!  Thank you!

angel13

Thank you ladies......the only one that I won't take you up on (just yet) is the alcohol.  I have done a completely alcohol free cycle.  Didn't think I could....but I did it. 

Thanks again and have a great day!

If anybody else has any insight....please let me know.

 

GBW

Hi Angel,

I think all of the ladies have given wonderful advice!  I do many of the things that they have suggested, but a few additional things that have helped me are:

I started keeping a gratuity journal where I record all of the things I am grateful for in life each day - after about a month of doing this, I was finding that I wasn't having many "bad" days or days that I was in a funk anymore.  I started to see that each day was truly a gift and that I didn't need to focus on anything but the positives in my life.

After about 22 cycles of TTC (I'm now on cycle 26), crying every month was just no longer an option for me (just too many months of stress, sadness, hurt, etc.).  I started to focus on "living in the moment" only.  I focus on the actual moment I am in and I do not allow my emotions to get the best of me by dwelling on the past (whether the past is 5 minutes ago, 5 weeks ago, or 5 months ago).

And I never focus on the future - I just enjoy each moment.  I won't lie, this was very hard to do at first, but it has paid off tremendously for my well-being.  Honestly, by doing this, I've regained a lot of joy in my life and I haven't shed one tear when AF has shown up for the last three months!

I hope the rest of your day is much better and I hope you feel better too! 

taratru

I just wrote in my blog about an actual act that helped me get out of mine.  I know what you mean, though.  It's hard to be in that place.  Hugs to you.

hollymichael

Thank you for this post. I have been feeling the same way.  I will be referring back to these responses frequently to help get me out of my own funk.

So, see without even trying, you managed to help me.  That should make you feel good about yourself.

I hope some of these ideas work for you and you feel better!