How long should I wait?

MamaMyers22

Today is my 8th wedding anniversary.  DH and I have been a little snappy at each other lately, especially this morning.  He complains that I yell at him all the time. I admit that I do, but it's because he questions everything I say or doesn't listen to me so I have to repeat myself constantly.  I guess I should be more tolerant but always having to explain my decisions or reasons is irritating.

Neither one of us has said Happy Anniversary.  I know he's waiting for me to say it, but maybe he should.  I'm usually not petty, but for some reason this time I think he should be the one to make the effort.   

adamwife

Be the bigger person!! 

And congrats on 8 years!  That's awesome Mama!

Janimal

Whoa.  I think whether or not to wish each other "Happy Anniversary" isn't really the problem.

CA2006

I agree with AW.  It's 8 years of marriage...the little things should be put aside for today, at least.  Congratulations!!

MamaMyers22

adamwife:

Be the bigger person!! 

And congrats on 8 years!  That's awesome Mama!

I know, I know.

Thanks AW, it's been a long 8 years, but totally worth it. 

Fish4Fun

Happy anniversary!  8 years, wow!

I can totally understand not wanting to be the first one to give in.  If he doesn't break within an hour after you are both home together, fall back on "I'm sorry that you're upset."  That one's classic.

I bet he'll cave though.  Men are weak.
 

Lulu0802

How sweet... you got married on my birthday!    LOL!

For the sake of anniversaries... say it first if he won't.  Then kiss and make up.

kada626

I would say it first and then point out I'm the better spouse because I did...lol

MamaMyers22

Janimal:

Whoa.  I think whether or not to wish each other "Happy Anniversary" isn't really the problem.

ITA, the 3rd baby has really put out relationship through the wringer.  It's so hard to make a little time for just the two of us.  We both are stubborn, and I was just hoping that for once he'd give in a little. 

GASuzuki

Aw, Mama! Just say it. Your heart will feel better for it. Happy Anniversary!

NatPhoto09

MamaMyers22:

Janimal:

Whoa.  I think whether or not to wish each other "Happy Anniversary" isn't really the problem.

ITA, the 3rd baby has really put out relationship through the wringer.  It's so hard to make a little time for just the two of us.  We both are stubborn, and I was just hoping that for once he'd give in a little. 

you don't have to explain yourself.  Marriage and babies are hard work and you have made it 8 years and 3 beautiful children.  Congrats!   I would want my DH to say it first too but you can be the better person and say it.  He'll soften then and you can celebrate it.  GL