When I have my little girl ...

skylined21

... there is a 90% chance i will deliver her at 37-38 weeks via scheduled c-sec due to a complete previa ... and i know i need to do that what's best for me and baby ... but i feel as though i am getting cheated out of the whole giving birth expierence ... does that make sense or do i sould crazy?

Shelby14

I can definitely understand why you would feel that way. Although (as you wrote) you will do what is best for the health of you and the baby it isn't the kind of birth you were hoping for. I think I would feel the same way. 

StarryNight39

Well first of all you're only 20 weeks, you have 20 more weeks to see if you're placenta will move, which it most likely will. I had complete previa all the way up till 36 weeks but mine moved in time and I delivered naturally.

BUT, if it doesn't move, it's not a big deal. All that matters is that the baby gets out in the safest way. I wouldn't be counting yourself out for a vaginal birth yet.

Kingston54

I have heard before that girls who have c-sections feel deprived of the giving birth experience.  Personally, I will just be happy to get the baby here in the safest way possible!

avbliss

That would be hard for any woman who was looking forward to giving birth. But you do have to do what's best for baby, and if that's a c-section then you have to do what you have to do. And many women have natural births after c-sections, so just because she can't be delivered naturally doesn't mean future children can't be. I want a completely natural birth, but I keep telling myself I want a healthy baby most, and if my birth experience doesn't go exactly to plan, that it's okay as long as she's healthy. I would try to prepare myself for that now, so that way you don't fall into a depression later.

caholland

I understand how you feel. I had to have a c-section with my first because of a hand presentation. While they were in there, they noted a vertical thin spot in my uterus so my doc is recommending a repeat c-section this time around also. He plans to take the baby at 39 weeks because he doesn't know if my ute can withstand heavy contractions. Anyway...I know what you are saying...I feel as if I've missed out twice. But in the end, a healthy baby and a healthy mama is what matters. Good luck!

urbanwifey

I def felt cheated out of my 'birth' experienced with my first c/s.  1. the placenta can always move and 2. there's always the VBAC-  I'm praying hard for mine.

ScissorTailedFlycatcher

My grandmother always encourage my mom and I to have c-sections because "those are the prettiest babies."?

At least your baby won't be a conehead like the rest of ours. ;-)?

Chaneltara

It makes perfect sense, but just remember it's not the journey but the destination. Either way the baby comes out, you are giving life to a beautiful little baby!

CKLee1107

Both!  I can completely understand the feeling of being cheated out of this process that seems so 'hand in hand' with all the rest of the fun stuff we go through to get there.  The flip side, crazy that we want to get to that 'reward' of labor at the end of all this fun stuff we go through to get there...lol..wow, talk about a toss up...I think its a good statement to leave it as whatever is needed to get baby out safely...

bklynjuli

Hi, I don't have any great advice for you. I had a section with my 1st child, and I was very happy that he was born healthy and beautiful, but I had a terrible labor and wound up having my section under twilight anasthesia because the epidural didn't take (I also had spinal headaches after). The good news is, if you wind up having the scheduled c-section, your experience will most likely be far better than women who have emergency sections. You'll be able to plan for help while you're recovering (my sincere advice is to take all the help you can, and also all the pain meds offered to you).

 And you will bond with your baby, you can start breastfeeding right away if you want, with the help of pillows and the right positioning. I had some of the baby blues after my son's birth (maybe boardering on full blown PPD)...I was kinda unhappy for a good long while and you should make sure you have a support system around you.

 Also, I am now trying to do a trial of labor with my second pregnancy. With an OB and hospital that are willing to try VBAC, your first section doesn't mean you always have to have a section after. Check out the International Cesarean Awareness network, www.ican-online.org for more info on that. Finally, don't let anyone make you feel like less of a woman or mother because you had a section. I went through 31 hours of labor with my son before I was sectioned, and I think that the recovery from the c-section was harder than my labor was, so I give myself full credit for that :-).

 Take care, and have a happy and healthy pregnancy and birth!