potty training advice NEEDED!

whitedress11

dd will use the bathroom/tiolet everytime she has to urinate.... but will not for the life of her poopy on the potty. she will hold it in... until it hurts. i have asked her why... she said she doesn't like to poopy on the potty. is this normal? she wears underwear all day.... and will even go without asking... but the moment i put on her nighttime diaper she poops. i swear if i did not  put it on.... she will hold it. any advice?

by the way, i am laughing at my own post.

sweetie1528

OMG she is so cute!

I want to see the responses.  we are going through the same thing!

Temp108743750006959

I'd tell her its ok to go in her diapers for a week or so and then address it again.

can she get a treat if she does it - or even tries to poop on the potty? can you sit and read to her while she tries?

KellyMichelle

My DS did the same thing for quite a while.  I really think it just takes time for them to get used to it.  One day I was talking to DS about it and told him that his friend pooped on the potty.  He said that he could do it too and then he did.  I think we could have had that same conversation a month earlier and he wouldn't have cared. 

LestaMarie

Girl - I have been there and I feel your pain.  Ava JUST started pooping on the potty (and still holds it in from time to time), but was terrible...she would hold on until it was unbearable, and only wanted to go in a pull-up.  She just decided a couple of weeks ago that she wanted to go on the potty, and has been doing pretty well ever since.  But I can't really say what changed her.   

There are stool softening tabs at Walgreens (they're Walgreens brand) that are safe for all people ages 2 and up.  I have been giving those to Ava and she has been going great.  Maybe something like this, to soften/loosen things up, would help her.  One thing I still have to do with Ava is, if I know she's holding it in, I'll tell her it's time to sit on the potty, and we're going to sit for five minutes.  Then I'll give her her "privacy" in the bathroom - if she goes, great.  If not, I praise her for sitting there and giving it a shot.  It has to be HER decision.  Trying to force her (not saying you are, but I tried) will just bite back at you.

Sorry for the novel.  This was a hellish experience for us and one of the biggest milestones we've overcome with Ava.

Mominator

Been there and it is hard. I decided to just let DD poop in a pull up if that is what she wanted for a while. She was in panties all day but would ask for a pull up to poop. This was after 2 weeks of her holding it until she made herself physically ill and I decided that it just wasn't worth it. Then, one night during bath she said she had to poop, got out of the tub, got on the toilet and pooped and never looked back. From what I've read, there is something about the warm bath that helps to relax them and makes it easier for them to go. Good luck.

j_hope

DD is doing this too.  She goes pee on the potty just fine, but absolutely refuses to go poop on the potty (she seems deathly afraid)!  We tried buying her some really awesome princess incentive toys that have been sitting in our bathroom for over a month.  We've tried talking to her about pooping on the potty and even having her watch us, but nothing is helping her fear.  At this point, like all the other pp's...we only put her in a pull up during naps and night time and that's when she's relaxed enough to poop.  I'm picking my battles and instead of having her hold it and get constipated....I'm hoping that in time she will come around on her own and start initiating to poop on the potty.  According to DD's doctor this is a very normal occurance for some children (to withhold their bowel movements while toilet training).

ppants

DD pooped in her underwear the first three days in a row of PTing.  She would cry and be upset, but I told her it's ok and to try to go in the potty.  She finally did and we made a huge deal out of it...two stickers (usually only 1 for pee), called gma and gpa, etc.  You could make it harder for her to hold it by using juice or something and try that.  I honestly think if she did it just once she'd be good with it from then on.  GL!